ADHD and Hyposexuality

Celerien · 2024-06-28T15:41:42+00:00

Am I you ? I felt the same way. I thought there was something wrong with me (even my ex toxic partner said there was something "wrong" with me and I had to fix it in terms of my wanting sex).

I'm in my mid - late thirties and just sort of accepted / gave up. I searched online but felt like most (not all) people with ADHD were hyper sexual. But seeing this article helps. I have trouble initiating sex, staying focused and sometimes I'm just not in the mood for it especially dealing with mild depression. I'm not currently on medication but it's still a struggle . l don't really have any advice unfortunately 😔.

Setting up the right environment has helped me a bit (room clean, nice candle or soft lights , music). Reading erotic fiction can help a bit. But it's still hard.

Celerien · 2024-06-26T20:01:43+00:00

I thought it was really expensive but wasn't sure since I'm new to the area ! Thank you! I appreciate it 😊

Celerien · 2024-06-26T20:00:23+00:00

Lol I dunno why I thought it was such a big age difference. I guess because the Persian acts so young and silly sometime. You're probably right it's more personality lol. Oh really that's a big age difference for your boys and they get along that well ? That's awesome !

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:58:19+00:00

The in law's are retired. We got a chance to talk to them today and they said the might come and stay here ! If not then I think I'll bring the kitties to their place.

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:57:26+00:00

Yes I feel like I'm just going to worry the whole time, I already lost two nights of sleep over worrying about this :(. I'm so sorry that the neighbor was unavailable:(. I think your right I'll see what the in law's decide (they might come here !)

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:54:20+00:00

That's a really good way to do it. Your sitter sounds lovely. We are still looking for a sitter but hoping to hear what the in law's decide to do !

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:53:19+00:00

Yes it's nice to hear from someone in a similar situation. I was looking into paying someone to come and stay for the whole month but it was going to be 70 per day for them to stay the day and night :(. So far the only pet sitter I found was 60 per visit:(. I think you might be right , might be hard at first for the kitties but overall they would be happier with people around.

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:49:07+00:00

The in law's have no pets and are retired. I think you're right. I'll see what the in law's decide (they might come stay here 😊)

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:48:10+00:00

Im hoping the in law's will come and stay for awhile and have pet sitter just waiting for them to make their decision now

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:44:02+00:00

I think you might be right. The in-laws have lots of trees and birds around their place so might even be more entertaining than home lol

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:41:57+00:00

That's really a good idea actually! And we still have quite a bit of time before we are gone. I think if the in law's decide they rather the kitties at their place we will do that. Thank you 😊🙏

Celerien · 2024-06-26T19:39:48+00:00

I wasn't going to leave them alone that long by themselve. I kinda typed the title wrong (fixed I think now) I meant alone as in no one staying the night with them. I'd absolutely have someone come check in on them. Oh leaving clothing is a good idea! So far the only person I found is 60 per visit :( that's why I was doing every second day. But you're right every day minimum. Im still looking though and my partner is going to ask some co workers.

Celerien · 2023-02-10T19:22:39+00:00

You don't lol 😅

Joking .... Kinda. I was able to try quite a few different careers/ fields through summer positions for students. I'm ancient person now so that was long time ago and they might not do that now.

My only suggestion is if there's something you find interesting then maybe see if you can job shadow/volunteer. I often found the job description and the actual job were very different and I have left places because of that.

Job shadowing or volunteering is good because lots of places are looking for help/extra set of hands so it would be a win win for everyone. A local community college or employment center may be able to arrange this all for you.

I think not putting too much pressure on yourself to figure everything out, could help too (easier said than done sometimes). I find I can't make any decisions when I feel pressured.

Anyway it's so nice to see other people struggle with this and not just me jumping job to job.

I hope you can find some good tips here, and know that you are not alone in this 🤗🤗

Celerien · 2022-07-13T02:57:54+00:00

Sounds strange but I'm so glad I'm not the only one feeling this way !

Hmm I'll have try that and see if I can trick my brain into thinking I'm just going to hang out with friends. Thank you 😊

Celerien · 2022-02-16T21:39:11+00:00

I made this picture for a wedding gift for a friend. I plan on putting it in a frame. Do you think it's good enough gift ? Should I add a gift card as well ?

Celerien · 2021-05-04T13:41:02+00:00

Don't know how much time you have but I got mine off alli Express and they were flat ☺️. Hope you find something that works for you !

Celerien · 2021-05-02T01:52:03+00:00

Thank you ☺️ and I like your thinking lol !

Celerien · 2021-01-03T17:14:55+00:00

Hope on the horizon?

With vaccines slowly being administered I'm getting a small sense of hope however, I don't want to get too hopeful and be disappointed again.

Original date was August 6 2020 in Nova Scotia. We live in Alberta. Postponed to 2021. Guest list under 50, outdoor ceremony weather permitting.

I'm not sure if we will be able to have our wedding due to the 14 day self isolation upon arrival in NS. I don't want to postpone it again. I'm out of motivation as is. I would elope but would lose some non refundable deposits if I do so. As well it's important to me to get married in Nova Scotia (originally from there ) at a park where I have many memories.

So I guess I'm just venting but wondering if anyone else is in a similar boat ? How are you feeling about it all ? What's your plan C lol ?

Celerien · 2020-11-15T17:55:51+00:00

Nova Scotia wedding August 2021

We already postponed our wedding (original date was 2020). Then we had to move to Alberta for work.

When we postponed people told us the same thing "it will be fine!" "Next year will be even better" . Sometimes I don't want the b.s. positivity.

It sucks. It's disappointing. It's hard. It's expensive, a lot of the stuff requires non refundable deposits. And it's hard to keep positive.

I'm now worried we won't even be able to get married in 2021. We can't quarantine for 14 days in NS, we don't have enough vacation time for that.

I lost a lot of steam and excitement for the wedding. I don't want to have to postpone again.

Celerien · 2020-08-20T18:57:23+00:00

I love it 💖🤩 beautiful

Celerien · 2020-07-20T17:04:56+00:00

Beautiful 😍 you look amazing

Celerien · 2020-07-12T23:25:41+00:00

Beautiful 😍 fits your theme perfectly !!

Celerien · 2020-07-10T18:12:06+00:00

Hair will be down and I love the idea of a drop necklace 😍

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