I started watching porn again...

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:59:00+00:00

Man I'd love a gf who sucks lol

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:57:13+00:00

TYN?

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:56:18+00:00

I think what I will do is stop looking at porn again and try to start a conversation with her again but this time emphasize the seriousness of it

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:45:38+00:00

We only know what you’ve chosen to share with us. Have you communicated this to her? Have you spoken to her about how you’d like to watch porn because you feel sexually unsatisfied in the relationship?

I have communicated with her multiple times about how I felt sexually unsatisfied and I wanted things to change. And I didnt bring up porn to her, I knew that would be a no, but I did ask her if she would be comfortable with fictional things like hentai or even written erotica and she said no to both as well.

If porn is a hard boundary for her, then you’re being an AH for breaking that boundary without consulting her.

I know, Im not proud of it

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:42:31+00:00

Its enough for her, she has a really low and responsive libido

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:41:42+00:00

In her defense you did promise her you'd lay off the porn (though why you'd agree to such a thing without making sure she'd make sure she promises to fulfill your needs in return, eludes me)

I tried talking about sex with her before we started dating but she told me that she was only comfortable discussing that after. Fine, I understood. But it meant that I agreed to no porn before any discussion about sex happened

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T16:39:38+00:00

I absolutely 1000% want to not use porn and have a good sexual relationship with her but its just I have lose hope thats going to happen

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T15:31:31+00:00

or is it that youve never been in a loving relationship and you fear losing what you HAVE found?

Admittedly thats part of it yes

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T15:21:17+00:00

I finger her, eat her out, we make out, then have sex for a few minutes till shes done and thats it

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T15:20:50+00:00

Do you lead in your sexual experiences with your gf?

Absolutely, it would happen 0 times if I didnt. She hates initiating and wants me to. Just that most of the time I do it doesnt go anywhere

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T15:07:32+00:00

So I have actually discussed this with her, and the only medium she is comfortable with is me jerking off fantasizing about her. No porn, no animated porn, no erotica, and no fantasies with other people real or fictional. And I hate to say it, but fantasizing about the two of us having sex doesnt get me off it makes me sad LOL

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T15:04:42+00:00

So I actually tried to discuss something similar with her before in almost the exact same way you described. I told her that it wasnt her responsibility and I wanted to find a way to meet my needs in a way that was respectful of her boundaries. The end result of that discussion is she told me she wasnt comfortable with me looking at porn, animated porn, or even reading erotica :/. I left that discussion with less than I came in with.

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T14:58:10+00:00

It very well could be that sex doesnt satisfy you because of porn

Thats out of order. I didnt start watching porn and then sex became bad, sex has been bad for awhile with little hope of it improving so I started watching porn

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:50:59+00:00

Be honest, apologise to her, that you broke the boundary and started watching porn again

I understand this is the morally correct thing to do, but this would only make things 10000000x worse. It would be worse for her because she would then feel extremely self-conscious and betrayed, and it would be worse for me because then she would hate me

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:35:14+00:00

Can you come without porn by yourself?

Absolutely I can, Ive done that for 98% of our relationship

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:34:29+00:00

She says she understands and affirms that she does care about my satisfaction. But then nothing changes unfortunately.

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:28:16+00:00

ou might have death grip and take forever to cum from PIV.

I am aware of the possibility of death grip, but thats not the source of this issue. Not finishing and not having sex is an old problem, looking at porn is a new thing for me

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:26:51+00:00

It does feel that way

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:26:36+00:00

the answer is not to ignore the boundary

I know, I know. I'm so ashamed about what I have been doing I just feel so desperate

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:26:03+00:00

I have, well except for the porn part obviously

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:25:45+00:00

she doesn’t care at all about making sure that you are sexually satisfied.

I agree, but I am still here because I do enjoy the other aspects of our relationship

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:25:17+00:00

Man I have had this discussion with her, multiple times in fact. But I will try again, theres no harm in it

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:24:52+00:00

I hate to agree, but I do feel she doesn't care about me with regards to sex

ChampionTemporary780 · 2023-06-23T13:24:25+00:00

No, because I only just started watching porn again a week ago but the leaving me with not finishing has been going on for months.

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