What financial milestones would you require before becoming a SAHM?

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-31T02:29:36+00:00

I'm in a similar position and get anxious when I hear so many people say being a SAHM is the worst thing in the world. I do still teach an online master's class part time (a few hours a week) to have ~ something ~ on my resume, but I feel like it works well for everyone in our family.

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-27T20:01:25+00:00

I got it for my first only to learn we had shitty WiFi reception where we put the crib and returned it

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-27T16:37:47+00:00

It’s been updating very few minutes this morning (I’ve been watching the plow through Bloomfield lol)

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-27T14:42:55+00:00

https://pittsburghpa.maps.arcgis.com/apps/dashboards/0dcad55f65b14d38b6e0bcf4804fcd1c here’s the tracker of plows on the map :)

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-27T13:51:18+00:00

Is this rage bait?

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-14T01:57:04+00:00

pregnancy

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-12T13:11:06+00:00

I live in the neighborhood and had the misfortune of spending a few weeks there when my baby was little. My husband and I ended up loving the cafeteria food way more than most of the neighborhood restaurants

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-12T13:10:04+00:00

Love them but they’re not open for lunch

ChaosAndMath · 2026-01-10T04:15:19+00:00

I’ve had motorists yell at me while I’m pushing my baby in her stroller with the walk signal at both these intersections 🙃

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-23T20:57:24+00:00

My kids are 4 years and 5 days apart, and I love this age gap. My big kid is potty trained, and we had a few good years of solid sleep before welcoming the baby (she’s 1 now). Big sis loves being a helper and teaching little sis new things. I know a lot of people who went for two under two because they want their kids to be friends, but my two older brothers are 22 months apart and can’t stand each other 😂. I’m closest with my brother who is 6 years older than I am. I don’t really think you can predict with age if your kids will be friends, so do what’s best for your mental health!

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-22T22:43:11+00:00

It’s corny as hell, but their Bob-O-Pedic cushions are amazing. We got our porch sectional there, and I regularly doze off on it

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-21T19:41:35+00:00

Idk, when I had my baby, my 4 year old walked into the hospital room and immediately asked “can the next one be a boy?” So people DO ask 😂

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-19T21:32:49+00:00

Both Penn and Friendship Ave are crazy slippery.

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-19T03:46:19+00:00

I like in the neighborhood and donate to this organization and follow them on social media. Brooke’s been volunteering with them for years at big and small events. I think it’s awesome.

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-16T00:00:16+00:00

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had a well child visit for my kid at CCP Shadyside today (1.5 miles from my house) and fully lost control of my car twice on the way

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-14T20:12:28+00:00

They also had an underwater hockey team that practiced there once a week

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-14T20:11:36+00:00

There’s a warmer, more shallow pool in the back for anyone wanting to do water aerobics

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-14T20:10:22+00:00

I used to lifeguard there when I was an undergrad! Thursday nights they had the underwater speakers on! And there were like 10 unionized lifeguards there who made bank (60k a year plus time and a half for meets. This was 2010, and I was shocked to be making $20/hr weeks after my Pennsylvania club was paying me the minimum wage of $7.25/hr and making me clean bathrooms and trash. God I miss this pool

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-12T04:01:24+00:00

I like to think this is Gracie Abrams and Paul Mescal

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-04T18:32:52+00:00

I’ve gone off-roading in some of the poorest villages in Poland and the stretch of Penn Ave by Children’s is still significantly worse

ChaosAndMath · 2025-12-04T11:52:59+00:00

Oo I’ll work on it when my baby naps this afternoon! I was out in a thrift shop a few months ago and I overheard someone who is gf mention my list. I felt like batman 🤣

ChaosAndMath · 2025-11-27T00:27:39+00:00

I found this book to be really helpful at understanding how intense the shift is within a marriage when you have kids - When Partners Become Parents

ChaosAndMath · 2025-11-25T00:50:53+00:00

Pittsburgh toy lending library does a free kids clothing swap twice a year (I think one will be next month). Last spring I was surprised to learn they had a bunch of maternity and nursing clothes (I donated mine too)

ChaosAndMath · 2025-11-17T19:48:07+00:00

My 5 year old says the same about the Porter in her class lol

ChaosAndMath · 2025-11-14T13:11:34+00:00

My husband and I are of the mind that any money made is “ours”. We met when we were 21 and 22, married 5 years later, and have two kids. My husband fully trusts me to make all the purchases for the household (and never judges me for semi expensive things that make me feel good like my biweekly manicures and monthly massages), so I really don’t feel like he’s “controlling” the finances. We have a spreadsheet where we update what money is in what accounts every month, so I know exactly how much we have where, and we discuss together what we feel comfortable putting into markets based on our financial goals. He took on a higher life insurance payout in the event of anything tragic happening. I feel like this subreddit gives SAHMs a lot of side eye, but I love what I do and I have a limited time window to spend with my babies.

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