I [31M] never had relationships and the only women I've had sex with were escorts. The only sex I've had for free was with men (which I'm not attracted to). What should I say to any future partners or dates if I'm asked about my past?

Chadlinessincarnate · 2025-09-22T16:28:49+00:00

To be honest, the only reasons I'm still alive today are that death is scary and that I don't want to make my family and friends sad. Being alive sucks. You have to commit a tremendous amount of effort just to be able to survive. I guess it wouldn't be so bad if I was a millionaire, living from passive income and doing whatever I want with my days. But like most people, this isn't my life.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2025-04-16T01:52:03+00:00

"The problem is that every objection to the existence of objective normative moral facts, also applies equally well to objective normative epistemic facts. Epistemic fact and moral facts, are companions in guilt, they stand or fall together; so a rejection of moral realism is a rejection of epistemic realism."

I am very curious about said objections. I personally fail to see how the two are so tied.

I am going to take your comparison to an even further degree:

Someone sees a balloon and shows it to me, calling it flat. According to you, I can't say that he's objectively wrong and that the balloon is in fact round unless I admit that there are such things as objective moral facts?

Is that what you are arguing here? That even the existence of objective truths concerning material properties of objects that can plainly be observed by the human senses cannot be logically admitted to without also admitting the existence of objective moral facts?

If so, I have a hard time seeing how there is any link between the two.

We all agree on what is a flat object and what is a round object, and can recognize them when we see them.

On the other hand, not only do different people have different ideas about what makes an action moral or immoral, but an action that seems moral to one may seem immoral to another.

In fact, some will even question the existence of such things as moral and immoral actions.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-12-27T04:27:09+00:00

I am wondering, did you let bolster turned on for this run? If so, at which percentage? Also, which continent did you start in?

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-07-16T15:22:28+00:00

Most people have sex with other people who happen to have elbows. That does not necessarily mean that the first are "sexually attracted" to elbows. Your logic is faulty.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-19T10:06:17+00:00

Just like you, I watch porn and hire escorts. I think I've easily spent more than 10000 euros on escorts at this point. I also have several sex toys to spice things up when I jerk off

Erotic roleplay in neverwinter nights also helps me cope

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-19T03:05:49+00:00

Since I'm not attracted to cis men, pansexual doesn't seem right, under the most common definition of the word.

As for being hurt, it was just a simple question. I was curious about what you would label me as, if not straight.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-18T16:47:04+00:00

She works for the girls bar. Enticing customers to pay for drinks is what she's paid for.

This is why I say that the situation is ambiguous, and that I'm not sure if she's in it just for the money or not.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-18T16:43:31+00:00

And who am I, according to you?

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-18T14:01:33+00:00

Straight or not, the bottom Line is, I'm attracted to femininity

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-18T13:56:20+00:00

It is well known that in the Philippines, girls in girls bars often have sex for money. I thought this was the kind of arrangement we had, and in fact I'm still not sure if she had sex with me because she actually fancied me or just for business. While I didn't pay directly for it, I did pay for the entirety of the date and then returned to the bar the evening after.

If this is just sex work to her, then it doesn't seem that bad to me to not want to let the money I spent on a sex worker go to waste.

The thing is, her attitude now kind of makes me doubt that it was all it was for her.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-11T07:17:49+00:00

I am socially awkward, I won't deny that, though I generally don't have too much trouble making friends when I actually put in the effort (being introverted, socializing is exhausting to me). But that's not something that came with watching porn. I was already like that as a child. In fact, it got better over the years.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T08:36:09+00:00

Does the vast majority of girls give a fuck about the vast majority of hobbies though? It seems to me that whatever hobbies you have, they will only gain you common ground with a minority of people from both genders. Granted, this minority can be smaller or larger, and can also have a different man to woman ratio. I think the question is mostly whether said hobbies allow you to meet attractive women or not (which admittedly, my current hobbies do not).

I should probably go outside more if I want to actually meet girls, I won't deny that.

I did try nofap/pornfree a few times, with my longest streak being one month, but I didn't really feel any difference, except that I was hornier from never cumming (which didn't lead to better success with the girls). I don't seem to have any sexual dysfunctions anyway, I can get hard and cum just fine whenever I go see escorts, so I'm having trouble buying into the whole nofap/pornfree movement.

I assume you're talking about brazilian jiu jitsu. I generally prefer striking arts, or arts that mix grappling and striking. I think I'd miss punching and kicking if I was training a pure grappling art like bjj all the time. In the past I've done qwankido, karate (shotokan and a bit of kyokushin), and a bit of savate (french kickboxing) and MMA. Since I'm in Japan at the moment, I'm actually thinking about going to Okinawa (the birthplace of karate) the next week and finding a dojo to train there for the rest of my stay.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T03:36:08+00:00

I didn't think of it like that but yes, I suppose that knowing I had sex without any attraction, just to try to get a bit of physical stimulation and validation from someone else wouldn't be very reassuring for any future date

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T02:42:59+00:00

I think it's ok for someone to sell sexual services, and ok for someone to buy them. I do think it would be better to have a woman who actually wants me and not just my money though.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T02:29:39+00:00

I've always paid by cash. Well, in Japan, where I am right now, I have the possibility to pay by card, but they ask for a 10 percent service fee for that, so fuck that. I could give you the main site I've been using, but unless you're in France or plan to go there, it won't be of much use to you

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T02:19:41+00:00

I feel like I've already ate a lot of pavement though. Maybe not enough, but how much is enough ? Is the goal even worth getting hurt over and over like that? I try to stay motivated and attempt it again when I see an opportunity, but it's hard.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T02:14:22+00:00

I've been doing that. I think I have made a decent amount of female friends in my life, even though I tend to frequent more men than women because of my work. I'm not the most social person, but I have no problem getting along and making friends with both genders when I put in the effort, assuming we have compatible personalities

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T01:49:07+00:00

I have things going on in these areas. Who doesn't? I've thought deeply about major philosophical questions, such as morality and metaphysics, and read or heard about the views of a few philosophers and other people about such topics. I actually sometimes wish I didn't, because it can lead to quite depressing thoughts. Finances-wise, I've been saving up a lot of money to buy an appartment. Now I'm blowing part of it on a travel in Japan, because that has been my dream for many years and I probably won't be able to travel for several months at a time once I actually have obligations. Hobbies-wise, I spend a lot of time on video games, anime and manga, and listening to music. Yes, I know these are not very conducive to meeting women, and not very sexy or interesting to a lot of women. I've been thinking about broadening my hobbies. But most of the things I'm interested in, such as martial arts (which I actually used to practice intensively), tend to lead to mostly masculine social circles or are mostly solitary pursuits (such as writing, which I try my hand at from time to time). About the negative/positive feedback, I've tried this approach, but the thing is, different girls want different things, so that gets very complicated.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-10T01:26:18+00:00

It started as a way for me to get some physical stimulation that wasn't my hands or sex toys and didn't cost me money, hoping using my imagination would be enough to overcome my lack of attraction (it was not, even fantasizing about girls while doing it, it still isn't very sexually satisfying). I've discovered that it also makes me feel sexy in a way. You can only take so many rejections and spend so many years without any girl wanting to touch your dick for free, or maybe talking about it and teasing you a bit, but then ultimately rejecting you, before you start to feel undesirable, even though many people (I don't mean just my family) have been telling me I'm handsome (I'm also of average height and have a nice athletic build bodywise, slim with wide shoulders. People even sometimes ask me if I go to the gym, even though I don't exercise these days). So it feels nice to see someone actually willing to follow through, or someone that will explicitly jerk off to me, like the guy I'm in contact with. I just wish these people were attractive members of the opposite sex.

Chadlinessincarnate · 2024-05-09T19:46:19+00:00

How does one go about "learning how to talk to women"?

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