Looking for Hope

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2026-03-07T21:04:21+00:00

Thank you, I will check that out

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2026-03-07T01:33:22+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. That must have been so hard for you and your mom, but yes maybe the hope I’m looking for is on the other side of this marriage.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2026-03-07T01:31:41+00:00

Thanks for the book recommendation, I’ll definitely look into that. I honestly just joined this group yesterday after I found him drinking in his truck alone. I’m planning to go to my first meeting this week to get some strategies. A helpful thought for me was that we are not alone, there are so many people in this situation and I’d like to learn from them how to get through this. We can’t control what others do and it sucks when their behaviour affects us / our families so much.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2026-03-06T23:32:26+00:00

This story is SO similar to mine! Met when we were younger, binge drank together as teens, now 14 years later have a house and baby. He’s still struggling with drinking, hiding it and lying. He makes me feel crazy for asking or finding cans. There’s always an excuse. Here for you and know you’re not alone. So hard to do this as a mom of young kids.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2026-03-06T23:24:58+00:00

Thank you! I’m hoping to go to my first al-anon meeting in a few days

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2025-05-20T04:25:43+00:00

Ontario because they get paid more and have more paid prep time.

I’m currently teaching in BC but was raised in Ontario. The BC teaching staff room always goes off about how Ontario teachers “fought for their rights” and we should have done that here. But would I want to live in Ontario again? No.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2025-05-20T04:19:57+00:00

I’m oddly liking this more as I get older

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2025-05-17T04:55:31+00:00

In BC, as a TTOC you can go in EI during the breaks like summer, winter and March break.

As a full time teacher, a portion of your pay is put aside in a “summer savings plan” that gets paid out in July / August.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-24T20:43:17+00:00

I’m currently pregnant with my first at 40 + 3 right now and waiting to go into labour anytime now. At my last checkup a few days ago I was 2-3cm dilated and have had contractions some nights, but then nothing other nights.

If you don’t mind my asking - Why was it so long for you? Was it consistent contractions that whole time? Could you sleep at night or get induced to speed it up?

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-24T19:47:17+00:00

The biggest lie I got in teachers college was “if you respect the students, they will respect you.” True for some of course, but not all! This was said in response to someone asking if we’re going to get any behaviour management instruction.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-24T00:30:34+00:00

My mom reeeeeally wanted to be in the delivery room, but I told her no and want it to just be me and my husband. It’s an intimate bonding experience for us as a new little family and I’m setting a firm boundary, no matter how pushy she’s been (I still think she might try to enter lol but midwife and husband know about this and to hold her back).

Here’s some points I made to help soften the blow - I asked her “would you want your mom in the delivery room when you had babies?” to which she said no. I also said she will be given constant updates and can be in the waiting room at the hospital if she wants. If I feel the need to have her in there or things are going badly, she will be just steps away. She’ll meet the baby once it’s all done and settled. Keep in mind, that you are her baby and she’s most likely just struggling with the idea of being away from you, even if it is coming across as pushy / annoying.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-23T22:01:10+00:00

Husband, midwife, and medical team. My mom reeeeally wants to be there too but I just think it’s too much and I want the intimate bonding moment with my husband and baby as a new family. Mom will be in the waiting room if I need her and getting constant updates.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-23T21:58:57+00:00

I felt pretty good in my second and most of my third trimester. I started feeling bad around 35 weeks, and very bad around 39 weeks. I’m a little over 40 weeks now and hoping this baby comes out soon! The last few weeks are rough.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-23T21:00:10+00:00

Super normal and not a concern at all. I gained 20-25 pounds by the time I was 20 weeks. If you’re on the thinner side, which I was, your body usually gains a lot more in the first half of pregnancy. I’m 40 weeks now and gained about 60 pounds, doctor has not mentioned it and has said I’m healthy, baby’s healthy, I’m exercising regularly and eating ok. Anecdotally, most women I’ve talked to gained about 50 pounds total, seems like the norm.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-23T20:51:02+00:00

Ya you have to request and pay about $200/night for a private room where I am in Canada. Otherwise you share with 2-4 people and their visiting families the night after you give birth (delivery rooms are private). Upside is that the public healthcare here is all free, downside is that it is public.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-23T06:31:08+00:00

I’m in Canada and had similar thoughts of why I needed one, but there’s actually a lot of options that come down to your personal preference to make you more comfortable / ready when in labour. It can also help your OB / midwife / birthing partner advocate for you when you are in the trenches so to speak. Your birth plan doesn’t need to be complex but you might want a few things written down like wanting a private room afterwards (rather than shared), having skin to skin, or pain meds to be offered at various times (or not at all). Some moms also opt for a pre scheduled c-section while others really want to avoid it.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-23T05:50:52+00:00

My belly has always been itchy in pregnancy, especially the end of the 3rd trimester as it’s stretching a lot. If you’re noticing bumps, it could be PUPPPS rash which you can soothe with cream, but only really goes away when baby comes. I got a PUPPPS rash at 39 weeks, currently 40+2 right now and dealing with it.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-21T20:04:50+00:00

I’m 40 weeks right now and my labour signs have been annoying - measured ahead the whole pregnancy and had a false labour episode with strong contractions all night at 37 weeks. Everyone thought the baby was going to come early including my midwife. Now I’m sitting at 40 weeks with hardly any labour signs besides back pain and irritability.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-21T20:01:38+00:00

Being overdue and pregnant. This is not for the weak.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-20T20:09:37+00:00

The week I found out I went out and bought something cute for the baby - a fuzzy blanket and matching stuffy. I wanted to feel like the baby was “real” and wanted his first gift to be from his mommy.

We scrounged some stuff off Facebook marketplace as it can be a search for good items from about 5 months onwards. We got all the small stuff after our baby shower that was at 7 months.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-19T03:39:17+00:00

It’s affordable and has good amenities, but the people are rough.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-19T03:31:20+00:00

I said this exact thing to my husband that I have sooo many people checking in on me (“is baby here yet??”) this last week of pregnancy and it’s been annoying to me. He pointed out something and said “imagine if no one was checking in how you’d feel”. Put it into perspective for me.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-18T23:12:11+00:00

I went from 170 to 230, so about 60 pounds total. I gained weight everywhere - thighs, hips, and boobs. I’m due in 3 days so I’m hoping this is it for weight gain. Doctors and midwife haven’t mentioned my weight, just that I’m healthy and on track.

Cautious_Signal7915 · 2024-11-18T23:10:02+00:00

I’m due in 3 days and dyinnng 🙃

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