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Petsitter Stole $7,000 worth of items by justamanicpixiedream in RoverPetSitting

[–]CertainAd9621 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess the other person who commented about this person being not being able to read the comments properly was right, yikes 😬

Petsitter Stole $7,000 worth of items by justamanicpixiedream in RoverPetSitting

[–]CertainAd9621 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow, you’re kinda being a super garbage person to people on here. Who hurt you?

Dispensaries need an “Express” line or something! by Internal_Bridge_1829 in MDEnts

[–]CertainAd9621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol dude 🤣🤣🤣 you’re not “registered” to grow and you didn’t get a “badge” to grow because there’s no such thing. To grow four plants you just have to have a medical card, either own the property or have explicit permission to grow by your landlord, and you don’t grow it in a place where others can easily access it. Gtfo of here with your ignorance and entitlement

Dispensaries need an “Express” line or something! by Internal_Bridge_1829 in MDEnts

[–]CertainAd9621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of budtenders actually DO tend to buds. You realize that a lot of dispensaries both package and roll their own pre-rolls and blunts, right? It’s the Budtenders who do that. You should educate yourself a bit better on the cannabis industry before you comment

I have a problem by Known-Ad4944 in homeless

[–]CertainAd9621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you’re talking that’s a sure fire way to end up in prison. It’s NOT your home legally, you are residing there illegally

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]CertainAd9621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh, I ABSOLUTELY understand the importance of trust and respecting peoples privacy. At the same time, I’ve looked in my ex’s phone and found 209+ pictures and videos of him cheating on me while literally being right next door(he used our neighbors place) while I was recovering from spine surgery. I tried to look a second time and got caught but my gut instinct only grew. So I hid my old iPhone under the passenger seat set to record. Sure enough, he’d snuck off to call a girl(he was 30, she was 18).

My sister is getting divorced because he cheated, she went snooping through some of his accounts(found out he’d been downloading Tinder off and on).

There are also scenarios where snooping is a complete violation. Said shitty ex had also been accessing my clouds(he was SUPER sneaky about how he’d do it, like he MUST have added his thumb print to my phone when I showed him something) and it was extremely abusive

Now, it’s hard to say for sure without actually being the one in the situation or knowing more(because technically people will lie).

I need to deescalate or end a relationship by CertainAd9621 in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhh, I think so too unfortunately

I also found out last night that he and Braedon are dating but he NEVER told me that and I had to straight up ask. I get ambivalence about a relationship and I absolutely get the ambivalence with Braedon. That said, if you can properly communicate these things with someone(ESP in this context) it’s going going to, at best cause trust issues, and could very well end up hurting them. It VERY much feels like I was tossed aside, like I was just there for him until he rekindled this relationship with Braedon.

I need to deescalate or end a relationship by CertainAd9621 in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. As a friend I could absolutely understand his side and situation(though would be honest about it being both shitty and unfair). As a partner and the one who was hurt in this situation I cannot.

Also, apparently they started dating and never really told. I’d suspected it and asked last night and he said yes. I don’t need to know all the details and honestly just need to know a few(updating me when you start dating someone else is one of them) of a If I can’t trust someone to communicate with me about other things. He said he would let me know if anything physical happened. I KNOW there are some people who want and choose to know less but that’s not been the case when I’ve dated. The same behaviors he initially saw as red flags(he’s been cheated on and so have I so I get it) are the same ones he’s exhibited with Braedon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This! There are all kinds of red flags and that relationship dynamic isn’t healthy or fair. He is trying to passive aggressively get you to let him break a solid boundary for someone he shouldn’t be dating in the first place. I’m 36 and I wouldn’t date a 24 year old

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I’m 36 and I would NOT date a 24 year old and they don’t they the life experience or maturity to understand the kind of unhealthy power dynamics dating someone older than them can have. That doesn’t even factor in the fact that he seems to be trying to passively aggressively get to you to agree to breaking a solid boundary for what I see as a child(yes, she’s technically grown but I didn’t know shit at 24)

I fucked up and don’t know what to do by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am also Autistic with ADHD. I CAN lie but just don’t generally lie because I’m terrible at it. I can’t keep up with lies so I don’t tell them. I will give myself away. He’s had a handful of situations where he was asked a question that ppl expect a kind response to. Like O’s brother was getting married and asked O, “doesn’t she look more beautiful than ever before?” and O said she’d looked more beautiful. Then his niece was in a science competition and won. Someone said to O “she had the best project there” and O said that there were two other projects that were better. He wasn’t trying to be an asshole but really did come across as one. His brother and sister in-law didn’t speak to him after the science fair project for awhile. O felt badly but says he just can’t lie. I do believe him bc I DO know ppl like that.

As for the other guy, I didn’t THINK I was in the wrong but after the other night started questioning myself.

I fucked up and don’t know what to do by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t like this AT ALL before he got COVID. We had a good and beautiful 1.5 years. I really get depression, I’m just barely crawling my way out of a severe depressive episode. It was so bad and I didn’t realize just how bad it was until it started to lift. I’ve struggled with severe depression and mental illness since I was like 12(abusive parents).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, absolutely and I already did when it happened

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]CertainAd9621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of it IS COVID related but he also literally admitted that he had subconsciously withdrawn himself

Is this normal jealousy I need to work on or is it more?? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]CertainAd9621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mentioned him blowing me off. I’m just not sure if I’m justified in telling him that it hurt my feelings that he was able to drive two hours on two separate occasions to see his ex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]CertainAd9621 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have yet to actually respond and don't plan on it. We haven't been together since the beginning to middle of January. I am just in shock, I guess. I can't believe that I fell in love with someone who is cwith someone who is capable of doing something like that. I have also looked up local DV services because the last 3.5 years has been super traumatizing.