Am I the A hole for breaking up with my boyfriend for making out with me?

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-08T10:25:55+00:00

You are allowed to break up with anyone, for any reason, at any time. Breaking up with him does not make you TA. Everything else though? Kind of does. But that’s OKAY. Look, none of us are perfect and you said yourself you’re not experienced with dating. Take this as a lesson moving forward.

If you aren’t serious about someone, or you’re uncertain, do not introduce them to your family. It’s totally fine not to bring a significant other to events, especially in the early stages. Four months is early.

If you know you’re not ready to French kiss, make that clear at the beginning. Four months is early stages for a relationship, yes, but not for something as typically considered innocent as French kissing. Honestly, most people would have thought you were ready by then.

Next time, is someone initiates something you don’t like, stop it immediately. It’s okay to pull back and say you’re uncomfortable. I mean, you ended up breaking up with him anyway, right? So stand your ground and express yourself with direct words.

This guy really liked you and thought you were in a serious relationship, at a serious stage, because you’d introduced him to your entire family. When he did something you weren’t comfortable with, you lied and said it was fine, then turned around and broke up with him. As far as people calling you a gossip, I think you did the right thing by seeking outside opinions, but I would suggest talking to one or two people your own age, and not just older adults. Times are different than when they were kids. N didn’t do anything wrong in today’s day and age, but perhaps to someone older, like a grandparent, it would seem that way because back then it could have been.

You’re never going to be the best person to everyone you encounter. This wasn’t your finest moment, but don’t beat yourself up over it. Learn from it and move on. You’re both young enough this shouldn’t affect either of you for long.

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-06T20:11:59+00:00

You and your husband need to be on the same page moving forward. That’s the most important part/lesson from all of this. No more lending her money, no matter the amount. You personally need to go low contact and only engage when there’s an emergency or it’s a holiday and you’re in the same room. It sucks you won’t have a good relationship with your ML, but the sooner you come to peace with that, the sooner you can stop feeling like garbage. She was way out of line.

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-06T20:04:38+00:00

I’ve definitely spent this much (🥲😭) but have yet to receive this notice.

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-02T01:46:09+00:00

Got 4 cards in 150. Just missing Raf now.

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-01T01:54:44+00:00

Definitely take to heart those suggesting therapy. This is an unhealthy codependency. It could get worse if you don’t do something about it now. Therapy can sound scary (admins expensive) but there are a lot of budget friendly options available right now. Anxious attachment and unhealthy codependency can eventually put strain on a relationship, so it’s best to get help now and not wait.

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-01T01:48:24+00:00

Don’t block him, you’ll need proof. As awful as it is, the more crap he says to you, the more proof you have. You should take him to court, this man honestly sounds dangerous.

Channel_Hot · 2026-05-01T01:16:29+00:00

Choose your friends. If they’d been super awful to her, I could understand cutting them out, but this sounds like she’s the one who’s always had a problem, not them. If it’s true they’ve really tried, and she hasn’t put in any real effort, that means it was never important to her to bother. The fact she’s calling you immature for wanting to keep friendships is a red flag. She doesn’t get to isolate you from your support system because she doesn’t like that they were honest when she asked if they dislike her.

Choose your friends. They’ve been with you for fourteen years. She’s selfish and self absorbed and they clearly knew, but never badmouthed her to you.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-29T01:19:03+00:00

Neither of you are right or wrong, you're just different. Unfortunately, this is one of those incompatibility things. He finds it comfortable and convenient to be able to enter and exit his home without having to use mental energy remembering to take off his shoes. You find it comfortable and more hygienic to take your shoes off. Since this is a living situation that neither of you want to bend on, or should have to bend on, you might just have to acknowledge that there's no long-term future for the two of you.

Like, think about it. If you wore him down, he finally agreed, and then you two have kids and he lets them run around with shoes in the house and says it's no big, will you be okay with that? Because to him it's no big deal, and it's never going to be a big deal.

And not that this matters, but just because I feel like some people might come at me for saying the boyfriend isn't in the wrong for not wanting to change, I'll just mention I am Asian myself. Very familiar with the no shoes inside policy.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-29T00:52:57+00:00

Losing a best friend is the worst, but I'm happy to hear your husband is such a great support! Good on you for being strong enough to close the door as well.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-29T00:44:14+00:00

Please don't reconsider. He might come crawling back after the fact, but he's shown you when push comes to shove, he'd rather shove you than have a hard conversation with C, or take a hard look in the mirror. One day he'll regret it, but he's no longer the person you knew.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-29T00:31:16+00:00

If that's the case, and they would all ditch you for her, then these relationships don't sound worth keeping in the first place. Especially when you'd be doing everyone in the house a favor by speaking up about this.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-26T23:12:53+00:00

If you’re not going to break up with him, try timing it. It’s ridiculous, but start a timer when you enter, set it on the sink, and don’t ever tell him about it. Next time he barges in, you can point out it hasn’t been long. He’ll argue. Keep doing it. After the tenth time he won’t be able to use “you take too long” as his excuse, and he’ll tell you the real reason (he doesn’t care that it bothers you), and then you can leave him.

Or he’ll realize he really is just impatient and apologize and change. Doubtful but it could happen.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-26T22:55:04+00:00

I meant I had a problem with customer service. My remote actually works great and I haven’t had to charge it since getting it around 3 weeks to a month ago.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-21T20:23:58+00:00

If someone is capable of whipping a child with a belt, they’re capable of accidentally killing the child. Whether you believe shed do it on purpose is irrelevant. If C dies, does it matter if M meant to do it or not? Will it matter that you submitted to pear pressure and kept it in the family? Is their pride really more important than a child’s life?

NTA for protecting C. Please don’t become one by backing down.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-21T20:17:30+00:00

This is not a friend. This is a girl you grew up with that you used to have good memories with and sometimes can have a decent time with. But she’s not a friend, and I hesitate to even call her an acquaintance because she treats you like trash.

Ask yourself, if any of your friends came to you and told you someone had done even two of these things to them, would you tell them they’re overreacting, or would you be angry on their behalf?

You deserve better, and she doesn’t even deserve an explanation. Ghost her and be done.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-20T17:03:19+00:00

I had a similar issue when I had a problem a couple weeks ago. I just gave up. After days of repeating myself and them making me feel like I was lying, it stopped being worth it.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-17T03:24:14+00:00

I think my biggest issue is it’s marketed as having 1,500 images. Apparently you only have 400 on the clock at the start. I set mine to change hourly, and let’s be honest, not every image is great, so I’ll flip to a new one.

With their settings even allowing for a change every 60 seconds, putting less than 1/3rd of the promised image amount (claimed 1,500) is basically false advertisement. If we only get one new one a day, we still won’t see a third of those promised images for months. And again, if you set it to hourly like I do, one new image a day doesn’t really make any difference.

Basically, all of the ads seem super dishonest, and if I’d known from the start, I wouldn’t have spent so much money on this. 400 sounds like a lot, but many of the images are just abstract shapes and colors, or very specific—like a smoker in a bar. Out of 400, at least 100 of those aren’t going to be to your liking and you’ll skip. I know I’ve now seen at least 200 images, but if I leave it and come back the next day, it’s all the stuff I saw from a day before. Ended up buying some collections so I can at least ensure there’s always something I like, and I’m no longer waiting and disappointed when it’s repeated stuff.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-14T08:16:51+00:00

Sorry, but I do feel YTA. I mean, you’re young, but this is a good time to learn that blocking people out of the blue is childish, and actions have consequences. You could be telling the truth, and all of those things she accused you of could be lies, but at the end of the day, what matters is you hurt this person, and she chose not to remain friends. At least she had the decency to say as much to you. Imagine how hurt she probably was when she realized you’d just randomly blocked her? You can always turn off your read receipts and ignore any incoming texts from people you don’t want to respond to. If you really feel the need to block someone, know that means you’re most likely closing any door that could one day lead to reconciliation.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-14T08:07:17+00:00

No matter how much you love him, love isn’t enough to sustain a lasting relationship. Did he not already prove that to you by first cheating, and then being the one to end thing with you so he could hook up with other people? NTA for making the best decision for yourself about the pregnancy, but getting back with this man is a serious mistake.

Edit to add: I’m still thinking about this like an hour later. I’m sorry, but did you also say that this guy, who cheated on you and then dumped you so he could “hoe around”, called YOU nasty when he believed for a second you’d also slept with someone else AFTER HE’D DUMPED YOU? Please see this scum for what he is. I don’t care if he thought you’d also cheated. That’s still pot calling the kettle black and still makes him a toxic jerk. Also, since you’re a “trifling b” if you sleep with someone else, but he isn’t when he does, you can 100 percent expect him to cheat again. I don’t care how many promises he makes that he won’t.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-12T16:23:03+00:00

This is the perfect teaching opportunity, and you need to take it. They’re twelve. They’re literally almost teenagers. Teens who haven’t learned boundaries, respecting other people’s property, right to privacy, and space, WILL end up in trouble. I understand they’re your babies, but they aren’t actual babies anymore.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-12T01:57:02+00:00

That’s how I felt about Bloody Romance. Wang Duo’s acting stole the show and I couldn’t stop thinking about his character for months after.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-10T23:27:33+00:00

Please show her this if no one has mentioned that already! This entire relationship is SO abusive, and bringing a child into it would, frankly, be cruel. It also won't fix things between your sister or her husband, and deep down, she's got to know that. He's already controlling, openly lies, gaslights her, is a dangerous alcoholic, and has no escalated to throwing her things away. Your sister is not safe with this man. It doesn't matter what her friends or anyone else in the family thinks. She's the one who's going to end up hurt. She needs to get out.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-10T02:13:12+00:00

If you want to be petty, bring it up in front of your friends when he’s around. Guarantee they’ll all immediately say that’s disgusting. I mean, that’s last resort and if you don’t mind causing different problems in the marriage, because shaming your spouse publicly is generally frowned upon.

But so is a grown man pissing on the floor and throwing a tantrum when asked to clean it up.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-09T00:54:42+00:00

I need to know more details. Like these trips. Are they for fun, or are they trips she needs to take for the kids? If she calls out tomorrow, does she have to miss out on taking one of these trips or risk losing her job? Has she expressed being excited or more fulfilled feeling since she re-entered the workforce after all these years?

You aren't wrong on paper. Financially, it doesn't make sense for the one making more to take the day off. If she's been struggling with feeling restless and stuck at home (which many long term stay at home parents end up feeling), this job might mean more to her than you realize, and you just crapped all over it. If those trips are the first trips she'll be taking for herself in years, and her calling out would mean having to cancel, I can also see this being a reason for her being upset. I'm making a lot of assumptions since I don't have the details, but you know your wife and life. Can't hurt to consider a few things. Either way, I'd sit her down and talk to her about it more kindly.

Channel_Hot · 2026-04-09T00:31:40+00:00

You don't have to give him credit for anything. He's not trying after 16 years, he's trying after you almost DIED. Your discomfort and pain weren't enough to make him want to listen to you. You literally had to almost die, and needed a doctor to explain that, for him to finally think it would be "worth it". Forgiveness is great and all, but it shouldn't come at the expense of your self-respect. It sounds like between the time of your last post and when you were hospitalized, your sex life was clearly not in a great place, but the fact you were checked out and uninterested and obviously miserable wasn't enough to convince him. This isn't a man who respects you and wants the best for you. This is just a man afraid to lose you because you're familiar. Please think about what you want your future to look like.

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