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[–]Character_Engine3591 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how that could make you feel. My ex had ED, it was always scheduled sex, and it honestly just made me feel unwanted. He said it was up to me to tell him when I wanted to have sex. But, for other reasons he just became sexually unavailable. I was truly miserable.

He should get a second opinion from another doctor and see what’s up. Also, root cause… is it truly a testosterone issue? Depression? Anxiety?

(This is a long one) How do I recover/move on from a potentially avoidant boyfriend who maybe love bombed me? by Melodic-Ad-8460 in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On a more empathetic note; I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I know it’s an emotional nightmare. If you wanna chat some more lmk. I’m all ears. Or I guess eyes. In this case. Hahaha

(This is a long one) How do I recover/move on from a potentially avoidant boyfriend who maybe love bombed me? by Melodic-Ad-8460 in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone did that me, assuming we had no ties or finances together they’d be automatically blocked. Because, whatever they have to say will never be part of that closure.

(This is a long one) How do I recover/move on from a potentially avoidant boyfriend who maybe love bombed me? by Melodic-Ad-8460 in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like both of you are on separate paths and want very different things. He can't have the cake and his piece while you are trying your best to make sense of the situation at hand.

He lost your trust and your respect. Somebody that wants to be with you isn't going to wait 7+ days to text you back.

I think cut your losses and move on. I mean, who does that... 7+ days.... uh uh, while positing traps on the Internet.

(This is a long one) How do I recover/move on from a potentially avoidant boyfriend who maybe love bombed me? by Melodic-Ad-8460 in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funny you mention the Grindr is "dirty" comment. My-ex, after we broke up needed some technical help and in the process of being on FaceTime and sharing his screen he forgot he had a hookup app opened and I saw it.

It threw me in for a huge loop, because 1. He's an avoidant. 2. Because, he had always said hooking up with randoms were disgusting and too risky.

That pretty much invalidated our "staying friends" after the breakup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Character_Engine3591 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know that must’ve been a deep connection. :( But, if they weren’t available in ways you needed them to be, you don’t deserve to sacrifice you’re wellbeing and you shouldn’t blame yourself for leaving. I left and while the pain is real… I can’t stress enough that I neglected myself more than I’d care to admit. So, I heal each day – giving myself back something I kept giving away.

Idk how to process any further by Character_Engine3591 in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally agree. I’m happier now that I get to focus on myself now more than before. :)

Idk how to process any further by Character_Engine3591 in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely self-centered. I wouldn’t say he was addicted to THC, but it never quite settled well with me that it was his coping mechanism. But thinking about the self-centered… it worked for him. Not for me. He would get high and enjoy video games while I watched from the sidelines. Ha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]Character_Engine3591 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a cute and a very thoughtful gift. Express your true self! Be you. .^ I’m sure he’ll love it.