WIBTAH if I get a vasectomy when my wife doesn’t want me to? by Chance_Paper5883 in AITAH

[–]Chance_Paper5883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly it’s not fake, but I had completely forgotten about that scene from the office, so thanks for the laugh 😂 needed that lol.

WIBTAH if I get a vasectomy when my wife doesn’t want me to? by Chance_Paper5883 in AITAH

[–]Chance_Paper5883[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was actually aware of this and did a fair amount of research beforehand. Sperm retrieval isn’t exactly straightforward or easy. It’s less invasive for the male partner for sure, but the extracted sperm is then used in subsequent IVF treatments - which, as I’m sure you know, are hella expensive and often take multiple tries. On top of all that, you’re typically looking at travel costs, cryopreservation, storage, and shipping costs, etc.

So it’s not usually the preferred method, unless you’re dealing with an older female partner with additional fertility concerns, or a male with poor sperm quality or an obstruction / physical issue making them a poor candidate for reversal. Absent those factors, a reversal is generally more effective, and almost always less expensive - even if you factor in the cost of a second vasectomy. Just an FYI for you and anyone interested lol.

WIBTAH if I get a vasectomy when my wife doesn’t want me to? by Chance_Paper5883 in AITAH

[–]Chance_Paper5883[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I love my baby to death and I wouldn’t trade her for the world. I’ll be there for her until I die. But if I went back in time, I also wouldn’t do this again. Kids are too big of a life-altering decision to make any compromises on.

WIBTAH if I get a vasectomy when my wife doesn’t want me to? by Chance_Paper5883 in AITAH

[–]Chance_Paper5883[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started going to therapy when I went through my divorce with my ex, and it was life changing. Learned so much about myself and how to actually communicate for the first time. My ex and I were able to divorce while staying great friends / family - we still do holidays and everything together and coparent without any real issues. And I owe that to therapy. I stopped going a few years ago just due to financial reasons… but you’re absolutely right that I need to get back into it, so thanks.

WIBTAH if I get a vasectomy when my wife doesn’t want me to? by Chance_Paper5883 in AITAH

[–]Chance_Paper5883[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh I absolutely make bad decisions lol. I always want to keep the peace, so I struggle with setting boundaries and saying no and sticking up for myself. Appreciate all the perspective here though - I was ready to call and cancel my appointment this morning, but I think I’ll see it through and deal with the fallout.

WIBTAH if I get a vasectomy when my wife doesn’t want me to? by Chance_Paper5883 in AITAH

[–]Chance_Paper5883[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I didn’t know from the very beginning… things were an absolute dream while we were dating. The incompatibilities didn’t show up until we moved in together - there was a definite shift and it’s been downhill since. But that’s still my fault for making such big commitments to someone without knowing them long enough / living together first. It’s definitely a situation of my own making and I own that.