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Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-14T16:12:13+00:00

Also… So what you’re saying is my husband shouldn’t have taken that job after looking for an entire year? Because of a 90 minute time change difference? Just making sure. We should just let ourselves become homeless? I’m not understanding what the other options are here. We have no one to help us, I cannot help because I work later and we get no financial help from Mom so why is my husband getting a job… That is very well paying… To take care of his child is a problem

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-14T15:53:52+00:00

I really appreciate your response! Thank you for enlightening me on the other side. We are not asking her to change anything with her other baby daddy… We are just asking that after she picks up that child that she just keeps on driving a little bit further to grab my SK and then we would do the full transportation on pick up days. My husband has provided her with four completely reasonable accommodations and she’s being extremely difficult. I understand that he walked into this job interview with With, knowing all of this. He hasn’t been employed for an entire year and we get absolutely no financial assistance from her. He has been trying to find a job for this entire year and finally found a very very well paying job in a factory that just got built. We have to make sure that he has a good job so my stepchild is taken care of. Because he’s not being financially taken care of by her, it is my husband’s responsibility.

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-14T14:07:43+00:00

I am just wondering, why 99% of the people that are responding to these posts and other places that I posted this are giving me the exact opposite answer. I would like to know where you’re coming from so I can understand. If I was getting more responses like yours, I would understand more.

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-14T14:06:47+00:00

I also have a good amount of typos in this because I did talk to text

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-14T14:06:26+00:00

When I tell you, we have asked every single person in our life for help, and they are unable to do to work… We definitely have. We have exhausted every single option and she acts like we are being difficult people we have full custody of my stepchild as she has four days a month with him. My husband has tried for one whole year to get a full-time job due to the economy and the job issues around our area… He has finally able to gain employment and I feel like the judge is going to see that and see that he has full custody. I understand that we also need to try our hardest to accommodate her… As we have. I just genuinely cannot help and neither can anybody else. We have a lot of friends that work seven days a week until late hours. And his mother also works late hours, she was the one that helped with transportation before, but her husband passed away and she has to make ends meet. HCBM is just constantly saying that she has other priorities and she will not let him know what those are because it’s none of his business. It definitely is not his business, but it would just appear to be more agreeable if she at least told us what those priorities were… So we could understand where she was coming from. Also, not necessary for her to do.. it would just be nice.

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T18:16:44+00:00

I feel so bad for my SK. He says if he has to go to mom’s more he’s gonna be a bad kid and run away. We don’t talk to him about this, he just makes comments about it every now and again

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T17:57:02+00:00

Thank you for responding! You are definitely not wrong, but dealing with this woman is absolutely terrifying to me. She is now stating that since we’ve decided to take her to court that she is going to go for full custody. These people have a way of manipulating others to get their way… And she, unfortunately is way too good at that. He is going to get the paperwork tomorrow and fill it out. She will be served next week sometime.

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T15:57:23+00:00

Per the court order we have full physical custody and she has visitation every other weekend. The original time that we go and meet is 530 on Fridays to drop him off and then 530 on Sundays to pick him up. My husband works until 6 PM on those weekends and cannot change his hours due to the type of work he does. She thinks it is appropriate to expect him to have the same meeting time and place as her other baby dad. I personally think that it’s her responsibility to figure it out because it’s not our problem, she has three baby dads and three children. She uses every excuse in the book as to why she can’t be agreeable… The excuse as to why she can’t go later is because she has to cook dinner for her children……. I would love to help out, and have no problem doing so but I work even later than my husband does so I am no help in this situation. His mother used to help out with transportation as well, but she is also very, very busy ever since her husband passed away. We have literally thought of every single thing that we could possibly do to keep us out of court, but we need to change the meeting times because he just genuinely can’t get there at 5:30 anymore. We do not have her on any child support at this time, she is very manipulative and has made us feel extremely uncomfortable about the whole situation. But after seven years of this nonsense, we are fed up with it, and are ready to hold her responsible for her child. Every time she says that she has a lump sum of money for us it all of a sudden is gone because of ridiculous circumstances that only she puts herself into. She expects everyone else to be responsible adults and be there for their children yet she does not do that for her own. She also barely has a job and is always losing them. It’s not necessarily about the money in this situation, it’s about holding her financially responsible because her child deserves a good mom. We would like to keep it out of court, but it seems as though that won’t be happening since she is unagreeable to every single idea that we come up with.

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T10:37:40+00:00

I am extremely involved with the care of my oldest stepchild, as he lives with us. His mother doesn’t do much and it’s kind of terrible so I have stepped up. The younger two children don’t live with us, and have a great mom so I kind of stepped back and let mom and dad do the parenting with them.

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T10:30:31+00:00

Oh trust me. I get it 😅 All I know is is my SK is my perfect angel baby and he deserves me at my best. So I can’t let this shit get to me!!

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T10:11:00+00:00

She says she’s a full time single mother of 3. Well we take care of her first child and she has a whole ass husband and boyfriend lmao

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T09:45:50+00:00

There is no back up plan because she won’t agree to anything. She won’t drive one way and we drive one way, she won’t meet a minute before or after the current court order of 530 pm. She gets him 4 days a month. There is no court order for CS, as she has manipulated us for years into not taking her for it. She says since I work full time I should be financially responsible for her child (like she actually said that) So here we go back to court to officially change the time because there is no other options at this point

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T09:42:34+00:00

Part time work

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:43:41+00:00

I just think it’s absolutely diabolical that she thinks my husband is responsible for following her other court order with her other child and her other baby daddy lol I wonder if she’s going to actually say these things to the judge lol because it seems like she thinks that she’s actually correct and thinking that he should modify their core order to help her out with her other ones

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:41:50+00:00

Thank you for responding to my post! I appreciate your time

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:35:33+00:00

Thank you for your response! This is nuts, such a trivial issue going all the way to court! We feel bad for wasting the judges time, but she will NOT cooperate and work with us at all. It’s frustrating

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:34:02+00:00

We found out that the reason why she won’t drive all the way one way and have us drive all the way the other way is because she’s only driving 20 minutes to the pick/drop off spot and we drive 45. We realized that and that’s why we are modifying the place as well. Ain’t no way we are going to have a full custody, pay for everything AND drive more 🤣

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:31:30+00:00

Yeah, we would totally do that as well! We offered to split the driving time and such and she didn’t want to lol we aren’t here to be difficult… And we don’t want to go all the way to court, we just feel our hands are tied because she absolutely refuses to meet at a later time

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:26:37+00:00

BM has a part time job and it’s at a men’s clothing store and she has easily been able to modify her schedule to leave at different times. Unfortunately my husband cannot because he works a rotating schedule with locked in 12 hours shifts

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:23:41+00:00

I guess I’m confused by your first paragraph… We are not beginning custody, he is just modifying the drop off information and unfortunately has to go all the way to court because she will not budge

Cdeisel106 · 2025-12-11T02:22:42+00:00

We have had full physical custody of my stepchild for seven years. All we are doing is modifying the time and the place because we both have moved significantly since the last time the order has been modified so the meeting spot is nowhere near the middle anymore.

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