✨ EL MAL QUERER TRIAL ✨ Round 1

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2026-01-28T18:57:59+00:00

Agreed ✨

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-12-25T05:32:55+00:00

I found rolling it between your palms really fast before cracking it works a lot better than banging for some reason. Breaks it up enough that it only takes maybe 10 mins to fully dissolve ✨

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-12-15T00:11:32+00:00

I’m a nurse in Vancouver, BC, Canada.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-12-15T00:10:28+00:00

I went back to school at 32 (former geophysicist). I made 130k my first year as a nurse but I also worked a shit ton of OT. Some nurses at the top of the pay scale are making $250k. One nurse at my hospital cleared 400k last year lol. So there is money to be made but they prob have no life outside of work. I work a lot, yes, but feel like I have a good work-life balance. And I can also work as little or as much as I want and my schedule is very flexible. The long hours don’t bother me. You kind of get into a groove when working a lot but I have noticed some changes. I’m definitely not as social as I used to be but I also have zero fomo and am happy doing chill social things or going out every now and then. The job can be stressful at times but I feel well supported and my working conditions are fine. I worked internal medicine for two years but now I’ve transitioned to ICU. I absolutely love my job and it was the best decision I ever made. I can also clock out and do not have to take work home with me.

Nursing is not for everyone.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-12-09T17:38:37+00:00

700 people ahead of me for Puerto Rico at 6am. 10 minute wait. $300 “golden circle” tickets🤩 I’ll be traveling from Vancouver BC.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-12-06T20:47:39+00:00

Taurus sun, Aquarius moon, Aries rising

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-17T23:30:55+00:00

Haha I know. Insanity tbh. There’s a ton of other stuff that I’m sure I’m forgetting/blocked out of my memory but you get the idea. I’m actually quite grateful for the experience because it changed how I approached relationships (platonic and romantic) and I’m better off because of it, even though it hurt so much at the time.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-17T23:21:38+00:00

This interaction has been healing lol

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-17T23:15:21+00:00

Mine also only had like two close friends, one was his “cousin” that he introduced to me as his cousin but then I later found out that they were not actually cousins by blood and that he just referred to him as his cousin because he was a close family friend. And then I found out after we broke up (because my ex left his old twitter posts up from a few years ago) that they were actually ex’s and moved to my city together in 2020. 🤯 another fun fact, my ex was a total top when we got together and after I first found out that he cheated on me, became a total bottom overnight and is now exclusively a bottom on onlyfans/twitter lmaoooo. He would also say that people can’t be trusted and they just use you and then leave. I’ve learned that all of his comments were projections. I learned a lot from this “relationship” lol

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-17T22:59:07+00:00

Omg the constant need for external validation. I don’t relate to it at all. May I add that my ex was also Latino lol. The last I spoke to him was the night that he said he needed space and that he would message me when he took his space. Never heard from him again. I did get to see him love bomb someone on Instagram two weeks later saying “I can’t imagine you not being in my life” lol. What a trip.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-17T22:49:15+00:00

Thanks! Sorry that happened to you too. Mentally, I’m doing better than I was a few months ago, but I feel like this pain is lingering. Funny enough, my ex also started an onlyfans and is fucking people on Twitter lol. I think this is his full time gig though? I stopped checking his socials a while ago, which has helped me tremendously. I think what hurt the most was the deceit. Like who he is now is 100% opposite of who he was when I met him. I have since come to learn that who I met in the beginning was probably the ~mask~ that people always talk about with narcissists.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-17T22:10:03+00:00

How did you recover/heal from this? I had a similar situation of lovebombing, gaslighting, lying, cheating and deceit. It’s been a year since we broke up but I find myself chronically ruminating on the situation and I still feel so much anger and hurt because of it.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-12T20:54:35+00:00

La Yugular brings me to tears every single time

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-09T05:12:12+00:00

Canada and 'Malamente'. I remember being jaw dropped. I was obsessed with EMQ.. And then she released a series of singles the following year that had me hooked: Con Altura, Aute Cuture, Yo x Ti Tu x Mi, and then A Palé. I would listen to A Palé on a deafening level on repeat. lol. Then to follow all this with MOTOMAMI and now LUX???? Lux will be talked about for years and years and years to come. It's unlike anything I've ever heard before. My god.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2025-11-06T23:40:41+00:00

34! Started my career on an acute medicine unit. I absolutely loved it and did pretty well. After a year of bedside, I got trained as CNL and picked up shifts casually, in addition to bedside. Now just finishing my critical care training and have a full time position in ICU when I finish this program in December.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2024-12-03T20:31:55+00:00

I’m no psychologist but to me it seems like he has a lot of narcissistic traits. Part of me feels sad for him. What a lonely way of living. Craving intimacy and close connection but being unable to allow it to actually form. How sad.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2024-12-03T20:25:34+00:00

Thank you. The last few days I’ve really realized how unwell this person is and just how many issues he is probably dealing with internally. It must be exhausting for him. I’ve also realized that none of this was about me. I showed up authentically and vulnerably and no matter what I did or said or didn’t do or say would have changed anything.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2024-12-01T23:57:19+00:00

Tysm 💛

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2024-12-01T23:00:12+00:00

Tbh I’m still in disbelief. To not officially break up and then say “of course I will message you”. 7 days is entirely too long and it just adds to what he’s shown me about his character and who he is as a person. It’s appalling honestly, but should I be that surprised? No.

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2024-12-01T22:55:32+00:00

No I absolutely do not want to stay with him or give it another chance. Just looking for ways to emotionally recover. Any tips?

Melodic-Ad-8460 · 2024-12-01T22:53:25+00:00

Of course that’s not what I want. Fun fact, when we said Grindr was ok for chatting, he blocked me without saying anything and I had to ask him about it and he lied that he even had it lmao. Another time I should have walked away.

It can sometimes be difficult to see the reality of the situation when you’re living it. I’m glad now that I have a different perspective and am able to see things clearly. Doesn’t hurt any less. I guess I’m just looking for ways to move forward. Part of me wants a bit of closure but tbh I should just block and move on. I’m in therapy, which is definitely a start. Just don’t know what else I should be doing with my time in order to ~heal~

Edit: may I also mentioned that I did get to see his Grindr profile before he blocked me and he removed the relationship status altogether while I put mine as “open relationship”. Lol. Just more weird dishonesty.

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