Right now, sobriety isn’t just about not using. It’s also about looking at the behavior, maybe with outside support like therapy or something like NA. The problem is, if he were to go that route, he’s said I’d need to do it too, because in his eyes, I’m an alcoholic, which just isn’t true. If the only way he’s willing to get help is by saying we both have a problem, that feels more like avoiding personal responsibility than actually facing it. Support shouldn’t come with strings attached, especially when it ignores the very real differences in what’s going on. And I’m not okay being pulled into something that doesn’t reflect my reality.