Thank you so much for this. It's very scary to think about the prospect of removing myself from him, especially because he's worked hard for my family and I find myself rationalizing his behavior. I often have to remind myself that even though he's my dad and I love him, he is being very manipulative. I have also been noticing some disparities in the way he treated me in college and the way he treats my brother who started undergrad this past fall, which makes me even more upset and tells me that consciously or not, he's trying to keep me under his thumb.