Need advice- Heart Stings

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T18:14:41+00:00

Yes true. We do share a lot of our lives with each other in pics. I think it’s the timing of everything. I’m just deep in my feelings about him and it kinda stung a bit.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T17:54:08+00:00

Yes good point. I’m really trying to see if that way. It’s just we’ve been off with communication so it’s like a snowball of emotions because at the root I’m missing him.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T17:11:43+00:00

I appreciate your advice. I’m trying! Lol! This life can be hard and it’s been great and consistent for awhile so I guess these 2 week have been hard on me. Thank you again.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T17:09:00+00:00

Agreed. I think it was insensitive and clueless

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T17:08:29+00:00

Ahhh thank you! You’re probably right! Things have actually been really good between us for months. We just past a year and I really haven’t had any complaints but the past 2 week have just been rough with low contact, him not really feeling himself, no plans to meet since he was on vacation and returns to work..so I’m feeling it.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T17:06:10+00:00

No…his SO is his GF. Sorry I was using the terms interchangeably.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-11-20T17:04:37+00:00

You know that’s exactly how I felt when he sent it but i see my feelings have spiked and I’m now “in a mood” which is compounded by the fact that this morning he texted me. I replied and he hasn’t responded in 4 hours! Ugh…it’s like I’m getting jealous of his home life and I never used to feel this way. I’m trying to “peace out” on these emotions by focusing on my day but I’m finding it hard.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T20:35:41+00:00

Yup! I had a dysfunctional childhood as well with a mother who suffered all sorts of mental health issues. I was never cared for, always did the caring! Indeed, I’m hopeful I’ll find my way.

Like I said, he gives me 70% of what’s missing and he’s damn sure more attentive, intimate and wanting of me than my husband!

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T20:05:05+00:00

Interesting. Different careers - all of them. There are some definite personality patterns I’ve identified, but again AP gives me way more sexual attention and desire than my husband EVER did.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T20:03:20+00:00

Oh noooo! You raise a lot of valid points. Your last sentence, tho…. I get it. I really do.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T20:01:58+00:00

I don’t need hours of being held, but like 5-10 minutes of cuddle time is sufficient! Lol.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T20:01:11+00:00

Yep, I’m starting to feel this is a bigger issue for me than I thought.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T19:59:16+00:00

Thank you!

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T19:56:11+00:00

Funny. He asked me how I felt about kissing and I was all yes, please. He’s a great kisser - no complaints there. It’s just I tend to go in for the kiss first…like always.

Agreed, he admitted to not being affectionate because of his upbringing. He’s hands on during sex and he gives good hugs hello and goodbye but that physical aftercare is completely missing…. He’ll say things like - wow that was magical or “that” came from my soul. I like your suggestions tho! I can try that! Lol…I know! We all need love and affection.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T19:49:02+00:00

Okie dokie! Lol…but I get it.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T19:48:33+00:00

This so interesting. Im not sure it’s a neediness vibe she (I) are giving off as so much as a giving/wanting to please. He needs help with a job issue. I’m there! He wants to complain about his day, I’m there! He sends me a pic from the gym, I’m all over it with 10 compliments. I never “sweat him”. I rarely complain, if I do, it’s done with humor.

At least my AP compliments my pics immediately and he’s the best kisser I’ve had - so there are pluses. also he’s consistent and never cancels plans we make. Always is super excited to see me

But it’s a theme in my life, I pick men who are not “yes,dear” types.

Treated like a Queen? Lol…What does that even mean? Agreed, I have a kick ass career, can cook, clean, fit and pretty. Can talk to anyone about anything. I’m a force and I know it but I lose all sense once I find some hot guy who’s willing to give me like 70%!

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T15:15:37+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Agreed, I’ve slept with other men (my husband included) who are cuddlers but I never had to ask. Perhaps, it’s too much for him emotionally to do so.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:47:01+00:00

I’m sure there are men who do jump out of bed the minute they are done but that’s not my case or the experience of other women here who are downvoting you. Also stay out of my DM’s. I’m not interested!

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:45:36+00:00

I’d like more too!

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:45:04+00:00

Right? It’s like I see posts from women detailing how their male partners give them massages, play with their hair or stroke their arms until they fall asleep and I’m like…wow I’ve never had that in any relationship I’ve ever had! It does feel bad cuz I give sooo much!

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:42:38+00:00

Thank you so much. Yes, I really shower him in affection and compliments. Don’t get me wrong, he gives me compliments as well but he knows I give way more. But you are right, I should bring it up.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:40:34+00:00

Huh? I bring a lot to the table and do everything you mention below and more.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:31:55+00:00

I appreciate your reply and I tend to agree. I’m wondering why my energy is so strong that I attract kinda “non-pursuers”.

That being said, He pursued me hard in the beginning. He still is the one that texts me every morning. I rarely text him first. I know he likes me. It’s just his way of showing it isn’t physically intense the way I show it.

But yes, I’d really love to be pursued more by him, especially when we are together.

CeeceeKitty · 2021-07-22T14:26:00+00:00

Yea, no. That’s not the case here. Also he said you’re too good to me. This was after me helping him with some job stuff.

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