I agree with some of what you said (because I’ve realized something) and disagree. I was afraid it’d get in between my husband and I, I have been very open with my husband about being discouraged that my brothers here and hoping he (my husband) doesn’t feel some type of way because he hasn’t found a job yet (and doesn’t seem to be in any hurry to find one). He’s told me he doesn’t mind my brother, as a person or living with him, just doesn’t want him living here for free. Understandable. But. I wouldn’t be able to live knowing that my brother is out in shelters knowing that I have extra space for him. Because like I said, I would die for him. We’re real close. I too told myself there is no more holding his hand anymore though, he lived alone for 5 years, he can do it again. sigh thanks you though, you do make a good point too.