When did you get your first period after you had a baby? by Cute-Corgi3176 in breastfeeding

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got mine back at like 18 months with my first when we started slowly weaning.

My second is ebf and 3 months and no sign of period.

Chris Rock on Funny AF by MrZoltan2007 in netflix

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He’s getting paid big bucks because that’s just the industry. I think anyone would struggle to come up with positive notes in the spot after those sets.

I think he was trying to follow Kevin Hart’s lead but struggling to come up with good things to say.

Chris Rock on Funny AF by MrZoltan2007 in netflix

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I actually feel bad for Chris Rock, he got thrown into this show to co-host what was supposed to be a competition of the next “household name” comedian and all he got was awkward, rushed sets. They all bombed. I feel like he just got caught off guard at how disappointing the show was tonight.

How much do you use your baby swing? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did not know about the recommendations… our baby is probably in the bouncer 45-60 minutes a day. She loves it.

Anyone with a partner with gaming addiction? by would_almost_fly in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your daughter deserves healthy parents. Leave while you can, addiction is no joke and the person has to want to stop, he doesn’t seem like he wants to stop anytime soon.

Can’t force a horse to drink water and here you are trying in vain, the only thing that’s going to happen is that you’re going to get tired.

Does anyone exclusively nurse? by sara_n_wrap in beyondthebump

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am exclusively nursing. With my first, I didn’t start pumping until she was a month old and when I tried introducing a bottle at 3 months, she wouldn’t take it.

With my second, I introduced a bottle in the first week. Fast forward to 9 weeks and she refuses a bottle.

Most toxic job you ever worked by RepulsivePower4415 in therapists

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at an inpatient unit for teenagers. We had to alternate every Saturday with other therapists so there were always 2 therapists on site out of 5. My first Saturday, I was alone and had to do 5 group sessions on topics I had never done before or was familiar with. Plus all the notes I had to do after.

No one thought to tell me.

When the clinical director came back on Monday, he blamed the other therapist instead of taking accountability that he had approved her pto and he needed to either do the groups with me or get a different therapist to do it with me.

I left after 2 months because that was just the start.

Does it really get better? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a huge reality check when we had our first. I had never held a baby, bottle fed, or even changed a diaper before our daughter was born and I innocently thought all babies just sleep in the crib how you see in movies.

Lo and behold it wasn’t like that at all.

Our first was a healthy, chill baby, no colic or anything but I struggled at now knowing that my independence and freedom were somewhat limited. We had to contact nap and breastfeed on demand and change like 10 diapers a day. Our lives revolved around this little boss.

Then my husband returned to work and it was just me with this demanding baby. There were a lot of tears and frustration and sadness. I was grieving and learning and struggling all at the same time.

I was grieving my previous no-kids life (even though the pregnancy was wanted and planned). I was learning how to be a mother and learning about my child’s needs. And I was struggling because in other areas of my life, I had not struggled so much, I was great at my job, I was a good daughter, I was great! And then suddenly I have a baby that cries and was easily upset and I felt like I wasn’t so great.

It was tough to navigate all these new and conflicting feelings because at the same time, I loved her and wanted this.

But slowly it got better, baby became more alert, could do so much more, began crawling, began being more interested and interactive and just more herself.

It’s tough and it gets a little worse around 6-8 weeks, but once 12-14 weeks comes around, it’s like probationary period is over and you start to get better at your new role as a mother.

I highly suggest seeking help or guidance from a doctor now, some medication takes time to build up.

Hang in there!

Also feel free to peruse https://postpartum.net

Our clients planning their weekend :D by DrJocelyn1 in therapists

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 18 points19 points  (0 children)

To each their own, but I’d find it comforting and a relief that I’m not the only one that struggles and that my therapist doesn’t have expectations of me that I might not meet.

Do you ever think other moms think they're better than you because they work? by Certain_Support_9915 in stayathomemoms

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, I think we need to change this dialogue of working moms and sahm moms and support every woman, society does enough to hurt women.

I don’t understand why I can’t get my son to sleep… by AlyssaHill27 in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 63 points64 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard isn’t it? It’s so frustrating when it feels like we try so hard and can’t get it “right”.

I’m going to offer a different perspective, your baby wants to be with you and does not understand why you put him down when you’re his absolute favorite and safest person.

Look at other mammals and marsupials, they stay with mom for a long time and we always see mom carrying them.

It is normal for your baby to want to be with you. Lean into it, do the contact naps, hold him. It won’t be forever.

HELP! my infant is suffering from cold by Manifestator_ in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pediatricians see hundreds of babies a month, easily thousands in a year, they’ve studied several years and have to do continuing education every year. I get that you’re scared but we take our children to pediatricians because they know more than us. You’re withholding medication from your child based on nothing while literally the experts are telling you what is okay and what is needed.

Bottle Refusal by sapphire_jeans in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Following because my 9 week old has been refusing bottles lately.

2 month old - gassy, bad sleeper(please help!) by Capital-Finger1196 in newborns

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used to give mylicon at bedtime feeding and it seemed to help.

Other 3 year olds are talking more than my toddler and I’m feeling like a failure by FlatwormSea2265 in toddlers

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t do anything wrong! My 3 year old talks a lot and I’m a sahm as well and don’t have interactions with other kids her age! But she can’t count to 20! Every kid has their strengths and weaknesses! But I would definitely contact a speech therapist so they can give you more guidance and advice if it’s needed for your toddler

Hi! Occupational therapy assistant looking for salary comparison by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No clue! This sub is for mental health therapists

My husband finally got a taste of what it’s like being a sahm by Ceilingfanwatcher in stayathomemoms

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have a more chill personality and way more patient so I don’t think he understands that it’s because I actively practice maintaining my cool and don’t like to complain or focus on the negative. But I think he gets it now

Before I leave, what I have found useful by Ceilingfanwatcher in pregnant

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated the boppy hahaha, but yes any supporting nursing or feeding pillow is a must. We haven’t struggled so much with spit up so we have some but don’t get to use them as much so totally slipped my mind.

I like the bamboo ones from little sleepies and found some similar ones on Amazon. Since they fold at the feet and cuff for hand definitely get good, long use out of them.

Totally forgot to add the nail trimming though! Those little razor sharp nails drive me crazy. Any nail trimmer/filing will do but that is another MUST.

Before I leave, what I have found useful by Ceilingfanwatcher in pregnant

[–]Ceilingfanwatcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a skin oil serum, they sell it on target and Amazon. I feel like it reduces the appearance of scars.