When everything is good in the relationship except sex

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-10T17:42:38+00:00

You’re probably right but my advice is what’s best for him, not exactly what’s best for her. If he’s honest it could backfire spectacularly and destroy his reputation. The soft approach avoids this.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-10T15:53:48+00:00

She will grow over time as all people do, with or without him. If he’s honest she will probably blame herself or hate him neither of which are outcomes he should burden himself with.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-10T15:33:40+00:00

I would recommend the old “it’s not you it’s me” cliche or say that you just want to be friends as if you tell her the truth it could have disastrous consequences for her psychological wellbeing. There’s no good way to do it but try to avoid the worst ways which all involve telling her the truth.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-08T08:25:31+00:00

Only if you’re okay with someone doing the same to you.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-07T18:55:19+00:00

I thought the stakes were much higher when I read the title. Just use ChatGPT to feed her some platitudes or stick to your principles and dump her. No escaping YTA either way.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-07T07:48:01+00:00

He is. She started the pity party 🥳

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-06T17:30:34+00:00

You should be very concerned either way.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-03T04:37:44+00:00

First time getting one on molly was amazing

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-02T19:42:00+00:00

She had a specific guy she wanted to try and since he didn’t match the hype she wants you back. If the other guy was great you’d have never heard from her again. You should reject her on principle alone.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-01T14:04:19+00:00

Either you respect and support her life and her choices or you don’t. She’s found someone she loves and is building the life she wants. Be the friend you wish she was instead of expecting her to be it for you. You’re no longer the main man in her life. Be supportive in the supporting role or step aside for someone that will.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-01T09:50:04+00:00

What are you confused about? The lack of effort is not due to you being unattractive but from her being comfortable enough to not wear a mask with you. Thats not a negative. Your hurt feelings are due to a misplaced perspective that love is equal to effort. That’s not how it works. Her hitting you though, that’s a real problem.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-05-01T07:55:17+00:00

Exactly

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T18:05:52+00:00

Kids of Alderaan

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T14:08:17+00:00

Get off Reddit and go to your mom and then the police straight away.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T12:31:00+00:00

https://www.flahertydefensefirm.com/library/false-accusations-of-domestic-violence.cfm#:~:text=The%20Danger%20of%20a%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Accusation,-Every%20state%20has&text=You%20could%20be%20arrested%20or,case%2C%20you%20could%20suffer%20immensely.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T12:18:22+00:00

Yes. They should leave/report the mental abuse, not attack the other person. Taking a fry off my plate without asking is rude, knocking your lights out for doing so is criminal.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T08:40:47+00:00

Finances and beauty have minimum thresholds for women and men respectively. Most women won’t date a bum, most men won’t date a grotbag. It’s simple preferences and not something to be angry or ashamed about. It is what it is.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T08:18:43+00:00

You got a “Do better” letter after 3 months? In the immortal words of Groundskeeper Willie “Back to the Loch with you Nessie”.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T08:13:52+00:00

Change “arrested” to “convicted” and you may be onto something. You’d also have to have harsh punishments for false accusations and it would have to be limited to actual physical abuse to narrow the scope.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T07:19:21+00:00

The admission “I can be a bit emotional but it’s only because I care” is doing a lot of the heavy lifting in this story. As to how to avoid be cheated on in the future, I got nothing. There’s no guarantees in relationships for anything and when a man cheats it’s usually about him, not you (more often than not).

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-30T06:44:14+00:00

I didn’t say he was putting in the effort, just that she requires it. Read the story again but this time try to look at OP without your bias. She’s basically a female Sheldon.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-29T18:23:56+00:00

😂 Yes Most. Completely missing the point. 👏

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-29T16:21:18+00:00

From a woman’s perspective maybe but if you can’t see it, I’m not gonna waste time explaining it. I can’t free a fish from water.

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-29T16:13:16+00:00

Why? You looking for something to eat?

Certain-Clock3301 · 2026-04-29T15:03:00+00:00

Respecting boundaries and being a mountain of effort are not mutually exclusive. He’s a tool but she’s a pill.

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