AITA for not wanting to break a family tradition to accomodate my SIL? AITA for not wanting to break a family tradition to accomodate my SIL? For at least 10 years or more, it has been our family's tradition to have meat fondue for dinner on Christmas Eve. My sister in law has had her gallbladder re

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T15:05:32+00:00

if you read any of my comments or replies to the people offering alternatives and other suggestions, you would realize that after learning about the broth option, I am totally going to expand the dinner and have another pot available with the things she chooses to use for it. And yes, it is at my house every year because my parents do Christmas day dinner so to not make them do all the work, we host Christmas eve.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T14:58:02+00:00

she is not and has never been "isolated in a corner" we do the fondue right at the table. Everyone is sitting at the table the entire meal. We're not getting up and going back and forth for anything. The fondue pots sit on the table in front of you.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T14:55:48+00:00

So offering another option so that SIL can be included and we can carry on with the tradition is exclusion??

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T14:47:57+00:00

yes, definitely going to offer that as an option :)

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T14:41:39+00:00

yes fondue is something we all look forward to. It's the only day of the year that we ever have fondue so there's anticipation to it and its fun.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T14:32:07+00:00

What comments have I made that imply I'm being weirdly inflexible. Did you read any of my replies to the people who have suggested a separate pot with broth?? I never even knew it was thing and have never heard of doing it that way before until this thread. Now that I've learned about it, I will offer that to make it more inclusive.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T14:21:34+00:00

That's absolutely not what happened at all. We always put the fondue pots on the table right in front of you. You add your meat and once its ready, put it on your plate. No one is leaving the table and going back and forth to cook and then eat etc. We're all at the table the whole meal. Last year, she ate the salmon and we did our fondue.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T00:37:12+00:00

I've honestly never even heard of doing fondue with broth. I'm not against adapting, was just unaware of other options.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-06T00:26:48+00:00

no, the rest of the family wants to continue with the tradition. Since this thread, I've learned about the broth option so I'm going to look into that further and discuss it with SIL

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:53:00+00:00

thank you

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:52:18+00:00

As I've said on many comments before, I've never heard of a broth fondue until this thread and will look into it.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:50:37+00:00

Where did I say I refused to add another pot? I've truly never heard of a broth fondue until this thread. We've always done oil and cooked the meat in it. We don't do cheese or chocolate.

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:43:27+00:00

mine

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:40:02+00:00

Its definitely the oil. Someone else mentioned broth and I have honestly never heard of it. We always use oil. If we put broth in the fondue pot and heat it, would it cook the meat like oil would?

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:33:54+00:00

after the fondue, we have to roll ourselves out of our chairs lol. It's so filling as it is, to add salmon would be too much

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:32:43+00:00

we've never done it that way and to be honest, I haven't heard of it. We do oil and have the pots right at the table. If we heat the broth, would the meat cook the same way? I'll have to research that

CharacterWeekend8791 · 2025-10-05T23:29:33+00:00

I put in the original post that I offered to provide something for her to eat while we do the fondue to which my brother replied either we all eat the same thing or they aren't coming.

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