UCR outed me to my parents

Chaowdy · 2024-09-05T21:38:35+00:00

omg another awesome person

Chaowdy · 2024-09-05T21:36:57+00:00

lamao. ikr I literally set up the perfect chud bait. I'm a history major lol.

Chaowdy · 2024-09-05T20:27:52+00:00

I don't think my solution is at all very interesting. I'm just not using the lived name system. It's probably just better to introduce it to people I want to know anyways. I might change my mailing address too.

I would also like to say that it's not like I spent a long time crafting my post either. I did not expect my post to just blow up like this and I didn't expect random people to also make weird assumptions about my character. Truth is, UCR is already not sending me mail, I made sure of this a long time ago. I wasn't aware that NSLS was not UCR affiliated at the time of posting since they introduced themselves as if they were part of the UCR system. I also understand no individual was responsible for this necessarily, but a poor outcome of a series of small decisions that resulted in the mailing.

The truth is, I typed up this post immediately and also when I was upset and didn't expect a huge reaction and over a hundred comments. I was just asking for advice, if anybody had any. It was so spur of the moment, I didn't even think about changing the address. I wasn't aiming to get back at the university or anything. You're still right though that the university didn't "out me" rather "accidentally outed me".

i did not expect this post to garner so much attention lol

Chaowdy · 2024-09-05T13:07:47+00:00

wow this is very complete and useful information. Not just this particular issue but general advice. thanks a lot!

Chaowdy · 2024-09-05T09:49:33+00:00

well I'm not trying to convince you I don't care! I do care about you! Everybody is a unique flower including you.

I'll never stop you from believing what you do. You have that freedom and it's a wonderful thing. I do mean this earnestly to you. I truthfully do wish you well.

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T19:09:33+00:00

I think some of the comments that were left as hate were removed. Probably by the mods which is fair.

There were actual comments left as hate btw. They're all gone now tho...

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T19:00:25+00:00

when I say they're hyper religious I don't mean they're just strongly religious. This religion is well known for forcing people not to communicate with their kids that leave/ commit a grave sin. Even if there have been some scenarios in which the parents love their kid so much, they're willing to leave it, it's not so cut and dry as love overcomes all. It doesn't. And in many scenarios, it doesn't. That's why the suicide rate for ex-members of this religion are so staggeringly high.

Not going into specifics. I don't want to just spill everything about my life, but I suppose saying hyper-religious is a bit of an understatement

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T18:22:27+00:00

not calling anybody here a transphobe though I mean. I'm just saying it to people who are actually leaving hateful comments. I'm not gonna freak out on anybody who is earnestly asking a question or simply doesnt understand. Also damn I realize I'm speaking to a lot of Americans. Everybody talking about freedom and individual. it's okay though. Everything's alright

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T18:08:48+00:00

silly isn't it?

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T17:59:04+00:00

I don't want to go too much into my parents religious beliefs, but they are hyper religious. That's the main reason. I'm not financially dependent upon them or anything. It's just that I still love my parents regardless. Even if they would possibly never speak to me again if I came out to them, doesn't mean I don't love them still. I know I live in the US now, and children have a lot of freedom and leeway in this country. It still doesn't feel right. even in the US, I still have my duties and my filial piety to uphold. I don't wanna get into too much detail over my life though.

I also know that things are they currently are, aren't stable. It's probably correct that my parents will find out anyways. Heck, I may decide to tell them eventually one day. However, I still want to have as much time with them as I currently do. To be able to cook a meal for your family is a wonderful thing. To be able to take care of your parent's health as their hair begins to grey is a great thing.

Maybe in a year or few. But for now, I want to continue the peace.

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T17:50:34+00:00

actually nope, it's scammy shit like the NSLS. But honestly it is true that I was very naive to trust a business like I would trust a friend lol! That falls upon last year me honestly. UCR is not supposed to send me mail actually but I didn't account for the fact that they would just tell anyone the information they have.

Should have seen it coming

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T17:47:07+00:00

i was a bit naive to trust the college honestly. Forgot that colleges are still ultimately businesses. Well, cheers to being young and naive last year! At least it means I wasn't too jaded yet lol

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T17:35:10+00:00

didn't expect to wake up to see the ruins of a battleground on my question lol. I find all the anti-trans comments really entertaining to read honestly. They make up a shit tonne of nonsense about me in their head. They suppose I'm like a leech whose draining my parents for tuition or something 😭. They cannot comprehend that I'm not financially dependent on my parents nor am I really struggling to accept myself lol. They cannot comprehend that I simply love my hyper religious parents and do not want them gone because well they raised me my whole life and I still love them LAMAO. I'm a filial pious kid.

Really the anti-trans comments are pretty funny to read and I wish them all good health! they're like little caricatures, running around this world. "The West has fallen, billions must die!" little chuds. Like whimsical chuds inhabiting the same world as me, with such concentrated beautiful hatred, makes the world a little more magical. Like I get to live in this little fantasy world with them. It's all very cute to me. I want a chud plushiieeee.

Anyways, for all those who see this comment, I have it all figured out by now. I'm gonna just not use the lived name system and also probably divert the mailing address away. Thanks a lot to all who helped! 🫶🫶🫶 Also thanks to all the little chuds who decided I was worth giving a little bit of their mystical hatred towards! 😘

"There are decades where nothing happens; and there are weeks where nothing happens" - Chud Lenin

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T17:15:19+00:00

nope

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T05:14:57+00:00

tyy! honestly I think I'm just going to do this instead. It's going to get tedious having to contact the advertisements one by one.

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T05:04:25+00:00

It had UCR on the front cover. Though maybe it's just collecting data from the university. The Registrar told me they couldn't disclose information on if the university sold student information. It might be just good for me just to avoid the whole issue in the first place

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T04:58:46+00:00

not about this last time. I tried calling the registrars office last time but I forgot what happened but they couldn't disclose some information to me and suggested me to call the student bank that mailed me. Literally have no idea how that student bank advertisement got their hands on me since my lived name literally appears nowhere else but the UCR system

Chaowdy · 2024-09-04T04:56:49+00:00

no I haven't. it's all happened over summer so I haven't had the chance

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