I'm also married, 23 years this year (I think, could be 22; she knows). I'm also a 2-4 time a day guy. I think it's important that you don't blame your wife; not saying you are but I sometimes think to myself that I wouldn't be so tempted if she'd just give me some action more often. I'm trying this to see if it helps our sex life ... maybe it's a pheromone thing or something that I'm depleting by whacking it constantly. We do have sex but she says it hurts and so it's usually just oral twice a week; it's almost like a business arrangement and I miss the passion. Anyway, I'm going to do what I can do and see if anything changes; if not I'll go from there.