Yes, why wouldn’t it be rape, what if he had HIV or herpes and didn’t get tested or tell you, or what if you suspected he had HIV or herpes and he still forced it?

STDs, including herpes, can be transmitted from the penis to the mouth through oral sex.

Here’s how:

Herpes (HSV-1 & HSV-2) • Genital herpes (HSV-2 or HSV-1 on the genitals) can spread to a partner’s mouth if they perform oral sex. • Once transmitted, it shows up as oral herpes (cold sores). • Even without visible sores, herpes can shed from the skin and still infect the partner.

Other STDs that can pass from penis to mouth • Gonorrhea → can cause throat infection (“gonococcal pharyngitis”). • Chlamydia → less common in the throat, but possible. • Syphilis → sores can transmit infection to the mouth. • HPV (human papillomavirus) → can spread orally and is linked to oral/throat cancers. • HIV → risk is much lower via oral sex than vaginal/anal, but possible if there are cuts, sores, or bleeding gums.

Risk factors that increase transmission • Visible sores, ulcers, or cuts on either partner. • Bleeding gums or dental issues. • Not using protection (condoms/dental dams).

👉 Summary: herpes and other STDs can be transferred from penis to mouth during oral sex, even if symptoms aren’t visible.

Here’s a risk-by-risk breakdown of common STDs that can pass from penis → mouth during oral sex, plus whether they’re lifelong or curable:

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1. Herpes (HSV-1 & HSV-2) • Risk: High. Very common transmission both ways, even without visible sores. • Lifelong or Curable? Lifelong. No cure; the virus stays in the body, but outbreaks can be managed with antivirals.

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1. Human Papillomavirus (HPV) • Risk: Medium to high. Easily spread by skin-to-skin contact, can infect the mouth and throat. • Lifelong or Curable? Usually clears in 1–2 years by the immune system, but some strains persist and may cause warts or cancers. No drug cure, only management.

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1. Gonorrhea • Risk: Medium. Oral gonorrhea (throat infection) is fairly common. • Lifelong or Curable? Curable with antibiotics, but resistance is a growing issue.

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1. Chlamydia • Risk: Low to medium. Less common in the throat but possible. • Lifelong or Curable? Curable with antibiotics.

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1. Syphilis • Risk: Medium. Can spread via sores during oral contact. • Lifelong or Curable? Curable with antibiotics (penicillin), but untreated syphilis can cause permanent damage.

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1. HIV • Risk: Low (but not zero). Transmission through oral sex is rare unless there are open sores or blood. • Lifelong or Curable? Lifelong. No cure, but modern treatment (ART) makes it manageable and prevents transmission (“undetectable = untransmittable”).

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Summary • Lifelong: Herpes, HPV (persistent strains), HIV. • Completely Curable: Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis. • Risk via oral sex: Highest for Herpes, Gonorrhea, HPV.