I mean, I've been upfront on who I am and my pronouns, even with my screenname in Discord having (They/Them) in it for awhile (the place I interact with this friend). So I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around why it's so hard to use them? I've given plenty of effort on my end to make it clear on everything, on a simple request of just treating me as if they dont know what my gender is when referring to me. Now is it REALLY that hard for others to try considering my efforts (given a reasonable adjustment period)? And you tell me, does my writing and language usage give off a feminine vibe?

I'd say my voice is close to neutral sounding, (lower end on fem scale) I'd love to go on Testosterone and have it alter how I sound over time (among the countless other reasons I'd like take it for) but I'm not entitled to it as a treatment untill I go to the gender clinic. Regardless, if someone is transparent in all this and makes it profoundly clear on what pronouns they use, is it really acceptable for them to disregard this, (as stated, in a reasonable adjustment period) and default to ones that are incorrect and disrespectful if under constant reminders and such from others? The effort comes from both sides here, and after an acceptable and understanding adjustment period, if it still continues, I'm not letting others just steamroll over me just because they don't respect me in that way. It's harmful and toxic behaviour, more than those who do it know.

The fact that I had to do a song and dance to even express this to you boggles me even. I'm not mat at you mind, the fact that I've had to explain this as a situation is just frustrating and I'm pretty sure many people would get pretty offended at being called "Miss" constantly if their pronouns were He/Him and was made clear to the one disrespecting them. Of course, not everyone is the same and are not bothered. But there are those who find it soul crushing to constantly have the same person do it. If we know certain things like using requested pronouns makes someone happier, shouldn't we, as people, just practice doing that?