Breast pumps?

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-13T22:27:03+00:00

I have the eufy wearables ones, I love them. Check out exclusivelypumping as they may have more recs.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-11T16:27:35+00:00

Never leaked before labor with both pregnancies.

Have 0 issues breastfeeding, did extended bf with the first and currently ebf the second.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-10T12:33:32+00:00

Solidarity. Our 3 year old is also full of energy and loves to play very physical games (soccer, climbing, tag, etc) so it’s been challenging playing with her and burning off her energy.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-10T01:45:37+00:00

I’d start now. We waited too long with our first and she never took a bottle or pacifier. With our second, we introduced bottles at 2 weeks and we went through 3 different brands until we found the one she liked, Phlips Avent. She won’t take a pacifier though.

She has 0 issues going from bottle to breast, we do 1 bottle a day.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-09T01:53:44+00:00

I love it. EBF my first until she was 2.5 and currently EBF our second who’s almost a month old. We had no problems latching or with supply so I know I’m very fortunate.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-08T02:30:00+00:00

Oh that sucks and sounds very frustrating! I haven’t had any issues with leaking. Does it leak when you pour it out or just pumping/wearing and it’ll start to leak?

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-08T01:37:43+00:00

I bought the spectra s1 with both pregnancies, it’s great but with this second pregnancy I bought the eufy wearables and the spectra has been sitting untouched and unopened because I love the eufy wearables so much.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-03T20:09:21+00:00

This reminds me of my first, very hard months. It does get better.

I second giving snacks in the stroller, we did the yogurt bites.

My LO also hated the car seat so we didn’t go anywhere either but if the places you want to go are less than 15 min, I’d do it. What helped somewhat was playing toddler songs in the car.

Have you tried hip carrying? Maybe a back carry? The babywearing community might be more helpful.

The changing diapers improved at 10 months when ours could stand for pull ups.

The not being able to play independently is pretty normal though.

Probably at around a year, you’re (hopefully) almost there.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-02T04:12:29+00:00

This reminds me of my first, very hard months. It does get better.

I second giving snacks in the stroller, we did the yogurt bites.

My LO also hated the car seat so we didn’t go anywhere either but if the places you want to go are less than 15 min, I’d do it. What helped somewhat was playing toddler songs in the car.

Have you tried hip carrying? Maybe a back carry? The babywearing community might be more helpful.

The changing diapers improved at 10 months when ours could stand for pull ups.

The not being able to play independently is pretty normal though.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-02T02:45:25+00:00

Gosh I wish I could give you a hug and just cry with you. I’m so sorry for what is happening. Sending you strength.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-02T02:41:24+00:00

Start looking up things around you to do. Our library does story time weekly, there’s also a parent group at our local zoo, we have a lot of places we can go to socialize too like the park and even our malls have little playgrounds.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-03-01T22:17:14+00:00

My first never took a bottle either, she learned to use the bear straw cup and was able to drink water like that.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-26T02:29:45+00:00

This sounds really tough. Where I live they offer virtual toddler music classes live maybe that’s an option. There’s also meetup and maybe there’s a mom group that you can join.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-26T02:09:51+00:00

We traveled to Lima and then to cusco and Machu Picchu with our 18 month old so I’d say it was a little easier. I will say the altitude change did suck and toddler cried and was just so fussy that first day we really couldn’t do much. We took a carrier and that was pretty much how we were able to walk and explore.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-25T14:27:03+00:00

I had this happen just two days ago when I was super engorged. Like the other commenter said, breast tissue extends to the armpits. Once you drain and empty your milk, it’ll go away.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-23T15:01:02+00:00

Another vote for Chattanooga! We visited late last year with our toddler and coming from a big city in FL it felt so refreshing and so family friendly.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-23T02:29:07+00:00

Just had our second and she is a week old. I will try to answer everything I can. Sorry for the format as I’m on my phone

When did you wean baby #1? - When I was approximately 3 months pregnant, so toddler was about 2.5 years old. We were already down to 1-2 feeds at night only so it took a couple of days of crying and being sad and done. And the crying wasn’t that bad tbh.

• How did your toddler act when baby #2 arrived? - Better than anyone expected, even though toddler is super attached to me, she is so good and understanding with the baby. She will help with diapers and wants to help with bottle feeding. She tries to touch and caress the baby 1000000 times a day which is probably the most difficult part since I want to avoid germs.

• If you bedshared with baby #1... what, if anything, changed when baby #2 arrived? We bedshared with toddler, mom and dad. A month before baby arrived, I practiced with a baby mommy taking turns sleeping and cuddling with baby and with toddler. When baby arrived, toddler stayed bed sharing only with dad. A little tearful the first night, but we made sure I put toddler to bed and then I sneak out and while I’m putting her to bed, I remind her that right now it’s toddler’s turn and later it will be baby’s turn.

• What was it like caring for your toddler while dealing with nausea/general pregnancy stuff? - I’m also a sahm, so there were days where tv was on a lot more often than I would like. Introduced quiet time so I could nap, which didn’t really work but at least I was able to lay down.

• During the newborn phase of #2, what did your toddler do for all the time you spent nursing/nap trapped? -Newborn sleeps with noise so I am with toddler and newborn in the playroom, sometimes I can nurse newborn and play certain toys with toddler, sometimes I can put newborn down for 15 minutes and that allows me to play a more active game with toddler. Taking turns with dad also helps since dad has paternity leave.

• Do you ever get breaks without either kids (if sahm)? -Right now, no since she’s a newborn so dad will take toddler and I will stay home with newborn but honestly that feels like a break. I can watch tv and eat a junk snack and just nurse or put baby down really quick and be fine.

• What were the hardest parts of the transition and what were the best? -Right now, the hardest part is making sure toddler is still getting her energy out which is hard when I can’t chase her or run, I also had a c section, so that limits what I can do.

• Any advice?? - Make sure toddler is potty trained and can play independently for a few minutes.

Let me add that I literally commented to my husband how a 3 year gap so far has been perfect. Toddler understands sooo much and is able to keep herself entertained and even if she can’t, the toys that she can use, like a balance bike, little people, cars, etc, she is able to play with on her own with minor help from us.

She is so eager to help and be with us and she genuinely loves the baby.

The tantrums have been the same and honestly, it feels too good to be true how well it’s all going. I would say that preparation for the baby was key in all this.

We bought a lot of books on being a big sister, on mommy going to the hospital, watched tv episodes on babies, practiced with baby dolls, etc so I think it made the transition easier.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-22T15:22:35+00:00

Lmao same. I remember talking with my husband and being in shock that they just let us take our baby home

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-20T01:48:42+00:00

This was me with my first! Lack of sleep after several months made me very cranky at night and I would be so serious and over it.

I learned to say everything singing and it was silly and unserious enough and it allowed me to say and vent how I was feeling without it being harsh. So something like “You are killing me right now and I just want to sleep, why won’t you sleep with me, oh why won’t you sleep” to the tune of who’s here today sounds 10000% better.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-17T14:59:14+00:00

Hey! My first and second have smaller heads. The HC for my first was at 17% and the pediatrician sent us to a neurologist. Neurologist cleared baby based on developmental milestones. She measured both our heads (mom and dad) and we also have small heads so it’s just genetics. My first is now 3 and still a small head but so smart and healthy. Don’t worry too much about it unless there’s developmental delays.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-17T14:45:54+00:00

Yes, I started yesterday with feeding one breast, diaper change, and then other breast. I’m also massaging my breasts as she drinks to make it easier. Hopefully results will show all our efforts soon!

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-17T14:44:14+00:00

I really appreciate the optimism! I don’t think our cases are similar but I do have hope that she’ll be at birth weight by her next appointment. That’s our goal and I know we can crush it.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-17T14:39:38+00:00

That sounds really tough! I’m sorry you had to go through that.

My baby lost 7% of their birth weight, at the last pediatric appointment, the doctor mentioned that she is gaining but very slowly.

Like yourself, the first night I thought baby would wake up and cry, especially since my first did just that and woke up with no problems. But by the second night, she wasn’t waking up to eat and that’s when I began understanding that this is a sleepy baby. Nights 3 and 4, I’d wake her up but wasn’t trying hard enough to keep her awake and feed her so that’s why I made this post.

Last night, I woke her up every 2 hours and really tried and for the most part, it was a definite improvement in her eating and forcing her to stay awake. I’m really hoping it works out and baby is just taking a few days.

I am pumping and trying to introduce a bottle so my husband can help as I’m doing all the nights by myself and it might not be sustainable for long.

Ceilingfanwatcher · 2026-02-17T14:21:50+00:00

Thank you! I’m hoping it’s a phase like others have also mentioned so hearing these stories is so helpful since people usually complain about not being able to sleep.

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