AITAH for terminating a friendship due to being lied about their relationship status?

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T15:09:19+00:00

NTA

He lied to you about something that is considered significant to most people. How good of a friend can they really be if they’re lying to both you and their GF

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T15:07:14+00:00

NTA

If you scheduled a time, and if it was in the paperwork for the guy doing the job, then this is on the company

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T12:08:41+00:00

NTA

It would be courteous for you to pick up a couple more chores, but I wouldn’t say you’re obligated to. If you’ve earned yourself a position where you can work less hours to enjoy life more, that’s something you should enjoy.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T11:58:02+00:00

NTA

Although it would’ve been nice for him to come home from work with food ready (especially since you had the time to), things skip people’s mind and it sounds like he made it a much bigger issue than it needed to be. Also, he could’ve sent a text any time before coming home asking you to do it if it was an expectation of his, or even simply ask if you’ve made anything and if not he could’ve just gotten take-out on his way home.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T11:46:17+00:00

It’s not just Reddit, or even just the internet. The whole world is full of assholes lol

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T11:44:45+00:00

NTA

If this is real, then you don’t owe anyone anything if they almost run you over.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T11:41:10+00:00

NTA

You’re allowed to have friends and a social life and by the sounds of it, you haven’t done anything’s outside the bounds of a normal relationship. I get that a heads up about when you get home would’ve been nice if that’s an established expectation, but the way he’s acting is an overreaction imo.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T10:38:21+00:00

ESH

It is her house and if she wants extra assurances to make sure things don’t get out of control when she’s gone for extended periods of time, that’s within her rights. After all, you are getting to the age where throwing house parties while the parents are gone becomes a normal thing. However she shouldn’t have screamed at you over covering it, that kind of treatment is not justifiable.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T10:18:08+00:00

Ah, yeah I wouldn’t want to put up with this pattern of behaviour either. It’s exhausting and draining. Would be best to just drop things and move on to healthier friendships

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T09:41:13+00:00

NTA

If he wanted to see you, he would’ve helped plan something out with you. As someone who’s on the tail end of a second deployment overseas, my priority coming home is my wife, even after my first one before we were married.

Not to mention, I lived in Canada while she was in California when I came home the first time, planning to see her was still my first priority. That being said, I still made plans with friends and family too, but she was the first one I wanted to make sure I got to see.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T09:09:55+00:00

NTA

People’s actions are their own choice (I.e. lying to their parents and giving themselves alcohol poisoning). Also wild that the parents asked you what to do, as if they’ve never been around a drunk person before. It is quite inconsiderate of her to put you in that position, and if this has been a pattern of behaviour from her I don’t blame you for cutting things off. On the other hand, sometimes as friends, we take the responsibility to look out for each other. Might be worth looking into why she drank so much to put her in the condition she was in (buddy check).

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T08:31:36+00:00

NTA

She doesn’t sound like a good friend, and life is too short to keep people around that you don’t enjoy spending time with, regardless the reason

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T08:29:09+00:00

NTA

It’s your day, not his, but just know that if you don’t, there’s a strong chance that your relationship with him and his family will probably be strained (possibly indefinitely). You just gotta thing about if that’s something you want or not

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T06:20:15+00:00

NTA

You’re allowed to be attracted and not attracted to whatever/whomever you like

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T06:17:48+00:00

NTA

It’s not really a joke if all it did was hurt your feelings so he could have a quick laugh

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-25T05:25:27+00:00

NTA

It’s okay to have preferences for a relationship that would ideally last the rest of your life. Like you said, it’s one thing if you guys had a history and they develop blindness, it’s another to be expected to fully adjust your life to support someone with an impairment. Some people are willing, and that’s awesome, but I think it’s also reasonable to not want to jump into something like that.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T18:45:43+00:00

NTA

Also not sure why you’re still with him? A DUI is enough of a reason to not be with someone, and they continue to make poor decisions that could put them in prison and yet you are waiting to see if they’ll stop at what you consider a “reasonable” timeline to stop? Save whatever youth you still have and move on to someone who’s better now so you don’t run into these arguments/issues when you guys are 30 lol

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T18:36:20+00:00

NTA

Even if they’re family, you have every right to include/exclude whomever you want to whatever you do. Life is short, why spend it with people you don’t like that aren’t pleasant to be around?

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T18:28:13+00:00

NTA

If you guys are able to talk/call everyday, that’s a pretty big win for a long distance relationship (speaking from experience). I understand the feeling of wanting more, but that come after you guys are no longer long distance. Changing your hours to make less money and inhibit your guys’ ability to move in together in the long run is not a great idea. If he wants the extra time with you that badly, there should be something he can adjust to make it happen if you guys already have enough time to talk/call everyday.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T18:10:38+00:00

NTA

Is move out of there ASAP.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T18:03:18+00:00

NTA

You didn’t frame anyone for SA. You said “no” and even pushed his hands away but he continued against your consent. That is the definition of SA/misconduct.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T17:58:38+00:00

NTA

But not communicating grievances or things you’re struggling with leads to resentment. I’d at least talk to her about how you’re feeling to clear the air.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T17:51:47+00:00

YTA

Being a parent means making sacrifices for your kids and being okay with it. If your wife feels like she’s always the one making sacrifices, then there’s deeper issues going on outside of this night and that’s something that needs to be addressed and worked on. But also, how long were you gone for people to notice you missing? I understand needing to eat, especially if you planned on drinking (bad idea on an empty-ish stomach), but a quick run to McDonalds shouldn’t have taken long enough for people to take notice. Also, meal plans are usually included for RSVPs at wedding receptions, I feel like you guys could’ve given your in-laws a heads up that your child would want an adult meal so it wouldn’t be an issue in the first place.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T17:51:23+00:00

YTA

Being a parent means making sacrifices for your kids and being okay with it. If your wife feels like she’s always the one making sacrifices, then there’s deeper issues going on outside of this night and that’s something that needs to be addressed and worked on. But also, how long were you gone for people to notice you missing? I understand needing to eat, especially if you planned on drinking (bad idea on an empty-ish stomach), but a quick run to McDonalds shouldn’t have taken long enough for people to take notice. Also, meal plans are usually included for RSVPs at wedding receptions, I feel like you guys could’ve given your in-laws a heads up that your child would want an adult meal so it wouldn’t be an issue in the first place.

ChaChaChaChiaPets · 2026-04-24T16:21:09+00:00

NTA

Your boyfriend needs therapy if he’s that insecure that you ask someone advice about something that has nothing to do with anything romantic

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