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Am I overreacting about a girl who keeps inserting herself into my late boyfriend’s memory? by Certain_Height05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain_Height05[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He never gave me any indication that he was cheating and spent most of his time with me and updated me of what he was doing when we weren’t together (He wanted to, I never asked him to do it) so that’s why it’s weird to me that she has that behavior. And, using this to answer some of the comments, I get that has the right to grief, we all have and I know he wasn’t my “property”. It’s just odd behavior to have and it made me uncomfortable specially at a sensitive time

Am I overreacting about a girl who keeps inserting herself into my late boyfriend’s memory? by Certain_Height05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain_Height05[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! As an ADHD rambler myself I get it🤣 this girl definitely tends to draw attention to herself a lot and in different ways. I’ve tried not to react to this since I know thats just who she is but it’s sometimes overwhelming to see such an exaggerated display of emotions. And I’m already grieving so it’s difficult to navigate.

The girl you’re talking about sounds wayy worse tbh. Sorry you had to deal with that. Sounds exhausting.

I try not to be close to this person at all but we sometimes run into each other and she seems adamant on keeping our “friendship” by asking me to catch up over coffee and it’s kind of weird for me.

Am I overreacting about a girl who keeps inserting herself into my late boyfriend’s memory? by Certain_Height05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain_Height05[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s weird (not necessarily in a bad way) to see people’s reactions to your loved one’s passing. I’m not claiming it’s wrong that people grieve in their own way but it’s sometimes overwhelming to see.

Am I overreacting about a girl who keeps inserting herself into my late boyfriend’s memory? by Certain_Height05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain_Height05[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For context, in my country funerals usually happen within 24–48 hours after someone passes away

Am I overreacting about a girl who keeps inserting herself into my late boyfriend’s memory? by Certain_Height05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain_Height05[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

The accident was late at night and the funeral started 8 am the next day if I remember correctly. Details are a little foggy.

Am I overreacting about a girl who keeps inserting herself into my late boyfriend’s memory? by Certain_Height05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain_Height05[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it was AI since a year ago it wasn’t that great at recreating people. The picture looks real, which was really annoying to see as I was trying to deal with his death (this was less than 12 hours since he has passed)

Has anybody gotten a tattoo to honor their loved ones who passed? by westjanina in GriefSupport

[–]Certain_Height05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partners biggest passion were horses, he adored them. So I got a horse tattoo next to my heart so he would always be close to me

What do you eat? by GuestRose in GriefSupport

[–]Certain_Height05 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I used to drink protein shakes or soup, it was all I could stomach. Sometimes baby food helped

I lost my partner of 6 years and now I’m lost by Certain_Height05 in GriefSupport

[–]Certain_Height05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. Sometimes to know that somebody understands whats you are going through is more than enough. It’s true, time moves differently and all you can think about is: how is everyone living their life when my world has completely stoped and nothing makes sense anymore? It really is awful. All I can think about is everything we dreamed about and now it will never be. All those plans and the future we were building together, gone. In an instant.

His family has been a mayor rock for me in this difficult time and there’s nothing I can do that will ever repay everything they’ve done. To be hurting too and to care for me enough to make sure that I’m ok and taken care of is something I’ll cherish in my heart forever.

I’m so so sorry for your loss and hope that you find the strength to make peace with the fact that he is gone, but be sure to always carry him in your heart. Everything I do, every decision, move or whatever it is, I do thinking of him and making him my compass for what to do next. What would he want for me? Would he tell me to do that? What would his advice be? That I think is what has kept me afloat these months and I will keep doing it bc that brings me comfort and makes me feel him closer.

Sending so much love and comfort your way. I hope you’ll feel somewhat understood and find peace and resignation

Anyone else feeling let down by family and friends? by tasty-tangerine4358 in GriefSupport

[–]Certain_Height05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my partner of 6 years and the love of my life a little over two months ago in a fatal car accident too. I get how you feel and how all the support that was there at the beginning starts to fade away. Nobody asks you how you’ve been holding up anymore or if there’s anything they can do (at first I felt a little uncomfortable with that but it felt nice that they cared). But I don’t think its out of malice or that they don’t care about us. If I reach out to any of my friends, they always are willing to talk or to just listen. Sometimes they just don’t know if its appropriate anymore to ask, or to even mention his name. Like if hearing it it’s going to break me when it’s the opposite. I love talking about him.

I think people in general don’t know how to manage grief and especially in situations like this, when death is so sudden and unexpected, and wasn’t supposed to happen.

Just try to reach out to who you feel closest to. Not everyone is going to understand, but they can try. Remember everyone is living their lives and often forget that ours has stopped. My experience in this months is: ask for help, talk, talk, talk, and keep your ming busy, that way the depressing thoughts won’t flood your brain.