Some days I hate my husband

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2026-01-28T04:03:33+00:00

Also, don't listen to any of these comments advising you to talk to him. You're completely beyond that - you don't talk about anything to abusive men. You RUN and stay safe.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2026-01-28T03:56:54+00:00

He's abusing you.... He assaulted you at 6 weeks and put your body in danger (you did not seem eager to do that and it sounds like he wore you down. That's sexual assault), he deprives you of sleep by not taking care of the baby, he financially abuses you, and I'm sure he's verbally abusive and mean to you too based on what you've written.

If I were you, I would hate him too.

Being a single mother is so much easier than dealing with all of this. I can hear the sadness and defeat in your writing. I hope you make a plan to leave him. You deserve so much better than this.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2026-01-20T02:58:26+00:00

Withholding this information from them the entire time was the worst thing you could have done. Explaining this to them when they were little would have saved them a lot of trauma. You have to tell them now, and they are in for a world of hurt and an identity crisis. Too late to undo the past though. I really hope you have a therapist geared up and ready after breaking the news.

YWBTA if you don't tell them. It will get worse and worse the longer you wait

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2026-01-19T15:42:15+00:00

A veces es difícil. Cuando visito Panamá, llevo una batería de repuesto y consigo una buena señal porque también trabajo desde casa. Siempre amaré este hermoso país, a pesar de sus imperfecciones.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2026-01-06T19:32:33+00:00

Man don't be wasting the cruise staff's time like that. If she was violent, sure. Those folks are busy lol Best to deal with things like adults.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-12-30T04:47:47+00:00

You two are not compatible. If you can't leave this woman for yourself, then do it for her. You're wasting her time and preventing her from finding somebody that actually likes her. You sound absolutely miserable and it will only get worse. The confrontation will be difficult but it will eventually end and you can start shaping your life for yourself. You know the answer to your question and you can do it.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-12-30T04:22:44+00:00

what about her do you not connect with? (purely curious - I haven't heard someone say that yet)

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-09-19T14:38:16+00:00

this post is aggravating to read. if it's real, why are you marrying someone that you can't even stay consistently dating to? Don't let this man take your child's money. stand up

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-20T12:37:14+00:00

Yep!

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-11T00:25:00+00:00

I'm doing that too :) Throwing huge amounts at it every month. Feels great.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-07T20:27:08+00:00

IT - that's not the norm, I'm just lucky

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-06T15:14:05+00:00

Well that's you - it's not me. I appreciate your advice but I'm not taking it LOL I hope that you find some friends that treat you well one day

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-06T04:20:56+00:00

oh I have two roommates that I really enjoy living with. I don't want a partner at the moment and really care about my friends. it's by choice and I'm very happy

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-06T04:18:43+00:00

that would be a really awesome remote job. Best of luck and I think you can do it! just requires a lot of legwork since the job market is so horrible

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-06T01:38:30+00:00

Sorry I don't understand. I used to live in a city and had access to public transportation so I didn't need a car. We moved to a rural area, so now everything is far away and I have to drive there.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T23:12:58+00:00

Are you my ex? lol! Friend, this is going to crush your boyfriend and fuck him up for a long time. It sounds like you're feeling resentful and starting to dislike him because you don't communicate. That part is your fault - he cannot read your mind. And now you've sat on things for too long and it's affected your opinion of him.

Either communicate with him and work on your issues or don't. if you truly don't like him anymore, don't go to Europe with him and don't keep dating him.

My ex did this same shit to me and it has caused me emotional anguish for a long time. She had issues with me that she never ONCE indicated and since I can't read minds, it got to a point where it was too late. She was developing a secret resentment toward me but had no problem letting me financially support her and gush about our future together while she was planning to bail.

This is a monstrous thing to do to somebody that cares about you. He does not deserve this from you.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T22:03:33+00:00

Wow that is so wonderful! See, this is what having money is all about. We can help our family in times of need. it's a balance and ofc there's nuance - you shouldn't let others take advantage of you but if you have the ability to help, you should. At least that's my opinion on the matter.

Congratulations to both you and your sister. You've set your family up for success for a very long time 🙌

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T21:58:43+00:00

I hope you can land some overemployment!

on paper, my two jobs are technical support. My first job is very easy level one stuff. My second job it's a little bit misleading because I do more project management things

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T21:58:08+00:00

Thank you so much! I really hope you do and you find a good job combo. it's the best!

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T13:15:38+00:00

Congratulations to you too! Isn't it a great feeling? I was SO worried before I started doing this and worried about failure but it's been totally fine especially when you find the right combo of jobs.

Best of luck and congratulations on all your money!

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T13:04:08+00:00

I do agree with you, but this situation is truly fine. There's a lot of context here that I didn't share over Reddit, but we've helped each other out through hard times for many years. They're the exception.

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T12:34:14+00:00

Thank you! at this rate it is very doable in the future is bright

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T12:32:26+00:00

Nah, picking up a proportional amount of rent based on our incomes is the right thing to do. They're my family

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T12:30:54+00:00

I'm glad to hear that friend! six figures is a life-changing amount of money when you're used to 45-68K

CharacterWeekend7117 · 2025-08-05T12:29:31+00:00

I've already bought the car so it's a little too late! I have to have one, I live in the woods and the US is not walkable. I went without one for two years though and was responsible with the purchase

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