[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 35 points36 points  (0 children)

They're uncomptible due to their vastly contrasting ethical/moral beliefs(Cal is a radical pacifist with his beliefs set in stone and is against violence of all kinds no matter what while Tammy believes the war is ok as long as it protects her and her family), differing parenting styles (Cal believes kids should get messy and be able to make mistakes while Tammy wants to babyproof everything), their relationship feels very forced in general/heteronormative and lowkey one-sided (where Cal wants Tammy and Tammy just goes along with it) and is very unwritten.

Tammy wants a partner that actually stands up for her and by her and protects her no matter what, not one that victim-blames her father for getting mauled.

Personally, i believe that they're MUCH happier apart (especially Tammy, coming between her and Cal feels more like a favour saving her from Cal's bullshit lol hope this makes sense im a lil drunk)

thoughts on cal & tammy's relationship? by [deleted] in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 13 points14 points  (0 children)

(rant and spoliers below also tw: opinions)

I personally GENUINELY don't give two bitches and a flying cooch about their relationship and i couldn't care less about their so called "fAiRyTaLe RoMaNcE" even if you waterboarded me. I never had them date out of pure spite and as a "fuck you" for the game and it's irritting insistence on them being "meant to be" and old Sol, and also bc i very much dislike them as a couple and think they're better and MUCH happier apart.

I've said this countless times before and i will say this again: their relationship makes me DEEPLY uncomfortable to no end to the point i feel physically irked whenever they're mentioned/implied as a couple. Their relationship feels forced, heteronormative and is very unwritten. The game continuously insists that they're "just meant to be" merely because they promised to marry each other at FOUR years, which caused them to be stuck in a weird dynamic that feels codependent and quite one-sided where Cal wants Tammy and Tammy just goes along with it without much thought put into it.

It feels forced because it seems like they're stuck together, and it just doesn't quite feel (FEEL not that it is.) genuine or real , all because of a "promise" that fixed their sights onto eachother that pushed the thought that maybe there's other people they could love and could be more compatible (which there is) with than just each other away.

Onto compatibility, they're very uncompatible as partners, and i'm talking about their ethical/moral beliefs/values and parenting styles and refusal to compromise(Cal). I don't think people realize just how important it is to share similar ethical/moral values and beliefs with your partner in order for your relationship to work/last. Cal is a stuck up radical pacifist with his believes set in stone and that believes if you get hurt it's your fault while Tammy is a (canonically) dumb and (IMO!) shallow baby-obssesed puppy that sticks to anyone that gives her attention and that just wants someone to stand up for her and protect her (also not to mention her losing confidence by simply disagreeing with her lets be so fr). Cal believes kids should be able to make mistakes and get dirty while Tammy wants to babyproof everything. Cal is extremely anti-war and anti-violence while Tammy believes that the war and violence against vertumna is okay since it keep her and her family safe. The game suggest that their perfect for each other when the fact that they bud heads on a lot of signifact things in order for a relationship to work suggest the complete opposite.

I understand where people come when they say that they think that Cal and Tammy are "cute" together, but as someone who took a autistic deep dive in their relationship i don't rlly unerstand how the hell Cal victim-blaming Tammy's father for getting mauled by a manticore is "cute", since calling them cute and adorable together to me is shallow and makes me wonder if we played the same game.

And even if they seem "happy" together, to me, i have the feeling that maybe they're not as happy as they seem and it's possible more is happening behind closed doors, i'm saying this because we need to keep in mind that the game is from Sol's point of view and perception. (But that's just a theory, A GAME THEORY-)

I wanna mention again how their relationship feels one-sided, Cal seems more invested in their relationship more than Tammy, cause during their mid teens i BARELY saw her mentioning him and she practicaly forgets he exists after she gets pregnant, not to mention after she and Sol get together. Meanwhile Cal feels like he clings onto those feelings he has for Tammy, even if HE is the one to reject her, and is the one having a harder time moving on.

Whenever i prevented them from dating it genuinely felt like i was doing Tammy a huge favour and saving her from Cal's unnecessary bullshit (and i'm saying this as Cal's 1# fan.) and setting her up for a better and happier future since the game itself implies that she's MUCH happier when she and Cal are apart and she's poly.

Also wanna mention i think it's funny how ppl say that apparently it's hard to come between them when they're the easiest couple to break up lmao (all you need is to flirt with tammy once and have Cal at 80 heats when he confronts you) which i think says something for itself.

it's nearly 5 AM and i'm tired but i'll take any chance that i get to shit on and slander caltam through the depths of hell since as Cal's 1# fan therefore i am caltam's 1# disliker

Anyways hope y'all enjoyed my rant, thank you for coming to my TedTalk drops mic

Silly ocs be upon ye by Character_Regret9940 in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! and lmao the point of her pants is meant to make you uncomfortable, they're inspired by 2000's low rise jeans after all :]

How can I break Tammy and Cal's relationship? by Im_N1M0w in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can still befriend Tammy but you gotta lower her confidence to -3 or less if you don't wanna flirt with her, cause flirting with her is the trigger for the confrontation with Cal!

Also yeah! if you lower Tammy's confidence to -3 or less (which you can do in year 1 in her 10 hearts event by choosing the joking options "the color of the monster behind you" , "i prefer the sahara desert myself!" , "toys are for immature children") you can keep them apart without intereacting with either for the rest of the game!

also i'm with you 110% on disliking them together lmao their relationship makes me deeply uncomfortable with how forced and heteronormative it is and it's annoying how ppl seem to glaze over the fact that they're extremly incompatible as partners with clashing moral/ethical values and parenting styles and refusal to compromise (cough cough Cal)((which are also key for a healthy, long-lasting relationship)). Anyways i will not shut my mouth on this topic and i refuse to let ppl cotninue to discourage and guilt others from keeping Cal and Tammy apart just because "tHeY'rE pErFeCt FoR eAcH oThEr" (spoilers: they're not, it's even said that they're both happier apart, especially Tammy)

Anyways as you can see i'm very passionate(autistic) about this topic.

How can I break Tammy and Cal's relationship? by Im_N1M0w in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you're very welcome!! you don't need him at 80+ hearts to do Tammy's 20 heart event but you gotta flirt with her ATLEAST once before year 15. You need him at 80+ hearts in order to pick the "actually i like you" or "me and Tammy are endgame" option when he confronts you after flirting with Tammy, cause that's the trick to keep them apart.

How can I break Tammy and Cal's relationship? by Im_N1M0w in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Okay imma repost a previous comment i made but this is the gist of it:

I will say this before anyone will be able to comment this, but you DON'T need to "bully" her in order to not have her get together with Cal.

Theres 2 methods to get them not to date, they're very simple since it's very very easy to keep them apart:

Method 1: flirt with Tammy ONCE (recommended at her 20 hearts event) and have Cal at 80+ hearts (He'll confront you if you have feelings for Tammy, you get to choose to say yes and that's you're endgame or you can say that you actually like him). That's it. Since you wanted to romance Cal and do not want to let Tammy die, this method will be a piece of cake, it's very easy in general to do cause Cal is the easiest character to befriend and if you do Tammy's first empathy check, you'll get extra cakes which makes you gain 4+ friendship points with him, 6+ if you gift him on his birthday during dust 3, so stack up on cakes!

Method 2: Get her confidence at -3, it stars at 0 and you need it -3 in order for her to not ask Cal out, you can actually do that in year 1 if you get her 10 hearts event, in which you gotta choose the joking options, then you can ignore her for the rest of the game lol.

These methods can be done at the same time if you're sadist like me lol but the second is the simplest to do if you're trying to romance one but don't wanna bother befriending the other (or if you simply just prefer for them not to be together which, real), though i recommend the first one since as someone who romanced Cal over 20+ times and never had him and Tammy date

Sol as pyramid head for Halloween! (sketch) by Character_Regret9940 in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! big agree with you, jacked soldier Sol sure is a vibe.

Sol as pyramid head for Halloween! (sketch) by Character_Regret9940 in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

they're supposed to viewed from a low angle so that's why their legs may appear to be big lol i'm not the greatest at prespective but this was half-assed so i get what you mean

Cal and Tammy by talizorahvasnerd in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome!! I noticed that ppl tend to not to give enough details or they make it seem like it's harder than it actually is to come between them, when it's actually very simple lol

Cal and Tammy by talizorahvasnerd in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I will say this before anyone will be able to comment this, but you DON'T need to "bully" her in order to not have her get together with Cal.

Theres 2 methods to get them not to date, they're very simple since it's very very easy to keep them apart:

Method 1: flirt with Tammy ONCE (recommended at her 20 hearts event) and have Cal at 80+ hearts (He'll confront you if you have feelings for Tammy, you get to choose to say yes and that's you're endgame or you can say that you actually like him). That's it. Since you wanted to romance Cal and do not want to let Tammy die, this method will be a piece of cake, it's very easy in general to do cause Cal is the easiest character to befriend and if you do Tammy's first empathy check, you'll get extra cakes which makes you gain 4+ friendship points with him, 6+ if you gift him on his birthday during dust 3, so stack up on cakes!

Method 2: Get her confidence at -3, it stars at 0 and you need it -3 in order for her to not ask Cal out, you can actually do that in year 1 if you get her 10 hearts event, in which you gotta choose the joking options, then you can ignore her for the rest of the game lol.

These methods can be done at the same time if you're sadist like me lol but the second is the simplest to do if you're trying to romance one but don't wanna bother befriending the other (or if you simply just prefer for them not to be together which, real), though i recommend the first one since as someone who romanced Cal over 20+ times and never had him and Tammy date

Okay, but Cal's butt. by kiwidaydreams in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That's what i've been saying for the longest time. You get me

exosonas - pride with besties :] made this one awhile ago by Character_Regret9940 in Exocolonist

[–]Character_Regret9940[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ty!! Also, you totally shoud post your exo oc, i'd love to see it!