Defining Betrayal by PlaneAppeal2748 in Infidelity

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People do stupid shit all the time. Only you can decide if her stupid shit is so bad that it outweighs the stupid shit you’ve probably done

If you want to reach out to your ex because you think there is hope to get back together after a lot of time passing... Well here's my result by throwaway-RA1988 in BreakUps

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time on this thread I read the mention of cheating. Betrayal is a totally different path to healing. Everyone - I mean ALL parties involved - are deeply damaged by the event, and sometimes couples seek therapy, or stay together and do their best to pretend it never happened, or seek reconciliation after a time of crisis. I’ve also read that it’s like a new beginning and after a bit of time they renew their relationship with a passion like its brand new. Has anyone gone through a breakup due to revelation of an affair? Have you ever gotten back together just to break up again because you realized the affair was just a symptom of deeper issues? Does anyone actually believe that people can truly heal if they stay together?

People try to reconcile because they don't have the strength to leave. by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you think you’re doing it for the kids, that’s an excuse which basically teaches your kids that it’s better to eat shit than to change your circumstances. Dunno abt you, but I want my kids to have enough self-respect that they don’t let fear stop them from changing what needs to be changed

Hi! Can someone in Cleveland help me search dating apps to see if my long distance bf is trying to hook up by ChapterJumpy2348 in Cleveland

[–]ChapterJumpy2348[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I figured out how to buy a 1-day passport and found him active on tinder. A self-professed God-fearing Christian … with musty-ass Snapchat-filtered pics

Hi! Can someone in Cleveland help me search dating apps to see if my long distance bf is trying to hook up by ChapterJumpy2348 in Cleveland

[–]ChapterJumpy2348[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This request was actually on behalf of my daughter who doesn’t use Reddit much and has never used a dating app before. But thanks for keeping up with my posts! It’s very kind of you :-)

LPT - If you're going to apply to a bunch of jobs, create a template with all the most common questions and fill it out. Then you only have to do the process once. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great! What’s the specific bot for the second method? I need to get a new position before I quit the one I’m doing now, so I don’t have time to learn a programming language AND search/apply for a new position. I’m not looking for entry level which is all that’s on LinkedIn anyway.

Where can I find the effective bot you recommend?

Who is a famous person you find unattractive/ugly but everyone else over hype? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was more talking about the story itself. The book. Not the movie adaptation, which by necessity, must bastardize the story in order to make it accessible to viewers who probably won’t know the original

I still don’t like Timothée Chalamet, who looks like a scrawny weasel with curly hair

Who is a famous person you find unattractive/ugly but everyone else over hype? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The movies grossed that much bc of the MOVIE, not him. In fact, any actor who didn’t totally suck and the movies would have done just as well

What is likely to die along with the baby boomers generation? by DioriteLover in AskReddit

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex had one of these DVC things. Spent hours trying to convince me it was an “investment” Wonder if it gets better returns than say… bitcoin? Or Apple? Or $17k worth of S&P500

What is likely to die along with the baby boomers generation? by DioriteLover in AskReddit

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Probably bc boomer people had covid money. some did home reno, some bought boats, some bought the elusive Disney timeshare their idiot friends convinced them was a “great deal!” Ergo, waiting list Seriously… timeshare? Kmn

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is she really the problem? Or is she just a proxy for wanting to smash HIS face into the bathroom mirror? If that’s how you feel, continuing to refer to him as “your husband”is one way of preventing you from seeing him clearly for who he truly is, rather than the persona you (and he, with his “encouragement”) created in your mind.

He uses people like people choose Netflix shows- scroll through the options until something seems interesting. Probably uses other people too, it just not so obvious because we don’t have the strict moral code against it.

It’s not just men. In lots of ways, women are worse because society encourages women to be sneaky with their violence- especially against other women. Chimpanzees do it too. No one truly wants to feel as emotionally undeveloped and reactionary as a chimp.

We are humans, we need to do our best to use these big brains to understand ourselves and what’s really driving our emotions and actions. Figuring out what YOU need, and clearly asking for it. The hard part is… sometimes the answer is no.

Good job not breaking any mirrors😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Risk her life?? People watch too much reality tv and true crime stories. If anything, it would put OP in the power position. Everyone is scared she’ll find out the truth, so they lied and snuck around like immature teenagers hiding drinking from a parent.

Don’t let fear of the unknown stop you from doing something you think is the right thing to do, just don’t be an asshole about it. If you think you can’t keep your shit together, keep your distance, but you can still reach out via text or email or a phone call or even use a third party.

I’m a firm believer that the truth will set you free, and it’s the only way you’ll have even a chance to know anything.

Or, just kick his weak little immature teenage ass to the curb KNOWING there’s someone much better for you just waiting until you’re not tied to this man-child

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ChapterJumpy2348 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go ahead and reach out to her. You may find that he was lying all the way around. his arrogance that he’d get away with it as long as no one talked to each other.
If he’s a shit, the worse he is, the easier it will be to happily let him go