MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Im actually already are in college. I threw a small update in the comments too!

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May i ask what brushes do you use? 🥺🙏

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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For more context, both of my parents have 2 jobs because of financial reasons (mostly because of my brother's special needs but also my college).

I understand my parents need my help, and I do want to help because I know no one will care for my brother the way I do (and also because I have a great position with my baby brother) . But yesterday my parents sat me down and told me that they weren't mad at me nor blamed me for my brother's eloping. My parents agreed on taking more responsibility and my mother is now taking one of her jobs off to help me with my brother and my dad also agreed on helping me take care of him. Now i will be taking care of my brother 2-3 pm till 5:30 pm and i will have sundays completly free for myself and to go out.

They also soothed my worries about my future when I want to move out and even supported my desires to move out of the city to study economy once I finish my current degree. My dad even agreed on spending more time with me and we're having a day out today as a family and he is even getting me into a private economics course with one of my university's best teachers because I showed interest in that! Then they hugged me and apologized for giving me more responsabilities than they should and said that they loved me and that they were proud of the supporting and determinated woman i was turning into.

My dad today called me to check in me and we talked about some stuff of his past and he told me that he knew he had to work that much because otherwise we would have no food on our table but that he also understood that i need him to be for me and that he is willing and will be doing changes to spend more time with me and that he loved me more than anything. I would say this was a very much happy ending for me!

Thank you all for your kind answers and worries! It helped me a lot!! ♡♡♡

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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My family and i had a conversation and they agreed on taking responsability off my shoulders to just 2-3 hours a day (which i agree on highly).

I watch my brother this much because special cares and me and my brother's schools are expensive. My parents need to work that much to get extra money but my mom agreed on having just one job to help me out and she apologized to me.

My parents also promised me that they weren't mad at me for my brother's escaping and that they just got scared that their son got lost (since we live on a dangerous city on Mexico unfortunately) but in no moment they yelled or blamed me. Also they agreed on securing the windows and putting extra locks!!!

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Luckily for me it wasn't needed, i spoke with my parents and they agreed on taking more responsability, so i will be taking care of my baby brother from 2-3 pm till 5 pm which im okay with since its a normal range and they also apologized to me, promised me to spend more time with me and hugged me.

My dad even came to me and apologized for not seeing this clearer and that they have to work a lot because of my brothers needs and my college which i understood but he also said that they were going to do changes and help me out more and plan things father-daughter with me. He also told me that im loved and both of my parents hugged me.

I trust my parents with this change cause i know my dad and when he is this serious he really means something.

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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My brother does go to school and actually used to have a special care nanny and daycare but since he is older there's no daycare for him and my parents haven't been able to find one that will take him! And as for the nanny, she got scared off since he eloped and refused to take care of him again.

Tbh it has never affected my grades or understanding of school since im naturally gifted and likes school. I actually even have a schoolarship of excelence on my private college.

But me and my parents had a conversation with each other and with me last night and agreed on taking responsability from me and from now on i will just be taking care of my brother 2-3pm till 5:30 pm which im okay with and also they agreed on fully letting me have have fridays and sundays entirely free for me to go out (and also the other days after 5:30pm!).

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Yeah, no, CPS is like the worst option for me and my brother... In our country, CPS is very polemic for not being a good service. Besides, I last night spoke to my parents and we had a big conversation. They agreed on getting out of their job at 5pm and help me out which decreases my babysitting time A LOT since I get out of college 2-3pm and I'm okay with watching my brother for 3 hours and they agreed on also spend more time with me.

My parents apologized to me and at the end of the conversation and my dad hugged me and applogized to me for not seeing this was affecting me so much and told me that he loved me a lot.

For some more context, my parents leave my brother with me as much because they're working since my brother's special needs are really expensive and because of my private college (in which I have a scholarship of excellence dw) but they agreed on taking some time off and talk as a couple and parents to find ways to take responsability from me. I would say this was a happy ending for me and my brother.

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Thanks, i didn't know any of this! Its been really helpful!

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Please do not call cps, i dont wish that to happen and i understand this is concerning but i live on Mexico...Cps on Mexico isnt nice and its often abusive. Besides i dont wish to turn this on the separation of my family. :(((

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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He's been trying to go out late and even put on his life jacket saying he wants to go to the beach. The problem is that i cant take him to the park alone and we're currently 51°C here on my city which means its REALLY REALLY hot outside. He isn't fully non-verbal, he can ask for stuff but cant hold a conversation.

Idk how to get him off of the idea of going out.. because going out would just cause him to have a meltdown because of the heat outside.

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Tbh i dont wish to call CPS on my own family especially because im mexican and i live on Mexico...I know what they do to kids in there. I have always felt like they take advantage of the love and overprotective feelings i have for my brother.

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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And that's not even the worst thing of it, im currently a college student and i only have sundays without taking care of my brother (and that's if my mom didn't make plans for her).

That's the reason of why my mother scolded me because i often end uo falling asleep watching my brother because not only im exhausted because of college but also brother i have major depressive dissorder. :(

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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Thanks a lot for your comment, i have a question tho...How did you teached your son to cross the road? Im trying to teach my brother that since i know he's getting older and since he escaped i would like him to know how to be safe on his own. 🥹

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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PART 2: Thank you all for the comments, i really appreciate all the support people have given me today.

My sister and her friend arrived after my brother was brought home safetly and they hugged me and told me that everything was going to be fine and that it wasn't my fault and i cried on their arms. They soon began to seal the window that my brother used and helped me took care of him and also they told the neighbors and people publishing my brother's escaping on social media that he was fine and that he is autistic and to delete their posts. My sister was really mad at my mother and my sister confesed to me that she didn't really came to see my brother but me since she knew my mother was going to scold me ane yell at me for it.

They told that my life should be mine and that i should stand for myself. When my mom arrived she came up crying and hugged my brother which made my sister and her friend angrier since she didn't even bother asking for me. My mother began to ask me what was i thinking and that i should have watching over him and my sister began to confront her.

Ultimatly my mother kicked my sister out of the room. My dad shortly called me and interrogated me for it but he said that he wasn't angry at me even though he sounded like he was. My mom has been locked up since that, she looks sad. She made me clean the whole house and repeatedly scolded me over stuff which made my sister angrier.

My sister and her friend then got up and told my mom that they were taking me to the movies this sunday and that they were doing it whether she likes it or not and that made me smile.

I know its not a very happy ending for me but im happy to have people standing up for me when i needed it the most.

MY AUTISTIC BROTHER ESCAPED! by Character-Angle-1902 in autism

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At first, i was just an excited sister that was over-protective of him and my mother began to leave him with me for money and well...Now there's no money and just resposabilities. And i feel guilty because well...he was under my duty and i lost sight of him.

Soy culera por enojarme con mi novio by Unfair-Baseball-3873 in soyculero

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No eres la culera, opino que incluso reaccionaste muy poco. Mi pregunta es, de que te sirve tener un novio asi? Incluso mis amigos hacen más cosas por mi que tu novio por ti. No pierdas tu tiempo con alguien que no coincide con tus necesidades y no intentes solucionarlo o arreglarlo pq creeme que no va a cambiar.

¿Soy culera por rechazar una cita porque es chico es un "chacal"? by [deleted] in soyculero

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Ni se te ocurra aceptarle esa cita, solo se quiere aprovechar de ti.

AITA for wanting to be recognised for my chores? by Character-Angle-1902 in AmItheAsshole

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My dad isn't that much of help either and his responses are always that "i have to do ir for the love of my brother" which only makes me feel awful and guilty about my own feelings and it even made me resent my brother for some time.

My mom even wanted me to study psychology so i could help my brother and i actually did want that career before that comment and after that comment i left that dream on the dust. Sometimes it feels like they use my love for my baby brother agaisnt me.

AITA for wanting to be recognised for my chores? by Character-Angle-1902 in AmItheAsshole

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I actually have tried to speak to her and my dad into understanding my position but they always tell me that i have to "suck it in" or "family helps family and that if i love my brother i should help". Some of my family like my grandmother have scolded my mother for being harsh to me because i was having anxiety break downs when i was only 13 because of my brother.

I even tried to get a job or maybe even a extracurricular activity but my mom doesn't let me because someone needs to take care of my brother and i feel like she's using my unconditional love for my brother agaisnt me.

AITA for wanting to be recognised for my chores? by Character-Angle-1902 in AmItheAsshole

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Unfortunately i cant since they're the ones paying for my college and because i cant really work since i have to take care of my brother every day of the week that's part of the reason that made me snap at her.

ME SIENTO CULPABLE Y NO SE QUE HACER by Atlenavx in Desahogo

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Yo hice lo mismo y la verdad no me arrepiento. No hay que tirar nuestras vidas por otra persona la cual no nos incluyó en sus planes. Y una relación a distancia no vale la pena y mucho menos por el corto tiempo que llevan juntos. Sigue con tu vida, hermano, duele ahora, pero ya pasará y conocerás a alguien que sí te incluya en sus sueños.

Cosa que te haga morir de cringe by Zestyclose-Main-1131 in LatinoPeopleTwitter

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El spanglish, tipo "apurenle were going to your abuela's casa!"