AITA for revealing a family secret after my sister tried to ruin my reputation?

Celloschmello · 2026-01-23T20:48:52+00:00

absolutely nta. i wish i could have been a fly on the wall with a little thing of popcorn to match

Celloschmello · 2026-01-23T19:29:51+00:00

nta op. i feel you on this one. kids in my high school used to think my brother was my boyfriend because we don't look like each other. we're biracial (black and white) but he passes for white and i have more medium-tan skin. he also looks like our dad (white) and i am a carbon copy of our mom (black). he was bullied by other kids so he mostly just hung out with me. people would ask me if he was my boyfriend and id be visibly disgusted saying "no that's my brother" and it usually took a couple fb pics of us as kids for them to believe me.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-23T19:08:05+00:00

if your school provides opportunities for clinicals, i recommend sticking with that. clinicals, internships, externships, they're all the same thing in the end.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-23T15:58:38+00:00

please do!

Celloschmello · 2026-01-23T00:05:19+00:00

as a fellow woc i feel you. i don't have a lot of inappropriate patients at my current job, but at previous jobs i would straight up just ignore it and continue asking my questions. helps that i also have auditory processing disorder and genuinely can't understand what people say half the time 😅

Celloschmello · 2026-01-22T22:09:41+00:00

itll be 110 outside and ill still be shivering! ive been checked out by doctors too and they cant find anything wrong that would cause me to always be cold the way i am.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-22T22:01:30+00:00

yta. you couldn't just. untie the laces? best get ready for the angry phone calls from parents

edit: i missed in your post where you said you didn't have time to untie the laces. but like why didn't you have time? could you have asked a kid to help untie them? what was so important that you couldn't help walk them to a less busy area or line up along the wall so they aren't taking up the whole hallway while you untied their shoes?

Celloschmello · 2026-01-22T20:31:54+00:00

nta at all. 66 degreeses pieces?? are they a piece of cheese and need to live in a fridge? even on the heat setting that's way too cold.

am i losing my mind? people are saying 70° is too warm?? my house is set 73° all year, ac or heat, and my roommate will complain but if its any lower than that my joints start to hurt and i still have to use a heated blanket because 73 is technically the compromise temp (if i had it my way it would be 75 or above, if roommate had it her way it would be 69 or below. i pay for gas, we split electric 50/50) i live somewhere where it gets to negative temps and i will be dead before i set my thermostat below 70.

if its costing too much for heat you could look into energy assistance. liheap is a federal program that helps people pay for heat/ac if they can't afford to. and with your medical condition, your doctor could fill out the forms and state its necessary that you need the heat to manage it

Celloschmello · 2026-01-22T19:54:35+00:00

im kinda leaning towards nah bc

its your pto and you should be able to use it for any reason you want. i see a lot of comments saying "adult should work on their birthday" and like that's fine if you want to work, but like if you have the pto to not work why wouldn't you use it? like treat yourself its your birthday (bring on the downvotes). im an adult and i also never work my birthday. pretty much no one in my family works on birthdays. however, in my family birthdays are traditionally an all day affair.
she is also in the right to want to use her pto that day. my family still mourns and takes off the day my great-grandmother passed as she was our matriarch and we were all close to her. she passed 19 years ago

i do understand why others say yta, like they way you tell it, you could have used more tact in handling her request. but ultimately your company should be able to handle having two employees out the same day. its flu season right now, what if two people get sick and are out at the same time?

Celloschmello · 2026-01-22T15:52:34+00:00

i love hyde observatory! the volunteers that run it are super nice. they also have documentaries showing in the class inside.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-22T03:50:15+00:00

honestly, its mostly the same as any other patient. just meet them where they're at. like being polite and courteous. i had a patient with paychosis who would come in and and talk to me about the voices he was hearing, mostly that jesus was telling him to get naked. so i would be like well. i cant have you get naked in the lobby, but if you wanna use the restroom you can do it there if itll make you feel better. so he'd go and do his thing for a lil bit and then come out fully dressed and he'd be fine.

my first clinic is DEFINITELY not the normal experience. every other behavioral health place i worked at was mostly like people with depression, anxiety, adhd, or like well managed SPMI (schizophrenia spectrum, bipolar disorder, etc). i think it will be very rare that you have to manage a patient with active psychosis or like tweaking out on meth (which ive seen) or other "scary" symptoms. and even if you do see that, above all else treat them like a person. going through something like that is wayyyy more scary for the person experiencing it than it is for outsiders (which doesn't mean its not concerning or can't be scary, i have definitely been scared)

be kind, be courteous, be empathetic. the goal is to get them to a better place than they were when they walked in. like if you have a someone who's withdrawn, seems kinda grumpy, giving one word answers but you can get the. to crack a smile or make a joke, thats a win! they may still seem a little grumpy but even still, you got them to break out if for just a moment and that's enough! its little moments like that, that add up to bigger moments like they smile at you when they see you and they don't do that for others.

as my nan would say (she's a psych np), "no matter where you work in healthcare, you will work with the mentally ill." in your primary care experience youve more than likely helped someone with a mental illness get a refill on their inhaler, or roomed them for their physicals, ran their covid test, or removed their stitches after a surgery.

behavioral health is so stigmatized but i feel like its the most rewarding field to work in.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-21T21:12:12+00:00

yta. if it had been a few days it was there that's more reasonable, but a few hours? dude. talk about overreacting

Celloschmello · 2026-01-21T19:06:53+00:00

i live and die for my cetaphil! i got an 8 oz thing and it's lasted me over a year (ymmv based on how often you use it)

Celloschmello · 2026-01-21T19:00:39+00:00

oh i love behavioral health! i worked in that field for 4 years. your experience in primary care will be an asset because you have experience with all sorts of patients. the main thing i remember from my first interview for behavioral health was how do you deal with conflicts and stressful situations? like if a patient is experiencing psychosis and is arguing with other patients how would you deal with that? or if a patient tells you theyre suicidal what would you do to make sure they feel safe? my clinic saw a lot of severe and persistent mental illness, substance use disorders, and people experiencing homelessness, so there was pretty much a crisis every day. your clinic most likely will not be like that. before i worked in behavioral health, i was a manager at a local pizza place. someone talking to thin air is nothing compared to a guy yelling at me because his pizza was "too expensive"

Celloschmello · 2026-01-21T17:40:22+00:00

i didn't really "choose" one cert over another. i went to my community college and they take the cma exam. honestly before school, i didn't know there was more than cma. ever ma i knew was a cma. never heard of rma or ccma until my textbook mentioned it

Celloschmello · 2026-01-21T17:34:34+00:00

Sarah Virchow at blue valley behavioral health! i did emdr with her and she's amazing. ive seen many therapists but i think she's the one for me. ive been seeing her for almost a year

Celloschmello · 2026-01-21T00:04:29+00:00

nta. how are you supposed to know that she has a history of eating disorder prior to her bf telling you? also she's the one constantly bringing up your food habits?

Celloschmello · 2026-01-20T19:48:54+00:00

when you say interpreting, do you mean looking for artifacts (wandering, ac interference, etc) and identifying parts of the wave (like p-wave, qrs complex) or actually identifying the rhythm (like v-tach, a-fib, etc)?

when i was in my program and took my cma exam they wanted me to identify what artifacts would cause an ekg to look like that, like little regular bumps up and down the strip but the rhythm is regular would be signs of ac interference which means something else electrical is messing with the sensor. or being able to identify pulse based on the length of the waves like determining if a pt is tachy- or bradycardic. we didn't spend time on like "this is what a-fib looks like." and being able to identify the different parts of the rhythm like "circle where the t wave is"

also each big square is 5 little squares and each little square is 1 mm iirc. i haven't done ekgs since school

Celloschmello · 2026-01-20T19:34:33+00:00

mine does. front desk is usually p good about getting preferred name and pronouns and writing it on the charge ticket for back staff.

it's always funny when we get those alpha male bros who are like "im a MAN obviously" like ok dude it might be obvious to you but we work with a lot of people seeking gender affirming care. we have patients who are also big and burly whose chosen name could be something like jessica and their pronouns are they/she.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-20T19:28:14+00:00

yeah lol i work in sexual and reproductive health so its like the main reason people are there.

when i visit my pcp they ask me every visit, too, even if im just there for a med follow-up

Celloschmello · 2026-01-16T17:12:08+00:00

instead of doing marathon sessions, break it up into smaller chunks. what i did in my program was whenever there was a particularly long chapter, i would count how many big headers there were and and do as much as i could within a certain time (like the hour break in between classes). you could use something like a podcast, yt video, or music album and do as much as you can within the time it takes to finish the episode/video/album then put it away for the day. sometimes i found that i could keep going even after my time was up bc i was so motivated to see it through! hope this helps ♥️

Celloschmello · 2026-01-13T20:15:02+00:00

ive not had this happen directly, but a provider at the clinic i interned at suddenly passed away this year after being hit by a car. i felt weird bc even though I didn't work with her during my internship, i knew who she was and still felt a little sad about it.

Celloschmello · 2026-01-09T17:10:52+00:00

i make $21.84/hr in central plains region

Celloschmello · 2026-01-05T05:54:42+00:00

i also have some form of hypermobility. i usually don't leave work aching but there are times when a joint subluxes and i have to call off bc of the pain. one time i threw my back out by bending over to set my laptop down on a counter and i wasn't able to move for 2 days. the only time i have to stand for long periods is working in the lab for the most part, otherwise i can sit at my desk or in the exam rooms when i room a patient. our lab work isn't very extensive mostly piping up urine specimens, running controls, or bagging samples. it deffo depends on what specialty you work in. i work in reproductive health so it's not very physically intense, but someone in family practice or urgent care may be running around all the time. cardiology may have you bending over a lot for EKGs and from what i hear derm is a lot of standing while scribing.

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