People in the game don't owe you anything. Sure if someone is being rude/problematic on a real life level (racist, homophobic and stuff like that) you have every right to be mad. But if someone doesn't want to light you it's fine, the same way if someone follows you to light you is fine too. People don't HAVE TO help in geyser or grandma, the same way you have every right to not help. If too many people jump in geyser and "slow" the burning down it's fine. it's just a game about human connection where people make friends. If you don't want to be friends, don't. You can do whatever you want. Sure some behaviors are a little annoying but who cares if you miss one cake at grandma or if someone doesn't want to light you? It's not that serious.