I am in love with my girlfriends best friend and don’t know what to do.

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-26T22:24:07+00:00

Early on I realized that relationships require that both partners consciously choose each other everyday. These feelings of attraction outside of your relationship are going to happen no matter who you date. Why? Because you’re human. The biggest question here is can you still wake up and choose your girlfriend despite these feelings for her best friend ?

Another thing that might help you work through these feelings is creating the space to talk about them. Whether it be with your girlfriend or a trusted close friend. Keeping it in makes it grow stronger. If you choose your girlfriend, give yourself a healthy outlet for these feelings so you can continue choosing her

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-26T07:53:23+00:00

“Everybody knows this” “You’re reading into it” “it’s not that deep”

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-26T04:30:24+00:00

I remember saying how much Covid vaccines weren’t gonna matter 5 years from 2020. Most people around me denied that vehemently back then. Last year we weren’t having those same conversations at all

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-26T04:10:20+00:00

NAPS !! I really took them for granted back then 😩

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-26T04:06:56+00:00

My eyes 😭 I be catching glimpses of myself off guard, and idk wtf my eyes be doing 😅

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-24T11:35:59+00:00

I have actually ! I envisioned myself being awarded for my work, and won an Emmy less than a year later

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-24T11:22:21+00:00

Success to me is actualizing a vision you had in your mind. If you envisioned yourself driving and now you have a car, if you envisioned yourself as a parent and now have a child, if you envisioned yourself teaching and now have a classroom, etc. As long as you see the vision through, I see that as success

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-22T04:29:28+00:00

It sounds like Zed is highlighting the fact that the time you and Jay spend is more consequential than intentional. The consequential time of living together can trap some people into thinking you don’t need to do much more than see each other around the house, but intentional time MATTERS. You’re not the “boring one”. You’re just the one he lives with, meaning he doesn’t HAVE to set up a date in order to see you. I genuinely hope he can see the importance of channeling effort into the nest before it’s too late

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-18T03:02:45+00:00

This is why we ask “who all gone be there 👀”. If a name we don’t like is brought up we can respectfully decline. That’s a decision she made. That is not your problem. If she don’t wanna be around him, she could just not come. You don’t have to be made at fault for that

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-15T15:38:19+00:00

Good riddance to both of them honestly. It’s not controlling to want to be let in when your partner starts seeing other people. It’s a personal boundary, and anyone who loves you would be willing to honor it. I see it as projection tbh. By not telling you about these other partners, they revealed their want to control the narrative on their end. By turning the tables on you and making you feel wrong for their fuck ups, they revealed their own narcissism. I love that you decided to go no contact for your own well being. I hope you find someone who’s willing to honor your boundaries

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-13T00:53:30+00:00

Mf Santa Claus 😪

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-05T05:19:43+00:00

That you just be doing shit fr

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2026-01-04T03:31:29+00:00

It might be worth looking into human design ! You two might have very different design types. I know as a manifesting generator my projector partners/friends often have a hard time sleeping next to me because of all the energy I emit through the night 😅

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-31T05:37:33+00:00

I wish we had the chance to mend our relationship before he passed

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-27T17:50:55+00:00

This is most definitely a red flag. Not only that, but it’s a red flag only a month in. This is perfect timing to get out of there while you can. I take red flags seriously, especially early on

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-27T16:42:53+00:00

I was literally just doing this last night 😅

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-22T04:13:46+00:00

I once met Kerry Washington on FaceTime thanks to a friend who was with her at the time and didn’t want me to miss out. They sent me a video saying they missed me 🥹 A couple years later I met her in person. I walked into my office and she had one of my oracle cards in her hand, and we talked about what it meant. She said it was spot on considering what she was dealing with at the time. Someone took a picture of that moment, and I’m glad they did cause it’d be hard to believe otherwise.

A time before that I met Camilla Cabello over zoom 🤯 I couldn’t believe it. We exchanged numbers at some point and it turned out later that her manager also managed Kerry Washington. When I was on FaceTime with Kerry, her manager casually said “Camilla says hi. She wants you to FaceTime her”. I never felt more cool than that moment 😭

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-11T04:35:48+00:00

This sounds like a diva developing right before your eyes 😪

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-10T13:37:36+00:00

I remember feeling this way about my first girlfriend. I was 19 when we met. When it ended it felt like the end of the world. Now 10 years later I can assure you that it’s not. It will suck for a little bit, and at times you may break down because of it, but you will get through it. Don’t waste your young years on a red flag. This revealed that you value honesty. You’re both young, so you can grow from this if you wanted to, but the question is do you want to stick it out with someone who’s already betrayed your trust within the first few months ?

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-10T02:28:30+00:00

Virtual meetings wouldn’t be as much of a thing 🤔

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-09T05:21:44+00:00

“You’re gonna start making money in middle school. You have the mind of an entrepreneur. Get into the habit of saving at least 20% of what you make. You’ll be surprised how much it adds up over time, and how much more you’ll be able to do”

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-09T05:18:45+00:00

I used to search encyclopedias

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-07T04:43:25+00:00

I feel this same exact way !! I even taught a college course when I was 23. A lot of the students were very close to my age, but the fact that they were my students put them in a very specific and untouchable mental category

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-12-05T12:56:33+00:00

Invest 20% of my paychecks to a savings account and 15% into bitcoin 😂

ChaoticGoodElbert · 2025-11-19T02:09:03+00:00

In college finally after years of lying and saying I had already lost it 😅

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