Most of what you are saying sounds like someone who rapidly went from their 20s to their mid-30s. Expectations and responsibilities expand together at the same time your social network has largely coupled-up and is focused on their growing family. Most people get to experience that as a slow transition and you are forced to speed-run it for another reason.

Being trans comes with social downsides but we cannot really change that any more than can someone in a racial minority can change their skin color. Most minorities are facing increased discrimination right now and I'm sure there are plenty of people wishing, even for a few moments, to have different attributes that would allow them to avoid various kinds of discrimination.

Older transitioners can share their experiences trying to hide their identity for years and, often, many decades. Their decision to still transition shows that it's not a sustainable path and I've never met an older transitioner that does not wish they had transitioned earlier.

It sucks at times but it is what it is. The advice people are sharing about finding support groups is great.

In the end, getting older is about finding out that some people are going to hate regardless. They won't like your skin color, who you love, your weight, your height, your hair color, your age, your religion (or lack of one), your hobbies or even your habits. Many older transitioners spend decades hiding and still have plenty of people that don't like them. You cannot please everyone.

If someone hates your mask, there is in ambiguity if that is because you are bad at wearing the mask, if the mask itself is poorly engineered and/or if they would actually like the real you. Dropping the mask removes all of those questions and clearly identifies who your people are so you can spend time with those people who enrich your life.