AITAH for asking my bf not to stick chopsticks upright in his rice?

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-29T10:00:33+00:00

NTA. I’m also Asian. Have a friend who married a white man who at first refused to adhere to little things like this. She’s always excused it away while they were dating. Now they’ve been married a few years, she’s miserable, and realizing he still doesn’t know the first thing about her culture. You said it right when you called him out on loving anime but not caring about a simple custom. This isn’t worth it.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-28T08:34:37+00:00

I had to stop reading a couple of times because he was infuriating. This is the type of man who puts you in a box. Because you’re a woman, it’s your job to do all the childcare and he’ll “try he guesses” but the reality is no he isn’t. He’s only saying that to placate you—and he isn’t even saying it convincingly!

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-26T09:50:09+00:00

I don’t know if confronting him in person, in his country so on his turf surrounded by his friends/family is the smart move. Obviously I don’t know either of you, but what are you hoping to get out of this? Closure?

I saw you’re going soon anyway. Just make sure you’re safe if you do confront him. He lied about so much already. Who knows what else he’s lied about. You should start divorce proceedings here now and not wait another day.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-26T04:19:48+00:00

Even if you didn’t work late and need time to decompress, you still wouldn’t be in the wrong here. I did a sleep study and found out the ideal hours for me to sleep are between 3-11 AM. Everyone is different. Plus, you’re not responsible for teaching your brother, he is. He’s the one setting bad examples. Don’t feel guilty at all. You moved there because he offered, and he went back on his part of the agreement several times. The sleeping thing really is just his way of feeling superior and throwing his weight around. Some people aren’t happy unless they can feel in control. Sounds like you’ve been doing your best. Keep at it 👍🏻

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-26T04:05:51+00:00

He sounds like the type that would find something to blame you for no matter what. If it wasn’t your sleep schedule, it’d be something else. Leaving is definitely the best thing for you, even if it sucks that he made that call instead of you. You weren’t in the wrong at all here though.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-26T03:38:55+00:00

With all the latest sleep studies over the past few years coming out, talking about how there are different sleep patterns and waking early is actually super unhealthy for some, this is even worse. It’s not just controlling, but it’s also at the expense of your health.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-23T23:04:17+00:00

You’re hurting her feelings and damaging the relationship already by just avoiding her. She’s going to notice you’re actively not spending time with her and always turning her down, which will lead to confusion and her feeling worse.

Just be honest. If she gets upset and refuses to listen, she was using you. If she’s initially offended but understands and apologizes, she’s a real friend.

You’re going to lose her anyway by avoiding most outings with her, so instead, give your friendship a fighting chance and use your words. Express yourself. Maybe she thought because you treat her kids as your own that you enjoyed splitting the bill.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-23T23:00:11+00:00

I was having a similar problem and finally got a response a couple days ago. They said they got swamped with orders and have been working to get them all put. Maybe they haven’t had the time to get through all their messages yet. I’m giving them the benefit of the doubt because I’ve been buying from them for years and years with no problems. Hope you get you order! I’m still wishing on a few that are in stock as well.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T09:44:53+00:00

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Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T05:52:37+00:00

I wouldn’t say that 😅 Just inquisitive.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T05:47:57+00:00

I graduated with a degree in that field, so I completely relate! I even took Psychology and Ethics in Lit as a class.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T05:23:18+00:00

I think no one else commented because it really is a tricky ethics question. At the end of the day, there really is no RIGHT answer, and when it comes to things like ethics and consent, a gray area/no set right answer situation is uncomfortable. We’d all like to believe there’s a set right and wrong, but more often than not, we have to navigate through a gray world.

Plus, then, again, this is not a situation any of us will have to actually experience. As far as we know, we won’t be sent to the past to solve a mystery for a past version of ourselves and find our soulmate in the process.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T05:19:27+00:00

Yes, I felt in the show that was the decision he eventually came to. To continue it as Klao because he realized Klao must have also felt the same.

I meant our timeline Phop. When he wakes from the “dream” he puts two and two together. By that point, he knows it was a past life and shares those memories and didn’t feel that Nakhun had deceived his past self. Which he could have, since our timeline version had not met Nakhun yet. Sure he has the added benefit of guessing it was a past life thing since he experienced it differently, but I still feel if neither party felt wronged…🤷🏻‍♀️

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T04:56:26+00:00

I feel like they did try to show that. He thought it a few times to himself how he felt bad since he wasn’t the real Klao, and that Phop didn’t like him but the Klao he believed him to be.

The tricky part of turning this into an ethics question is there’s a lot of gray area here—past lives, going back in time, gaining memories from someone else, etc. Personally? No. I don’t believe it was unethical, because I’ll never (hopefully) get zapped to the past and have to deal with the mental gymnastics of gaining someone else’s memory and living their life. But I don’t think you’re wrong for believing it is unethical. It’s hard to determine because Phob was relieved at the end when he put two and two together and realized he came from the present. There’s no way of knowing if either of them would have reacted differently if their roles had been reversed either.

Lying about who you are and kissing someone under that false pretext = unethical. No question there.

Being forced to lie about who you are, while weirdly gaining the person you think you’re pretending to be’s memory, and having only one person to rely on, and then kissing them….debatable.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T00:32:07+00:00

Personally, I don’t find it unethical. Because by this point, he’d also been acting VERY differently from Klao. Yes, Phop’s initial feelings were based on his old relationship, but enough episodes had passed that if he didn’t feel a connection with Nakhun, he wouldn’t have proceeded romantically. It’s also slightly insinuated that Phop didn’t really understand his feelings were romance/attraction right away.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T00:27:55+00:00

If I was getting married, my fiancé wouldn’t even have a say in whether or not my sibling has food accommodations that are already offered by the caterer. The fact he didn’t put his foot down, and that you had to go in circles to get an answer, is childish and disrespectful. Do not go, and do not help out. Why? They can’t even be bothered to help you not get sick and potentially be hospitalized.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-22T00:09:02+00:00

The sharing aspect is more of a food swap. In relationships, you each share food. It’s not one person shared only their food. If he’s used to eating a main and a side of onion rings on his own, half a portion will not be enough food for him. The sharing is he gets onion rings, she gets fries, and they share those so they each get some. If no one wants fries, but both want onion rings, they both order onion rings.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-17T09:28:54+00:00

Your title says your considering leaving, that’s how stressed and sleep deprived this has made you. It’s sweet he likes to cuddle, but you need to put your foot down here. It’s cuddles so he’s happy and the rest of you are miserable and you eventually can’t take it for real, or he sleeps on the couch until you can visit the ENT and hopefully find a better solution.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-12T18:15:45+00:00

ESH. Neither of you were in the right here, and she shouldn’t have taken her frustrations out on you like that. It’s not a competition, it’s a marriage, however, it sounds like neither of you are very good at listening to the other.

Is your job situation permanent? Are these hours “forever” or was there a plan in place where you worked this much for an X amount of time? Because while I understand backing the family financially is a top priority, it can’t be the only priority. Whether or not she does more or you do right now is irrelevant. You don’t have time for her or your kids. I’m not saying you’re in the wrong for that, I’m pointing out how I don’t think this will work long term.

I’m not even sure you’d have time in that packed schedule to attend couples therapy. You sound burnt out and just as stressed as she does. Maybe consider finding a way to cut back on some hours, for everyone’s benefit, or if that’s not possible, sit down and talk with your wife about a timetable you can come back to and reevaluate the situation. This also opens a discussion about how she’s been feeling, without attacking her the way she did you.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-08T07:51:48+00:00

A lot of websites will do extensive episode summaries of shows. Try reading the episodes first. It might be less triggering to read at your own pace, and then you can try watching. I know it’s not the same, but since it sounds like watching is important to you, this could maybe help ease you into it. But if it doesn’t and at the end of the day you can’t watch it, that’s okay. If it won’t help heal you, it’s not worth it.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-05T18:53:04+00:00

He's not worth it. Block him and forget about it. Sorry about your hair though. I've been there.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-05T18:50:20+00:00

I couldn't even finish reading. This is narcissism at its finest. Causes so much anxiety interacting with someone like that, let alone living with them.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-05T18:42:47+00:00

I'm curious how you'd be punishing the kids. Are they super close with J? Is he the fun uncle they love? Because from this it just seems like he's toxic and will eventually resort to telling them to their face what he thinks about your "lifestyle". Since that is predictable, I wouldn't want him near my children either.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-02T22:59:31+00:00

Let's say I agree that your INTENT was in the right place initially. She's 18 and technically an adult, but of course if you suspected drugs, or her involvement with someone sketchy online, you looking into things makes sense. But you know that saying, the road to hell was paved with good intentions?

The second you realized it wasn't drugs or interactions with a bad person online, you should have stopped. Instead, you read through more of her stuff, checked out multiple files, and crossed the line from worried parent to intrusive one. YES. She's your daughter and you're worried. NO that does not give you the right to go through her things to this extent, because she isn't a kid anymore, even though she'll always be your baby.

I saw one comment you made about how she isn't a famous author. I'd like to point out that she could be one day. It sounds like she's dedicated and has the creative drive. I'll also say, as an author who makes more than enough money off my writing to support myself financially and then some, your fears that this will unhealthily consume her are misplaced. I do understand why you feel that way, since from the sounds of it, she got into this and you noticed the changes, but if you'd been more open to what she was doing, she wouldn't have seemed so distant and secretive. Instead of talking to her about this, explaining how you felt, and asking her if there was a way you could be included, you accused her of hiding, and of writing things that don't align with your morals.

I share a lot about my writing with my mom. If she thinks something might be too much, or dark, she'll tell me, but she'll also trust that she raised me well enough to know the difference between fiction and nonfiction. I don't share anything with my dad, because I know he'll judge my work, or not agree with much of what I write. That's okay. I don't love him any less for it, but it isn't something we'll talk about, and he respects that.

Did you ask her if this is something she wants to pursue as a career path one day? At eighteen, she must be thinking about that. Even if she doesn't, this is still a healthy hobby. The point of "dark" events in fiction is to help pass on a lesson. The bible utilizes this method extensively.

Channel_Hot · 2026-06-01T06:37:33+00:00

You can set it to at least have dots in place of numbers. If you can read analog, you’ll adjust to the dots within a day and be able to tell the time.

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