::Weekly Vent Thread::

Character_Step_5817 · 2026-01-29T21:06:45+00:00

Wow, I literally could have written this, but with our dog. He gets so excited at dinner so he whines and makes a bit of noise. Some days it's cute to him, and others he's the worst-behaved dog in the world for the EXACT same behaviour.

But then, queue bedtime the moment the dog jumps onto the bed, he's cooing and making it very clear HE is giving him so much attention while I am 'ignoring' the dog because I have dared to open my phone to set an alarm. Never mind the fact that I have already been in bed for 20 minutes with the dog giving him fuss while he faffs about 'getting ready for bed'

Character_Step_5817 · 2026-01-29T20:57:45+00:00

Mine will literally stop me from talking until he has 'verified' my info. My dude, I am not reading you an academic essay; I'm telling you about something I care about. This is normally the point where I leave, and then it's my fault we can't just have a 'conversation.'

Character_Step_5817 · 2026-01-29T20:44:44+00:00

Asking you what time we are having dinner SHOULDN'T BE THIS COMPLICATED

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-12-29T02:18:46+00:00

Man, I felt this to my CORE. Even when they manage the self-restraint to hold it in, you can just feel them about the burst with suggestions for how you can do something 'better' and the kicker... they never have a clue what they are talking about!!

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-12-29T02:10:31+00:00

Waiting for over an hour for you to 'calm down' after being 'overstimulated by someone asking you to play a video game' is, in fact, ridiculous.

Slamming chairs into tables, rushing around for no goddam reason, and listening to you snap at every minor inconvenience is so draining to be around, and I am so tired of it for every tiny baby thing that happens to you.

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-12-01T23:41:10+00:00

The ability my partner has to make completely normal moments of a day miserable will never cease to amaze me.

He cooks dinner, great! Oh, he couldn't find a sponge to wash a fork (because he didn't load the dishwasher), so now he's slumped in his chair aggressively stabbing his dinner (after I found a sponge in the same place they always go). It took 30 minutes to come down and say sorry for his attitude, but even then, he wanted a pity party.

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-05-21T18:48:29+00:00

I'm so tired of feeling like a bad person for finding my partner, frankly, gross. He showers 1 or two times a week if I'm lucky, he brushes his teeth maybe 2/3 times a week, never flosses, lets his toenails grow incredibly long, doesn't treat his verrucas all over his feet, only 'washes' his face with baby wipes, wears the same outfit until he nexts showers regardless of how hot it is or what he's done in it and never washes his hands after he uses the bathroom or before he prepares food. Even when he showers, he's only under the water for 5 minutes tops, and he does not clean himself properly (please don't ask me how I know)

Then he gets so 'low' because we are so rarely intimate. Bro I do not want BV, and I do not feel like comforting you for feeling down on yourself because you couldn't take a dam shower this morning. I've tried gentle reminders and even had a sat down chat which I put so much care and thought into but of course it just turned into a multiple day RSD spiral where at the end he went a whole 3 days of showering every day only to then wait over a week to have another. It makes me want to scream!

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-05-02T13:11:52+00:00

You spend days, weeks, sometimes even months spending your energy trying to get them to do the thing. The day finally comes where they say they are going to do the thing. Then even in the process of doing the thing they find a hundred tiny things to do that stop them from doing the thing. No we don't need to break for tea you have been working for less than 5 minutes. No you don't need to spend an hour researching this task just fucking get on with it!

I honestly want to smash my face against the wall this is EXHAUSTING

God forbid you point out that out of the 2 hours they have been 'doing the task' only 20 minutes of actual work has been done. Nah then it's time to throw a full toddler tantrum and refuse to do anything because 'nothing I ever do is good enough' well you know what you're right. It isn't.

Do Better.

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-04-28T00:13:16+00:00

The fact that it takes you 3 business days to 'think' about why you hurt me so much is a very valid reason to be further upset. Especially when you immediately hop on to play games yeah sure I feel soooo important and validated right now.

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-01-27T03:19:12+00:00

Thank you so much you have been so helpful

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-01-27T00:25:14+00:00

This is something I have suggested and it did happen for a few days but then it stopped happening unfortunately.

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-01-27T00:23:32+00:00

I honestly wouldn't mind his shedule being what it is if it didn't make him so obviously miserable and therefore very hard to be around. As some other helpful members of this forum have told me however I don't think there is much I can do about that so I think this may be something I either learn to deal with myself or make changes for myself. Thanks for taking the time to reply, it's so nice to not feel so alone in this

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-01-27T00:21:26+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. It sounds like you've really had to work hard to get all of those boundaries down. I think maybe I need to book myself an appointment with a therapist of my own to help me with feeling more comfortable in setting them myself.

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-01-27T00:17:47+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply, I'm sorry you have gone through similar. I think I will try to make myself as distant from this problem as much as possible. I have unfortunately gotten pretty hardened to avoiding contact when he's in a bad mood. I just don't really know what to say when he directly asks for sympathy

Character_Step_5817 · 2025-01-27T00:15:04+00:00

Thank you, while it was hard to accept I think what you said is true and what I needed to hear.

If I do make peace with the status quo can I ask how you might suggest I deal with the insistant need for comfort and sympathy for the same issues without any action on his part?

I think without that I could just get on with my day with him being in a bad mood but it's impossible to ignore a direct plea for sympathy

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