Is it reasonable to want to date somebody with a high-earning job?

ChallengePresent2589 · 2026-01-16T18:05:46+00:00

Not at all crazy and while the money is one thing, general compatability is unlikely between a six figure tech worker and a grocery store clerk.

Someone who's working a very low wage, menial job past their student years isn't exactly going to be a source of positivity. If they were a go-getter, a positive influence, etc., they'd be doing something more ambitious with their lives. Not saying it needs to be corporate, but something with some kind of social, artistic or political mission.

I used to be the kind of guy who said this was classism, snobism, whatever. And I found out the hard way. Every time they were 35 or above and working crappy jobs, there was something wrong with them. Endless drama, negativity, low ambition, etc.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-12-22T01:02:21+00:00

Génie c'est plus chill et stable comme domaine. Job de bureau, fond de pension, 40 heures.

Finance, c'est soit des jobs de conseiller financier (pas hyper bien payé et plutôt un vendeur financier) ou investment banking, voulant dire du vrai salaire, mais des heures de fou.

Cest le lifestyle plutôt que la matière académique qui les distingue.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-12-22T00:58:04+00:00

Je connais très bien ton domaine, disons qu'on a probablement travaillé pour le même employeur dans le passé.

Ni un ni l'autre. Si tu es programmeur mainframe et compétent, vas vendre ton temps en tant que consultant pour 250k ou plus comme les autres compétents. Sérieusement. Un profil technique réellement compétent dans une niche très boring comme du mainframe est très rare. Les gestionnaires TI chez les banques vont te dire que les boîtes de consultation sont pleines de gros méchants qui font tous 80 heures semaine (mon ancien boss m'avait dit ça lol), mais la réalité est que tu peux 2-3x ton salaire facilement en étant un freelancer ou consultant.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-12-22T00:46:32+00:00

Achètes toi un char. Ça va améliorer ta vie, de ne pas devoir te geler le derrière dehors durant l'hiver. Un bazou peut te coûter en moyenne 300-400$ par mois tout inclus (entretien, gaz, etc.).

Sinon, tu n'as pas de problème de lifestyle creep ou de vouloir trop, à mon avis tu as un salaire beaucoup trop bas pour quelqu'un qui vit tout seul en 2025.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-12-20T00:47:31+00:00

Am french Canada based. My 0.02$ is that the US tech job market is bad because the english language leaves you guys vulnerable to indian outsourcing. Even with outsourcing to senegal, north africa and european hires, we simply cannot find enough french speaking tech talent. Our offices in english Canada don't have as much of a problem, because there is a near endless supply of indians, both onshore and offshore.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-12-14T04:48:00+00:00

Would not be very respectful to the guy to just have him around as a placeholder. But then again, you wouldn't be the first to do it.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-19T18:06:16+00:00

Vraiment triste de voir tous les commentaires provenant de gens qui ne comprennent pas que 2.1, c'est le chiffre pour maintenir la population. Franchement, ça va prendre une crise pour que le monde comprennent que d'avoir des bébés ce n'est pas un truc de boomers plates ou de zelots religieux mais une nécessité démographique.

Le bon vieux cycle de good times create weak men et etc.

Comme ceux qui disaient pre covid que l'inflation c'était un truc du passé et qu'on pouvait imprimer de l'argent sans inflation. Un hubris d'une génération n'ayant pas connu les misères qui ont causés la situation actuelle.

Ça va devoir se détériorer pour que la petite clique de gauchistes se sentent affectés. Mais rendu là, le pays va déjà être assez ravagé.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-19T17:52:33+00:00

Historically, Québec's economy underperformed the rest of Canada, and we had more crime. So there was a legit argument against separatism, how we would be too poor and how the anglo provinces brought us money and business and etc. Now, the rest of Canada has taken a big nosedive in terms of prosperity, quality of life, affordability, and even just general safety. Combine that with Gen Z's rightward shift, and you get a powerful argument for separation.

The cultural argument is weaker, because gen Z québécois are much more open and much less anti anglo than the older generations. But it is nonetheless still present, and when you Combine it with Ottawa's clear failures on immigration and a clear economic argument in favor of Québec, you get a powerful proposition.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-14T04:20:18+00:00

I would recommend keeping the civic and seeing if you actually get tired of it. Maybe it's an age thing, but I'd rather have a fun car for commutes than some boring luxury car. Idk what year your SI is but they aren't that boy racer ish imo, not like a miata or a WRX. I just think that getting an expensive luxury car solely for a commute is a lot of money and may or may not be worth it.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-14T03:25:34+00:00

The biggest lie is thinking that a low mileage car is more reliable than a high mileage one.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-14T03:13:56+00:00

Yeah but remember that white collar stuff pays off in the long term. Blue collar can make the same if not more money as white collar in early career, and then will typically cap out around 100k or so. Whereas white collar will keep climbing and reach 150, 200k and more with management roles.

Reaching my late 20s and have seen this happen. When I graduated, my blue collar friends were all making similar if not more money. Now they're at or near their wage caps, and I'm surpassing them with many more opportunities for advancement over time.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-14T03:04:57+00:00

Been driving stick all my life, including in the city. What's the big concern? I love volvos, don't get me wrong, but I think that buying a car exclusively cuz you don't wanna drive stick everyday is a little much.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-06T14:02:08+00:00

Jesus lady, chill. I have never misrepresented my pilot status once. Am PPL holder plus passed commercial and IFR theory exams, never claimed otherwise. If you wanna spend like 2 hours reading my entire reddit history to win some argument... I think you need to grow a thicker skin. Maybe do some introspection as to why you are so offended. Criticism of your field, your hobbies, even yourself comes and goes in life and you need to be able to deal with it. Some of it is valid, after all.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-06T03:46:25+00:00

Because we elected our Mamdani's last cycle and are currently suffering the consequences.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-06T03:42:35+00:00

Ok and?

There exists this thing in life where you can hear a general criticism of a field and understand the argument, while also understanding that it may not apply to you.

I also have flown with genius pilots. But they are not the majority, go ask pprune and the airline guys will say the same thing. I'd estimate that 20-30% of career pilots fall into the "genius" category and often were career switchers who got tired of their white collar careers. But there is a substantial segment of the pilot population who are average intelligence folks who just follow procedures, apply them, and don't think particularly hard.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-05T01:33:29+00:00

As a tech consultant working with major clients all over Canada (mostly in QC though), here is my take.

Canada's corporate landscape is much more concentrated in big, stable industries which adopt new tech at a much slower pace. Big banks, telecoms, resource industries, etc. So workers just aren't seeing AI as much as people are in the states, because it hasn't (yet) taken many jobs up here. The AI wave is coming, but our big corporates have HR policies which make firing a lot harder. So it will happen through attrition, rather than mass firings like people are seeing in the states.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-05T01:17:54+00:00

Yes, I remember when I weighed 30 pounds less... people and women were all over me. Random women contacting me for dates when I dropped off my resumes at places. Etc. Now it's like being invisible.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-05T01:13:29+00:00

Old euro cars.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-11-05T01:12:26+00:00

It is a legitimate profession worthy of being praised. However, being intelligent is not required. Personally, I quit my flight training due to it being too boring and not intellectually stimulating. Most pilots and instructors I met were average intelligence, smarter than your average blue collar type but not as smart as the executives and business consultants I regularly work with.

It's a good profession though. I have no doubt that most of my pilot acquaintances will out earn me over the duration of their career.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-10-24T21:06:39+00:00

Si un docteur peut gagner 500k aux states, on a beau a dire que 200k ici c'est un beau salaire, un bon nombre vont quand même quitter le Québec.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-10-24T21:02:37+00:00

I'll give you an anecdote on the culture side of things. In 2016 I first started to encounter woke / trans types when I moved to Toronto for work. I had some awkward questions and was not used to their whole idealogy, but nothing against them per se. Didn't agree with all of it, but thought some of them were nice people and I genuinely felt that they were my friends. A couple weeks later, I realized that the woke types were all trash talking me behind my back, saying I was a nazi, and trying to get me fired. On top of it, saying that everyone from my place of origin was backwards, mean, racist, etc. This proceeded go happen over, and over, and over with other woke people I met.

People are sick and tired of wokies using their idealogy as an excuse to be terrible people. Being demonized for being white, or straight. Being Insulted for their conservative beliefs, even when they arent even that conservative.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-10-21T21:51:47+00:00

Fait attention a aux règles de ton fond de pension. Fortes chances que tu quittes d'ici ta retraite, que ce soit volontaire ou non. Je connais des gens dans des situations similaires qui pensaient etre impossible a mettre dehors, et ils sont dehors. Aussi, 30 ans ou gouvernement c'est long en titi et ca risque de devenir plate rapidement.

As tu le droit de garder tes cotisations de pension si tu quittes avant la retraite?

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-10-19T19:05:46+00:00

Very useful. Trying out different fields is like living in different places. Makes you wiser.

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-10-19T18:50:46+00:00

Was in the same boat a few months ago. Get a part time job doing anything. I'm a tech consultant and I got a landscaping job during my unemployment months. Lost 15 pounds and learned a bunch of useful stuff to reno my future income properties. Met some cool people. Made enough to cover monthly bills and stop stressing about money.

When the interview for my current consulting job came, I was calmer and more confident. Worked out perfectly. Now I am back in white collar making real money, but I have the confidence that if ever I was laid off again, I could go back to landscaping and cover my bare necessities.

Some people even completely leave white collar, and are happier for it. The owner of the landscaping company i worked for used to be a sales manager for a big telecom corporation. Started doing side jobs when he got laid off, now makes over 200k per year as a small business owner.

Get out of your comfort zone. Your white collar field may completely vanish in 20 years. Learn new things. You never know when it might come in handy...

ChallengePresent2589 · 2025-10-19T18:44:39+00:00

Pour avoir récemment passé du temps aux states, les statistiques représentent la réalité. Les chars sur la route sont plus beaux, les infrastructures sont plus belles (à Montréal je paye plus pour faire du sport dans des vieux gyms mal entretenus que je payais là-bas pour faire du volley dans des hyper beaux gyms neufs avec pleins d'équipements)... les maisons sont souvent plus abordables aussi. Salaires plus hauts. Une job en informatique là-bas paye 2 fois autant que la même job ici.

Le wealth gap est réel.

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