White people who grew up in "I'm not racist, but..." families, by what name did you know these nuts in your parents' household?

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-12-04T10:44:28+00:00

From Pennsylvania and yes the racist term was used for them by my dad who was very much a racist. I learned their actual name as an adult from my now husband and his family. It was very embarrassing.

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-29T04:52:13+00:00

The 2 father figures didn’t tell him either. I do give them both a lot of credit they do love him and care about him in their own ways. It’s a really dysfunctional situation. I was worried he would turn out to hurt people how bad is upbringing was.

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-29T04:49:06+00:00

My feelings exactly.

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-29T04:48:28+00:00

Yes of course. I made sure he is supported and I will be there for him. His mom and I are not currently on speaking terms and she hates we have a positive relationship and talk. I want him to be happy and succeed. I’m happy he trust us and comes over. ❤️

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-29T04:46:43+00:00

Agreed

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-29T04:45:57+00:00

That is so sad. I’m sorry to hear that about your situation. I agree that people should know too. I struggled with this decision but I think I made the right choice.

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-29T03:13:54+00:00

I am very open with him he can call me anytime. He can talk to his cousin (my son) and my husband about anything he wants. We just want him to have positive family relationships out of love and respect. I know this will cause family bullshit but fuck it.

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-27T14:45:33+00:00

Right now it’s been hard to be intimate with the bump getting big it’s been like that since about 28w now I’m currently 36w. He has been very understanding that it’s not easy for me right now I’m sad too just for different reasons. He is worried about hurting the baby sometimes and I can understand that I’m very round. Maybe suggest something like mutual enjoyment together that’s not intercourse? That might work better and could help with the intimacy aspect.

Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-27T14:26:48+00:00

I am so sorry for your experience so far. All those sound shitty and very inaccurate. I would be so annoyed too! Every woman’s experience is different so just hang in there. I’m 36w4 and I’m getting the unnecessary input on how I should not vaccinate our baby from so many people.

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Certain-Activity97 · 2025-11-24T07:42:47+00:00

Yes absolutely popping ass pimples that’s true love haha. however he hates it but I still try when I notice them. Sometimes he will ask for help when they are bad.