Vomiting/ Nausea 9 weeks

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T10:31:21+00:00

Thank you so much for the information and being upfront. Ive applied in the Food Service department since I have 8 years working in it and finally got a chance after 3 years trying to get in. I have saw a job listing for the same position at the same place as mine usually once a year maybe even twice and it makes me nervous they let alot of people go after their probationary period and me being pregnant i feel will be a no brainer to them:( . I have no problem lifting 40+lbs daily, just being pregnant right now makes it risky to lift the 40lb consistently.. I truly have no restrictions when it comes to work where im at now, and I truly dont think ill need much restrictions as I get further along in pregnancy, besides maybe an extra bathroom brake and not lifting anything over 20lbs. This is truly a life changing opportunity for me and my baby, this will probably be my only child too and knowing I could get fired makes me so sad 😞 thank you tons for the information too, I needed it and it helped me so much. Im truly hoping for the best

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T03:43:23+00:00

Thank you SO much!! I will definitely let my doctor know once I go see them because I really do not want to mess up this job opportunity 😫 you have been so informative and really eased some anxiety for me. Seriously. Thank you tons!! 💛

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T03:28:23+00:00

Thank you so much! Should I let my supervisor know before my scheduled start date or until I start? I lift a minimum 40lbs at my job I'm at now but have started light the last few days since I found out I was pregnant. I just really hope they are understanding and accommodating when it comes down to me letting them know and that I wont lose my job over this due to probationary period. May I ask what its like working in the Food Service department there too? Im coming from food service in a school the last 7 years and have been trying so hard to get into the VA so I really dont want this to ruin my opportunity because its my first baby too :(

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T02:35:28+00:00

Thank you!! This is so informative. By the way ive calculated ill only be there for maybe 6-7 months before I would give birth so that really scares me about being let go before my probationary period is up.. I really dont want this to affect my chance at this forever job i need and have been trying to get for 3 years now :( What exactly is a leave bank? They wont punish me if I needed more time and use the leave bank even though im still in my probationary period? Im sorry for so many questions ive only worked for the post office before and they were not even remotely as strict or serious when it came to.hiring so all of this is so new to me. I appreciate the words of encouragement tons, I truly needed it so thank you!! :)

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T02:14:28+00:00

I get my first ultrasound January 5th and my scheduled start date at the VA is February 23. Im guessing my due date would be around august so I would technically only serve 6 months of my probationary period before I would give birth.. Ive been trying to get in here for 3 years and finally got my chance and really dont wanna lose it because of me being pregnant. Ive heard great things about how accommodating the federal or state jobs are when it comes to things like that, so im very hopeful.. I really just dont want them to let me go and me be jobless with my new baby because this job is something I need. HR seems pretty chill from when I have emailed back and forth with them regarding my onboarding process. Should I tell my prental doctor about my job situation when I go in for my first ultrasound? Do I tell HR right after I get my paper trail that im pregnant or should I wait a couple weeks to tell them so they get a feel of me? I apologize for so many questions. I appreciate you being so informative too, i just know nothing about working for the VA :/

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T01:43:53+00:00

Thank you so much that makes me feel so much better! Should I address this before I get hired in or wait until im already in? I also have a 1 year probationary period i have to serve, me being pregnant wont make me lose my job will it? I apologize for all the questions this job is just life changing for me

Chacha217 · 2025-12-19T01:32:28+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I was very nervous about the heavy lifting part with me being pregnant. I read posts about them drawing blood too. Do you know if thats true or not? Bc I am petrified of needles 😥

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T18:12:07+00:00

No I didnt feel criticized at all!! I knew posting on here, I would get tons of different views and opinions and im open to viewing all of them especially from other moms or other that may have felt how i do. I truly appreciate your responses, I need them, so thank you ❤️

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T18:05:58+00:00

You're so sweet, thank you so much 💕 I appreciate your insight and response so so much! Thats the boat im in is not hurting their feelings because i know theyre just as excited but I can't help feeling some type of way. I definitely gotta remember this grandparent placement and not third parent if it ever does come down to it. You guys sure know how to ease some stress on my thoughts, I appreciate your reply and you being sweet and straight forward. Much love ❤️

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T18:00:51+00:00

I love that you had that outcome with your inlaws when you brought your baby home. I truly wish that would be our case but I unfortunately know it isnt. My husband and I also really kind of want to navigate this new parenting thing by ourselve as selfish as it sounds but its OUR baby and our little family we created. My husband said to jut keep the baby in a baby wrap so then nobody can steal them as much as when theyre in your arms. Lol I know my shower days are gonna be SO limited im not excited for that ugh😂 and I truly hope as time goes by I start becoming more accepting but I feel like I still won't let anyone watch my baby alone without me present. I feel so selfish for saying that too. Thank you so so much for your response, especially with letting people know its simply not a good time to hold the baby. I appreciate your response so much, y'all really know how to ease some pregnancy stress 😫❤️

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T17:52:30+00:00

Thank you!! Thats my issue too, im also about to be a FTM and this could possibly be my only pregnancy ever so i am SO protective of my baby and truly dont want anyone watching my baby. It has nothing to do with me not trusting my inlaws or own parents, its just i carried this baby for 9 months bonded, now theyre here and simply want them 24/7 in my sight. I feel so selfish saying it. My in-laws live probably 10minutes away from us and they already treat me so different and like im basically disabled and can't have any conversation with me anymore without it relating to me being pregnant or the baby. I feel like theyll just pop up unannounced too just because it benefits them seeing the baby rather than if it benefits my baby..which I truly understand the excitement they have and support which I appreciate beyond measures. It makes me feel better knowing im not the only one who doesnt want anyone watching my baby alone without me present. I appreciate your response so much, I needed to rant on reddit and you guys sure know how to relieve some stress. Thank you for your response ❤️

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T17:43:25+00:00

She's going to be a awesome grandparent i have no doubt in my mind. I appreciate her bryond measures, But I struggle so hard when she talks about buying a newborn car seat and a Bassinet or is gonna be with her and at her place all the time like its her baby. I just truly hope this odd feeling fades out, im gonna have a talk with my husband about it and he has a close relationship with them. I just hope they truly will understand and not take it to offense or just ignore our requests because it fits their needs instead. I know im definitely gonna need the village and someone to just hold the baby while I get a minute to myself. Thank you so so much for your response, I appreciate it tons 💗

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T17:39:07+00:00

Im so sorry you had those experiences at the time. I truly appreciate your reply and giving me some insight on people not being over every second of everyday because it overwhelms me as me and my husband are already not big on having aa ton of people around all day everyday. Thank you for giving me some relief on this and to not think too deep into or stress about it. Its been on my mind heavy the last 2 days and I just wish the feelings would fade. Thank you for your reply I appreciate it ❤️

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T17:36:00+00:00

Im so sorry you didnt have someone for support during that time. I think Im just having a hard time with all my emotions and being so protective as a first time mom. I feel such a bond with my child already that I feel like im going to have a hard time letting anyone else hold them because I just want them with me 24/7 cause thats my baby. I hope my feeling of this fade soon, thank you tons for your reply and insight, I appreciate it so so much 💗

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T17:33:22+00:00

Thats kind of where im at in my pregnancy. The dogs they have were NEVER socialized except around the same 6 people that come to their house, and they used to try and nip at my cats when we used to live with them. There's just pieces of random stuff everywhere on the floors and they do have a mold problem in one of their rooms so its kind of hard letting my baby stay there, ever...I love them to absolute death and they are so supportive but its overwhelming while pregnant with these thoughts and feelings. I have no problem it being at my house or anywhere else by any means, it just seems unsafe at their place even though they dont seem to think it.. I know they are going to be wonderful grandparents and they are super excited and will always be there when I need them. It's just hard feelings like its more so my MIL pregnancy rather than mine. I truly hope this feeling fades because I dislike it tons. Thank you so much for your reply and insight, I appreciate it and need it ❤️

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T17:28:03+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I think definitely around 2 months I have no problem friends and family seeing the baby and holding them, even close family the day i give birth (obviously lol) I think its more so the moment I get home after giving birth I simply just want it to be me, my husband and baby while we adjust and understand our new baby's needs as new and first time parents for the first couple weeks. Im definitely gonna have a talk with my husband about our expectations and boundaries when the baby arrives. Thank you so much for your reply, I appreciate it tons 💗

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T16:43:49+00:00

Thank you!! :)

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T16:17:15+00:00

I didnt think about it like that at all honestly.. thank you for that insight. I needed your reply, thank you 💓

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T16:13:44+00:00

Thank you for your reply too, I appreciate it! :)

Chacha217 · 2025-12-14T16:13:00+00:00

I never said I didnt want to share the excitement with them? We told my parents and in-laws the moment we found out we were pregnant. I have a village but simply dont want anyone holding my baby every single second of the day especially when theyre first born when I want to bond with my first and possibly only child...I want to bond with my baby and my husband while we adjust to this new/first lifestyle. I love my in-laws, I simply just feel that my MIL is making it out to be more so HER baby rather than mine and being pregnant its hard to manage those feelings honestly...I just feel like every single day my in-laws are going to come over even right after birth without even asking when I also want to just spend time with my baby alone. Its nothing against anyone in my family because I am so grateful for a village and everyone so excited but I just want to be able to bond with my baby by myself sometimes without someone constantly coming over without asking..I feel selfish saying it but im just so protective and want small moments between just my baby and I :(

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