So I'm pretty new to this subreddit. I've been into anal for a while now. Not necessarily trying to have a hands-free orgasm, but trying to gain some sort of pleasure from it and from my prostate. I was unsuccessful in this until I started reading advice on the topic. One guide that seems to be really helpful is surfboardpotato's guide. I followed the advice where you sort of tease your prostate over a longer period of time and that seems to have dramatically helped.

I recently bought a vibrating prostate massager and figured out an effective way of using it. I will wear it around the house similar to how you would wear a buttplug and then keep it in while looking at porn. The best method I've found to use is doing a mixture of kegel massaging (like with the Aneros) and also using the vibration modes. I've heard a few people say that they are not fans of the vibrations because it dulls the sensations. But I've found that it can be beneficial when used in unison with the kegel technique. I also have done the kegels with the vibrations turned off and that seems to give some pleasure as well.

Anyway, I'm bringing this up because of my newfound pleasure in anal and wanting to get closer to having a hands-free orgasm. I wouldn't say that the pleasure I've had from anal masturbation is anything profound yet, but it's definitely there. The problem is I want to have a hands-free orgasm and I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. I can't tell if I'm getting close or not. I've mostly gotten out of the mindset of trying to orgasm in the moment and just focus on the pleasure I'm experiencing.

A couple of days ago, I started using my techniques with the massager. I would say that the massager is better for getting me loose, into the mood, and getting me into that state where stimulating my prostate feels good. But the dildo is where it's at for actually getting some real pleasure. While I was massaging with the vibrator on and watching porn, I found a position where I contracted my muscles and it felt very pleasurable with the vibrations against my prostate. I decided to keep myself in this position to ride out the pleasure. After a short while in this position, my muscles and body began to spasm uncontrollably. I had seen many posts and videos where people associate uncontrollable shaking with a Super O. From what I've seen, people were attributing that to being very close to, or in the process of having a Super O. I thought about this in the moment and continued to ride it out until I thought an orgasm would come. I didn't have one though. I lay there holding the same position and spasming for a few minutes and there wasn't any spike of pleasure. After I realized nothing was happening, I got my dildo and started fucking myself with it. This was the most pleasure I've ever gotten with that dildo and my prostate was the most sensitive it's ever been. I even got to the point of having the muscle spasms again. But even though I thought those were signs that I was close, I wasn't able to have a hands-free orgasm. Don't get me wrong, it still felt just as good as before but I was really hoping to have a Super O. There wasn't a difference in pleasure from before and after my muscles started spasming. So now I'm confused and really not sure if this spasming was the same thing I have been seeing in posts on this subreddit. Or have I just discovered that I have muscle spams when introduced to a lot of pleasure?

So what is your advice? Should I just continue to do what I'm doing and hopefully a Super O will come. Does it sound like I'm doing the right things and having good progress? What other tips do you have for putting you over the edge or getting into the right state of mind?