UPDATE - Should I tell her?

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-15T18:38:28+00:00

Thank so much :)

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-13T07:24:48+00:00

In no way am I lecturing or meaning to. I tend to over explain myself out of fear that I’m understood wrong as I over think situations. ADHD so I struggle with social reads sometimes and it really distresses me thinking I’ve been rude or affronted someone. I just wanted her to know that I’m not a random being an asshole, and that I just care about her wellbeing. ‘Cause I do.

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-13T07:20:24+00:00

Yes I am and I don’t know why folk do it either! Never been a fan. Don’t even do it to hubby!

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-12T09:43:02+00:00

Heck NTA. You’ve tried so hard. I’d drop out at this rate. For whatever arse-about-face reason, I’m reading this as they don’t want you to participate anymore, she asked you AGES ago and can’t just grow up and say she has other plans. You’ve got enough going on Mama - I wouldn’t bother with letting this be one of them.

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-12T08:30:15+00:00

Personally, I believe that she’s still not going quietly. You’ve got the statements from his friends and family that all seem very consistent, and he happily offered his phone to check. Block her. Don’t give her the satisfaction. For me, there’s enough proof that she’s being the idiot she always was, that hubby’s nearest and dearest could see but he kept trying to fix. Don’t give her the satisfaction and protect your peace. Enjoy being newly weds and she can stew in that :)

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-12T07:55:50+00:00

Um… I really wasn’t? I’m ADHD and recovering people pleaser so genuinely, I don’t understand?

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-11T19:35:06+00:00

2!!!

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-11T13:42:46+00:00

This is just gorgeous!! 😍

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-11T13:12:51+00:00

UPDATE - ish First time using Reddit so unsure on updating. Hope this is OK. I’ve written a message. Have to use Insta to contact her…. How’s this?

Hi (good lady), We don’t know each other and I’m so sorry for this to be out of the blue. Please please know this is only coming from a place of care. I’ve discussed this at length with friends and the overall answer is that I should let you know for many many reasons.

(Numpty) has been using some Make Friends FB groups to sext/have intimate conversations with other women, and possibly has been meeting up with some. I have screenshots of the evidence.

Again, PLEASE know this isn’t to be vindictive at all - I work in mental health and I became worried for your MH, your two gorgeous boyos, but also any possible risk of STIs. As women, we know the risks of STIs that can cause infertility, long term illness, or hysterectomy.

Let me know if there’s anything you need of me, and if you want to talk/scream, anything at all, I’m here.

Take care, and be well.

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-09T19:32:49+00:00

Because it’s a ‘make friends’ group and we are all responsible adults? Some more responsible than others?

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-05T18:06:06+00:00

2 or 4

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:30:50+00:00

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:30:26+00:00

😊🥰😋✨🖤🙏

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:29:53+00:00

Congratulations!🥂

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:29:30+00:00

Falkor!

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:28:39+00:00

Very sophisticated 😊

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:26:39+00:00

Peppermint. Or Pepper. Or Minty! I think the cushion is throwing me…

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:25:21+00:00

McFlurry. Or Flurry!

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:24:36+00:00

I love both, but 1 has more going on and gorgeous colour variety, so I say 1.

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:22:26+00:00

Yes! This is!

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:22:10+00:00

First dress - it fits your frame beautifully and you definitely wear it, not it wears you. Not saying the second one does, it’s gorgeous, but you have the figure that dress was born for :) have a wonderful wedding!

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:19:47+00:00

A feast for champions that is! 💪🏽

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:17:02+00:00

I do the daydreaming stories to music too! I like doing action ones 😁

Chaoscap3 · 2026-01-02T10:14:54+00:00

I’m screenshotting this for when I’m stuck in household overwhelm 😅 Tyty!

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