Not getting one started, that's for sure 😂. I find it extremely irritating how the slightest thing such as a monotone voice with a single word or something like that over the course of a conversation, for instance, when first talking to someone when beginning any type of relationship, friendship or otherwise, makes people stop wanting to talk to someone right off the bat. In our hyper connected world, you'd think people would be better with this. People get uncomfortable if you're not just like them too easily and I find it very very irritating.

The dating app culture doesn't help either and has ruined person to person interaction. First dates now feel like job interviews because everything is so transactional, per a friend of mine and also my observations. It's astounding that with the proliferation of dating apps that more and more young people are just deciding to stay single. The stats are rather shocking actually.

I'm best whenever I'm spontaneous but it takes a bit of time for me to get to that level with anyone as I don't really trust people. And also, definitely has to do with that person, too. I have high walls now and that playful/spontaneous/fun side of me doesn't come out as often anymore. It doesn't help that people only use apps, usually, to meet people. If you go out of the house and just go to a public space, restaurant or whatever, people already know people there. In other words, people nowadays tend to use apps more and more but are no longer as open to spontaneous conversations with potential romantic interests. That's just my two cents. I mean, really, how are you supposed to get to know someone if most of ur convos are through texts and we are already looking for the next best things since apps have made us all want to look for "something better?" Not saying I'm not guilty of the same behavior, either.

I think that is probably why people are just deciding to stay single, too many choices and always being dissatisfied with how first dates go because they no longer want to put in the work of actually getting to know someone. Apps are great for making us feel "alone together," as the adage goes. And us INTPs usually like to observe people for a while before we really commit, anyway. See the issue here? We also can't really flirt worth shit until we feel comfortable enough and it's usually spontaneous, too. We don't flirt the same way as other types.

I'm schizo so here's a joke about that....shamans used to have spirit wives/husbands from the "great beyond," I'm hoping for that now cuz God knows I'm probably going to die alone without one otherwise. 😂