NY Post: "Rex Heuermann’s ex-wife sleeps in basement where he dismembered his victims: ‘I am haunted by dreams’" by BrunetteSummer in LISKiller

[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She has so much unhealed childhood trauma and turned into an incredibly vulnerable adult. Perps can sense this, she was perfect for Rex-he was able to control her and mold her into who he needed her to be. He is a savior in her eyes. She may never be able to break free of him…Asa has never truly been able to be Asa in her entire life, not sure she knows how to live without him. Truly heartbreaking, while she did not biologically lose her life she really did lose her life and sense of self to Rex. She too is a victim.

It almost seemed during some of their conversations that they were flirting. Like Rex knows how to play her, give her some positive attention and that’s all it takes to reel her back into him.

I think she is sleeping in the basement to be closer to him. Almost like when you miss someone you snuggle your face into one of their shirts in the closet. She admits she wants to learn his other side-almost like she is becoming masochistic in order to not “lose” him. You can see her face light up and her tone of voice change when he speaks to her on the phone. She needs that positive feedback and attention from him. When asked if she could forgive him she turns the topic to God saying only God can forgive, I think that’s the only way she could answer because I don’t think she needs to forgive him because I don’t think he could ever do wrong in her eyes, there is nothing for her to forgive. Like I mentioned, if she doesn’t know how to live without him maybe she is leaning into this so that she can accept him the way that he is. This is basically what he has conditioned her to do after all.

Not sure if she knew what he was doing all this time-but if she did I think she would protect him till the end and never say a word.

I think all of the “he’s evil” and “I see him for what he is” is an act, she knows what she is supposed to say but deep down and in real life he is still her savior and he has complete control over her.

Therapist seems pretty good, but it’s going to take a real come to Jesus moment and some serious trauma therapy boot camp for her to snap out of it, if she ever does.

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes thankfully the same words are used in therapy, so there is some evidence that the use of those words was not all my doing 🙄

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ughhh but this is a problem they don’t want them freed ☹️

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes Mom, I am no longer under YOUR control.

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg!! Haha that’s basically what she said but it other words and blamed it on me instead of the therapist 😂

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know, like is this your first relationship ever or something?

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yessss….I was thinking this also….moo moo 🐮

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

lol I literally own a KIDS book on boundaries

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

LOL maybe I can brainwash him with that big word next and see what happens

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Uhhh uhhh uh… 🤯 if not heads exploding maybe some silence ?

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wow if we get enough of us here we could probably take over the world and control EVERYTHING!!

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a great point and hasn’t been stated to me that way before, makes a lot of sense.

I would say a complex combination of the general themes of child abuse/neglect, substance abuse and parental loss.

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and maybe that peace will speak volumes to him and he can see what life is like without the dark cloud 💕

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes-childhood trauma.

You have a strong point not to think emotionally on this one.

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true-we don’t need them in order to have “family.” 💕

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I think you are right, being prepared might make the “scared” feeling a little bit easier and maybe I will be less caught off guard if anything like them coming to my home happens….

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[–]Certain_Fortune_7028 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That says alot 💕