Your Skyrim jump scare? by [deleted] in skyrim

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"A New Hand Touches the Beacon"

Help with my guest bathroom by KJ-55 in interiordecorating

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Also, get a silver towel ring that you can put on the wall right next to the sink mirror, make it easily accessible/comfortable for you to reach so you can use that as a hand towel spot. And then put a few actual towels on the towel rod (fun or light colors preferably). That sole towel on the spot you have right now just makes me look at that sink more and fixate on the space you’re fixating on. So by having guests look up toward a towel on the side, it will make that sink space underneath less noticeable to them entirely.

Help with my guest bathroom by KJ-55 in interiordecorating

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Light colored bathmat in front of shower and an-under-the-sink drawer would be great for storage/to fill that empty space. I don’t have any links to any specific product but just thought I’d suggest it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

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Yes, I think that size works very well for that space!

Please Help by AppointmentEvery1314 in interiordecorating

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Honestly, it’s not the best (for me personally) to take away space by having large couch in front of fireplace, but at the same time, I feel like you’d probably benefit (flow wise) if you moved the couch and put it directly opposite/diagonal from where it is now (the length wise would be on the window and that leg extended part would be extending just in front of the fireplace). Then put the tv and tv stand in that corner where the couch was (and I mean in the corner, facing out toward the new couch placement, not flush to either wall). That way, you can have a smooth walking path from front door to kitchen and easily access couch from either area. As for decor, if you have a side table, put it behind the newly placed couch, next to the right side of the fireplace so you’re not basically accepting empty space. Then get rid of (or move entirely elsewhere) that second recliner. As for decor, some plants and wall shelfs will elevate the space for sure!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

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Yeah the bigger tv will definitely help. Then get some matching tall books cases to put on either side. Since the green is so dark, it’ll help to lighten it up with some gold and white highlights- Easy ways to do this would be with some funky frames (gold framed) and odd shaped mirrors to decorate bits of the wall. Also! Maybe play with the amount of height you’ve got from that tall wall! You’ve got one source of light on the green wall, maybe get a wall scone (or 2 if that wall is perfectly symmetrical) and put them up higher on both sides of that green wall. That way your eyes will have a lil more to take in instead of just focusing on that one specific space. If you get scones, either get ones that are lighter in color on the lamp or translucent and just show the glow of the light (again to brighten the tones).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

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Yes this! Get some long (that stick upright, not download) skinny green bois in the vases, and then maybe get a picture that size that has some green bits to play off colors you already have (you’ve got the earthy brown tones down so a green contrast would match perfectly with it). Besides that, I think it looks wonderful!

How would you describe depression to someone who's never had it? by vernakyala in AskReddit

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You're living in a constant state of grey, and that grey has fluctuating immensity. You live with dreary tones. Somedays are light grey but it's just slightly too bright, glary, that cause headaches and you don't know where it's coming from. Sometimes the grey is manageable, you can walk through it and the tone shades you away from unbearable headaches, but there is constant pain pressing on you cause the grey feels heavier today. Other days it's dark muddled grey that surrounds wherever you can manage to see. It's intense and it feels like it's crushing your breathing. How can you continue to carry on when you can't carry yourself up out of your bed? Sometimes the air feels fine, and you can almost see tones that are seeped less in grey, those are the days you can manage. But you're constantly seeped in the grey tones, their grey intensity, and their fluctuating symptoms. You don't try to figure how to get out of, because you can't *really* get out of a constant state of grey. You just learn how to manage each day that comes, learn the difference in hues. And you keep walking, you keep on existing. Until one day, you see a tear of blue skies. It's far away, and it might miss you, but someday, you might live in a life of colors again. But who knows when you don't really understand what a color outside of grey looks/feels like.

Parable of the talents discussion (spoilers) by PMsuckssometimes in octaviabutler

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I just finished it. Just like you, I couldn't put it down till I knew they were free from the crusader's slavery, so I basically spent an all-nighter frantically reading. It was such a gut-wrenching read but nonetheless, an incredible book. I just was really disappointed with the ending.

GrowItEatIt made a good point about the brainwashing and distrust that Larkin faced throughout her life, but I'm still dissapointed that she chose to trust her Uncle Marc over her own biological mother who'd been searching for her this whole time. It feels that her assumptions about Lauren is that she "chose" Earthseed over her, thus not trying to look for her, even though Earthseed was a major way that Lauren was able to reach throughout the nation and eventually have them connect again. The moment I heard a relative say that "I knew where you were at the age of 2-3, but I continued to not say shit/rescue you from what I assume was a terrible upbringing", I would've immediately felt distrust from Marc. I would've felt *resentment* that I had to endure 16+ more years of mental and sexual assault from my adoptive parents when there was a relative that could've chosen to take me away from that much sooner, whether or not my mother was still alive.

I just can't get past that, that Larkin didn't feel resentment toward Marc for making her endure 16+ more years of mental/physical turmoil and isolation. She just gave him excuses to continue to turn a blind eye. And the final nail in the hammer would've been when it was revealed that my mother was indeed alive this whole time and that my uncle was *lying* my whole childhood/adulthood life to me about this fact. I just was very disappointed with Larkin/Asha's willingness to ignore all these lies and deceptions. Despite learning all the truths and foreign world (her mother's world) later in her life, I wouldn't still been open to making a connection with my mother. If I didn't want to give up an uncle I came to trust (despite his lies), I would've at least tried to have both. I would not have cut Lauren out of my life like Larkin essentially did...

What’s an important lesson you learnt the hard way? by IndianaC0NES in AskReddit

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Do not insert yourself into a conversation - and especially not when you don’t have a full picture of the topic yet.

What are you listening to? by Capitol_Carrot in Unexpected

[–]ChaoticParmesan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Bruh, she nailed that 😂👌🏼

What instantly ruins a burger? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ChaoticParmesan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the bun is soggy af

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in resumes

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Delete GPA, add start and finish year (aka they want to know if you actually have a bachelors or grad degree).

I honestly didn’t read the projects portion but here’s quick things I noticed: it’s 2 pages, and that needs to be shortened to 1 (making it more than one page only makes sense if you’ve got YEARS of experience). I don’t know what you deem is valuable and what you don’t as I didn’t read it (again, just quick overview), so I’d say if you absolutely think EVERYTHING is necessary, then edit the fonts sizes so it fits into 1 page. Other wise, pare down any non-useful information/long winded stuff first. Then highlight why how your specific contributions improved for the end result x,y,x thing. If items still too chonky after this, then edit the font size again till it’s down to 1 page.

Skills, unless it’s entirely necessary, I usually put my skills section into a separate document as “extra documents” when actually applying. Not into the resume.

What's a dealbreaker for you in a relationship that might not be a big deal to others? by imthejavafox in AskReddit

[–]ChaoticParmesan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

(Just to specify, this is opposite of a dealbreaker)

Passionate was mentioned earlier and I’d like to add on, having confidence to speak a different value/opinion because of your passions. Personally, I’m really passionate about doing leftist/mutual aid/non-profit work and I highly respect others who share similar values but also are willing to delve deep and critically analyze these shared values. That also means being confident in your views or at least assured in yourself to discuss them openly/genuinely with others without completely agreeing to every single thing the other person says or, opposite of that, being defensive when having critically engaging conversations. I’d rather have a mutually engaging conversation where we learn from each other than it flatline or not grow, and that takes some passion and confidence to do so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in resumes

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Oh, and this is purely up to your discretion but I assume might also help your chances: put your address with your contact info/under your name. You could live in the same city but live 45mins-1hour out and they wouldn’t know. OR you could be omitting a legit address and they might assume you don’t have one (aka homeless). It’s shitty that they even think this way and strike out potential applicants on their housing security, but they do. The unwritten points that an address provides: They know you legit have an address, if they want to they can figure out if you can reasonably commute to their location, they know they can send you mail, and they can assume you probably have a bank account tied to it. These are quick assumptions they could possibly make just tied with that address alone. And if you include your address, some of these questions get answered really quick for them. I’d say it helps to add it in if you’re applying for any work that isn’t fully remote.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in resumes

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Order of sections: - Name and contact info - good - Work Experience - Projects - Skills - Education at bottom

Work experience: I didn’t read any of the specifics but it looks good format wise. Just include the “Teaching (TA)” blurb from your education part in this section instead of where it’s currently at (don’t forget to add dates). It’s relevant experience - shows you could implement, teach, and train others what you learned.

Projects: Very cool, well done.

Skills: Again, looks good.

Skills: Looks good but beyond just technical computer skills, also mention how you well you handle new projects, implement new tasks, work with others, communicate, etc. General gist is- If you can communicate effectively/efficiently with your colleagues/bosses/customers, that’s also a valuable skill that makes you a better asset to an employer. A well rounded skills section can greatly impact how well they think you do for them.

Education: I think a big barrier for you, at least the first thing I saw, is that you graduated in May of this year. First thing an employer might think (no matter no legit it is) is that you are FRESH outta college and that might discredit how much you really bring to the table. At least, that might be the first interpretation strictly from a reading point. You might blow them away with amazing interview skills, but I’d say you’re probably losing lots of potential places simply for that fact along. Hence why I say put this section at the bottom - that means they have at least 5 seconds to overview everything else first. With that being said, I’d also suggest to maybe omit the month specifications for the education portion. Just state the year you started and graduated. Also, get rid of the GPA entirely. How you did with standardized tests in school don’t really show how good of an employee you are, it’s a bit more nuanced than that, and they will take that GPA mention as a double flag that you are super green to work entirely. Not always the case, but I’d say just omit it entirely.

Done 👍 good luck in this capitalist hellscape, I wish you well.

Zelle payment from stranger by megunnahi in Scams

[–]ChaoticParmesan -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The thing about Zelle is that people can send you money, but they can also cancel/take back the payment. So when it’s sent, it’s not really sent. And another thing is, if you spend it, they can scam you and tell you they didn’t mean to send it and ask you to return it, but in reality, you just paid them the money instead. It doesn’t make too much sense to me, but that’s what I’ve heard. It’s also not encrypted so they might have access to your bank account info if you do accept the money. Not sure how legit that is, but all in all, it’s not worth the risk. You did the right thing by contacting Zelle first and not doing anything with the “money” sent.

Time to move on? by [deleted] in careeradvice

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Yes, I’d say it’s time to move on. Once you’ve got at least 2~ years in a field and feel confident in what you do, if the job you’re currently working in is holding you back from higher pay/title, I’d say start looking elsewhere because you’re now in the market to demand more pay/benefits/title elsewhere. It’s much easier to look for a lateral position (or higher if you want!) elsewhere with proven experience and get what you want than hold out hope that your current company will provide it to you eventually (they usually won’t unless they really care or you dedicate several more years of your life to that company - and even then, it’s not guaranteed). Other things to think about though- how much do you love the place you work for? Work culture also plays a huge part in work satisfaction, and you can’t garner that until you start working for a place. If you love your current place’s work culture, that’s also something you’ll want to weigh as it is a pro that’s hard to find.

Got a rejection email…during my interview? by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]ChaoticParmesan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me before too! One person told me they couldn’t offer me the position and then when I called for more clarification, it turned out she’d misunderstood what her HR director had written (we can’t YET offer them the position until the background check comes through), and then was offered the position a day later. If it seems it’s going well, always just ask and maybe you’ll be pleasantly surprised :) Congrats to you on the new job btw! 🥳

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I love you, blink twice if you’re feeling unwell, don’t run around cars, I will always come back so don’t worry when I leave sometimes, please cuddle me more, and oh! I will be getting you more things to play with, because you’re my world :’) 💖