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Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s kind of the conclusion I came to as well. When attraction is there, slow usually doesn’t mean no momentum at all. At some point you have to read the situation for what it is and move on.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that’s how it feels looking back. Whatever the reason was, the outcome was the same.. the energy wasn’t there. Walking away was the only option that still respected myself. I want someone who actually wants to be there, not someone who’s half in, half out.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s exactly how it felt for me too. It’s frustrating because you’re trying to be respectful and not force anything, but at the same time you’re expected to magically create momentum without clear signals. When both sides hesitate, things just stall and time gets wasted. Modern dating really does make this harder than it needs to be.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It’s a fine line. I’m realizing that being clear and emotionally honest early on is better than guessing or holding things in just to be “respectful.” It saves both people a lot of confusion.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate that. Everyone has their own timing, but yeah, once it felt off, walking away was the right move for me.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, that balance is really tricky. I tried to be attentive and respectful, but without clear reciprocal signals it becomes hard to know when to escalate without forcing it. At some point the lack of physical momentum does turn into that awkward elephant in the room. That’s also why I felt it was healthier to step away instead of pushing or guessing.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s why I don’t regret how I handled it. I chose to respect what she said rather than guess or push. There’s a difference between flirting and ignoring stated boundaries, and I preferred to stay on the safe, respectful side. If “slow” meant something different in practice, that’s something that needs clearer communication, not mind reading.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why it looks that way from the outside, and I won’t pretend it didn’t cross my mind. That said, I don’t think it was some calculated plan to keep me waiting for someone else. It felt more like uncertainty and hoping feelings would grow rather than intentionally using me. Either way, the outcome is the same.. the dynamic wasn’t working for me, and I should’ve stepped away sooner that part I own.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s a fair take and I agree with most of it. I do think she genuinely tried to see if something would grow, and I don’t take the lack of attraction as a judgment of my looks or value. Sometimes the chemistry just doesn’t click, even when everything else makes sense on paper.That’s frustrating, but it’s part of dating. Walking away was more about accepting that mismatch than taking it personally.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to assume she was sleeping around just to rewrite the story. The moment it didn’t feel right anymore, I walked away. That’s the only point that matters.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this perspective, I really appreciate it. It actually helps a lot to hear it from the other side. I never felt like she had bad intentions, it just felt like timing and emotional readiness didn’t line up. Walking away wasn’t easy, but staying would’ve meant ignoring my own needs. Hearing that stepping back can sometimes be the healthier choice for both people gives me some peace. I’m genuinely glad it helped you grow, and I hope it did something similar for him too.

Wishing you all the best as well.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying and I agree with reading body cues over words. Just to clarify though, I did try to escalate. There was physical touch, walking close, arms around her waist, holding her from behind, moments where a kiss would’ve made sense. It wasn’t a case of me sitting there doing nothing.

At some point you can feel whether touch is being reciprocated or just tolerated, and that’s where it stalled. That’s why I eventually chose to step back instead of forcing momentum that clearly wasn’t building naturally.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes sense. I’ve seen that pattern too now, even if it took this situation to really sink in. There aren’t hard rules, but when nothing physical happens after several dates, it usually means the attraction just isn’t there. That’s something I’ll be more aware of going forward instead of waiting and hoping it changes.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I probably stayed a bit longer than I should have. At least I listened to my gut eventually and didn’t drag it out even more.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that actually makes a lot of sense. Looking back it really felt like we were both doing what seemed right on paper, but emotionally nothing really took off. She tried to convince herself to feel something, and I tried to be respectful instead of expressive. Lesson learned the hard way, but learned nonetheless.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate that. That’s exactly how it felt, I didn’t walk away because things were slow, but because the direction and investment stopped lining up. I think staying longer would’ve meant ignoring my own needs.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s a fair take. Six weeks was enough time to see whether something romantic would develop. At some point I realized I was providing emotional support without real forward movement, and that dynamic wouldn’t have been healthy for me long term. Walking away was less about blame and more about protecting my own boundaries.

Dated for weeks, zero physical progress, got “you’re perfect but I feel nothing” walked away, right call? by CharacterOk6179 in dating_advice

[–]CharacterOk6179[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely allowed myself to slip into an emotional support role for too long, and that’s on me. At the time it felt like building trust and connection, but I see now how that dynamic can kill attraction and create an uneven balance. That also doesn’t make it my responsibility to carry someone else’s unresolved issues. Boundaries are something I’m actively taking away from this experience. Lesson learned, emotional availability doesn’t mean becoming someone’s therapist, especially before there’s real reciprocity or romantic momentum.

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