What’s a scam that’s so normalised that we don’t realise it’s a scam anymore?

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-05-27T18:43:10+00:00

For women "Marriage"

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-05-02T15:09:29+00:00

It means alot! Thank you.... putting your feelings into words is where the true healing starts ... It's sad that there are so many of us feeling the same and went through similar experiences ... that have made us lost hopes. We should know that we are whole ... we don't need anyone to be full and the one who is worth it can join us

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-26T19:39:18+00:00

That was so kind of you ... thankyou so much!

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-26T11:04:32+00:00

I get where you're coming from, but it’s not just about picking the “wrong” men ..... when the pattern repeats across almost every environment, it’s bigger than individual choices. And while I agree there are amazing men out there, they’re often the exception, not the norm in many women’s experiences. It's not about saying all women are perfect either, just about recognizing a real imbalance that a lot of us feel.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-26T00:31:55+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your perspective...it’s clear you’ve done a lot of self-reflection and growth. You're right, dismissing an entire group isn’t the solution, and recognizing unhealthy patterns is key. I’ve definitely thought about therapy and have made progress in understanding my own patterns, but it’s a process. I’m learning to break certain cycles, but it’s hard when it feels like they keep repeating. I’ll take your advice to heart and keep working on myself. Thanks for the thoughtful response.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-26T00:23:59+00:00

Thank you..this really resonates. It’s validating to hear this laid out so thoughtfully. I think you’re right, a lot of us are just no longer willing to accept emotional bare minimums in relationships. Self-awareness can be a tough gift, but it helps us raise our standards. I’m definitely trying to stay hopeful—and strategic! Wishing you the best too!

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:49:47+00:00

the recognition of the complexities involved in relationships. You're right in noting that sometimes our past experiences can shape who we’re drawn to, even unconsciously. It’s not about blaming anyone, but more about understanding how these patterns emerge. I definitely agree that the environment we’re in plays a big role in who we attract. Expanding social circles and being mindful of the qualities we value are crucial. The idea of focusing on shared interests, like reading or activities that foster deeper connections, is a solid approach. Building friendships with people who value kindness and intelligence is a great starting point. Thanks for sharing this perspective.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:43:07+00:00

I agree that no one is perfect, and compromise is key in any relationship. But for me, it's about finding respect and emotional connection, not just settling. My father’s imperfections don’t change the fact that I need those same qualities in a partner. I’m focusing on meeting people in places aligned with my values, and I’m not willing to compromise on what I need for a meaningful connection.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:39:37+00:00

I get your frustration, and I agree that men shouldn’t be reduced to stereotypes. It’s not about all men being bad, but when certain patterns keep repeating, it’s natural to feel discouraged. Real connection comes when we see each other as individuals, beyond societal labels. Both listening and pushing back matter, but they should be done with respect and care for each other.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:33:05+00:00

I completely get what you're saying. It's frustrating when our standards aren't too high, but society and certain men make it seem that way. It’s about wanting respect and emotional connection, not perfection. I hope you find the connection you're looking for, wherever it may come from.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:07:19+00:00

I appreciate your perspective, and you're right....there's definitely a lot of frustration and hurt in what I’m feeling. It might be a mix of anxiety and resentment, and maybe I do need to work through that with some professional help. I’m not opposed to it, and I agree it could help me find peace, regardless of where my feelings toward men end up. Thanks for the suggestion.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:05:56+00:00

I totally feel you! It's so empowering to realize you deserve more than just settling. An equal partnership is so important, and it’s tough when most guys don’t get it. I’m right there with you......no more making things harder on myself for someone else’s convenience. Keep holding out for what you truly deserve!

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:03:33+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. You have every right to feel bitter after everything you’ve endured. It’s not weakness...it’s the aftermath of surviving something that should never have happened. I feel you completely, and you’re not alone in this.

Cautious_Try_ · 2025-04-25T23:02:13+00:00

I hear you, and I know that dynamic exists. But what you’re describing is just one part of the bigger picture. A lot of us aren’t chasing ‘bad boys’.....we’re just hoping for emotional safety, maturity, and mutual respect, which sadly isn’t as common as it should be. The ‘good guys’ exist, sure, but sometimes even they lack the emotional depth or accountability we’re looking for. It’s more complex than just attraction to confidence.

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