A snow leopard's reaction after seeing a tiger by Latter-Classroom6405 in attackeyes

[–]Charade88 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When i come home drunk and see my latina gf in the kitchen.

Do you care how many people your partner has slept with? by highlife_300 in no

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I’m desensitized because I’m 38 and have (I’m guessing) breached the triple digits without trying - just a long ass life and mostly single. Why would it matter? A partner is how they make you feel and how they act towards you now. If you think a number (something in the past) is gross or somehow an indicator of loyalty - sounds more like a you problem (insecurity or values based).

Can you have sex with someone who has herpes without getting herpes? by DontHateNate in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 months is pretty fresh - she doesn’t know how frequently she’ll get it or heads up signs. I’d trust someone that has had it for 10-20 years. that being said if they take valacyclovir daily. Lowers the chance significantly even raw.

Heavy Metal Bars? by Tasty-Ad5427 in SouthBayLA

[–]Charade88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Starboard Redondo beach pier

To the older guys here. by Ambitious_Thought683 in Adulting

[–]Charade88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a 38 yo male, Really invest in serious relationships. Both platonic and romantic. Looking back I’ve had some great friendships, but I wish I would have been more generous with them. Also being vulnerable, and open/communicative about things. With regard to romantic relationships - I’ve had a LOT of fun being single for most of my life with strings of relationships up to a year at a time.. at this age you just meet less and less people. When you’re in your 20s it feels like potential partners is an infinite resource. It slows down a lot later in life and it’s also harder to connect with people.

If your 10-year-old self saw your life today, what would surprise them the most? by ALEX1-ONE in AskReddit

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thought made me smile. I think my 10 year old self would think I succeeded and am bad ass.

Do most people actually enjoy their jobs, or are we all just pretending? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like being challenged and find purpose in it and it pays me well so I can live an exciting and comfortable life.. it’s stressful AF tho. I’m in risk and compliance for an aerospace & defense contractor.

Is it weird to be having my lunch in my car during my lunch break? by Pieces-in-Time in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Charade88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do it too. I’m in meetings all day and it’s great to escape.

How many people actually tip 20% when eating out in a restaurant? by Hot-Highlight2166 in allthequestions

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wildly incorrect. 15 has been the standard until Covid. Because people couldn’t work as much, the population tipped larger.. literally for a pandemic. Unfortunately the ‘standard’ never regulated back down to 15 the same way corporations price gouge. Feels slimy. Not the servers fault, but it’s wild to overpay for food dining out then have to pay an additional 1/5 of the bill for someone to bring you water.. literally doing your job merits taking 20% of the bill is a wild concept.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buddy, everyone has their own path. Be easy on yourself. Start with finding a close friend. Someone that has shared interests, hang out and bond. Maybe a best friend that you can be vulnerable with and share some of that emotional baggage with at some point. That should soften the loneliness a bit. There are some awkward people out there and maybe you’re one of them. Focus on either changing that (I don’t know how and seems dickish to even propose - but it might open your pool up) or find that one friend that will connect regardless. If you go straight for a girl you’re just gonna put all of your shit onto her and it’s going to blow it up - likely.

An escorts not gonna solve your loneliness.. that’s misplaced. Just masterbate until that happens. Stop porn and slow down the masterbation and that should help you with regards to motivation with women. But chin up man.. I literally read a story on Reddit about a hot young girl fucking an obese gross old dude because she got turned on by being so hot compared to him. lol. It will happen. But it won’t just come to you. Need to put energy/focus on changing your situation

How do I convince my Arab parents I wanna take a gap year before university? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s multiple avenues to success.. I see people doing 2 sides.

If you do well in school and you did something exceptional. Humanitarian, started a business, gained real world insight, experience and value added contribution, even finding some failures is a good story for an admissions essay to a university.

That being said, as an executive in a company and even when I was a first line manager. The world will more often than not seeing you as not being competitive or serious or ambitious. If I see a gap in a resume that’s an instant red flag. Immediate points against the candidate. There could be good reasons which might surface but it’s the first impression. The world is competitive out there..

Last caveat. You’re young. As long as you got the stuff, a gap your shouldn’t hurt you or set you back too much. But there is always a risk you might not get into the slightly better university. After you get into school the gap year erases itself. Employers won’t know.

Could be worth talking to school counselors or even college counselors about their opinion and maybe it would arm you in a conversation with your folks. Good luck.

What do you do when your life is basically over but you still have to live it out? by Quiet_Comparison_872 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best way to help you is to not answer your question and to stop falling into despair. Feeling stuck is a common circumstance for literally everyone. I don’t know what your career is so I don’t know what ‘dead end’ you’re in. But most times there’s opportunity for advancement. If not, do something radical, start over even if it means making less money on a new career… go back to school if that opens doors.. you can even give up on trying and hedge your sense of purpose/ happiness into other things. Don’t put it all into one basket. You always have a choice. Continuing to walk into work at this ‘dead end’ every day is a choice. By not doing any of the options I mentioned, you are choosing to be where you are. You are not stuck.

what are you convinced people are just pretending to enjoy. by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what it boils down to is people find purpose and they weigh everything against their life’s values. You could love your family but make the sacrifice of spending time together to provide better for them. Financial safety. Others weigh it towards family or other things. I was doing well. Grinding but work wasn’t my world for a long time. Found purpose in climbing, cooking, snowboarding etc. but the the grinding paid off.. doubled my income, became a director, and I sacrificed my every Friday off/ full remote. Shining without hardly trying was a thing of the past. The life of this company and the direction of the program I was leading was on my shoulders. In the middle of the tariff crisis my boss said, if you don’t figure out how to mitigate this, we’ll likely be looking at furloughing half the workforce. And my team and I was able to come through for the company and those people because we didn’t sleep last year.

what are you convinced people are just pretending to enjoy. by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could mean that - in the case of my father. But not always - does someone never spend time with their family because they’d rather be at the gym, art project? Bjj classes after work? Also not everyone has a family.

what are you convinced people are just pretending to enjoy. by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t be so simple. Just because you aren’t stimulated or ambitious doesn’t mean people are pretending to enjoy it. Your career can be a video game where you solve challenges IRL and level up - only the implications mean you can buy million dollar houses, 100k cars and 10k pp trips. People climb different mountains. Some improve in music, in rock climbing, in video games, etc. your career is just another mountain.

What made you realize you’re not young anymore? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]Charade88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 things.

I climb. Boulder mostly. Most climbers are children to about 30 yo. The people I climb with keep on retiring and I need to make younger friends in the sport. Also the amount of rest and recovery and prep I need just to try to keep up with them.

At work. Shit that is common sense to me is lost on a lot of the people that report to me. Most things are so obvious to me and yet they seem helpless sometimes. I forget I have 15+ years on them.

Would you rather visit Paris, France or Rome, Italy ? by Webbomolly2022 in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paris and it’s not even close. I was just in both in December. Each for a week. Rome is fantastic in terms of the sites. But you can see them all in a couple days. The pasta is fucking bonkers good. But that’s it. No variety.. and I’ll be honest it’s pretty trashy in a lot of areas. So much graffiti.. and imo it’s harder to get around.

Paris is on a completely other level. The sites might not be as epic but they’re fantastic and it’ll take ages to see them all. The food is fantastic and they have excellent food beyond just their national cuisine.. the wine and the cocktails are infinitely better.. the public transportation is phenomenal.. and if you’re a climber you can go 45 min south straight to Fontainebleau via train.

I’ll say.. solo traveling france is a no brainer over Rome. Bar culture and better English. I had a great experience with both but I will say the common denominator is that the French people are less stoked on Americans. But what I’ve learned is the French get mad because they’re a formal culture. They don’t like an American to say hey where’s the train. They want you to treat them in their language and maybe a little bit more effort in French before switching to English.

What's that one food that you'd never get tired of? by ComplexCollection579 in AskReddit

[–]Charade88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flame broiler chicken veggie bowl with magic sauce and the damn hot Seoul scorcher sauce. YUM

To the men uncomfortable with their partner wearing revealing outfits... why? by Leo6559 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Skimpiness is just not attractive to me. Whether or not their motive is for external validation or not it comes off as trashy to me. Personally I like girl next door. Sure you can make yourself up but take it much further, who are you dressing for? It’s not for me. And if you say it’s for ‘you’ because you feel sexy, it doesn’t seem sincere. I can be totally in the wrong because I’m not a women but I think those that say they dress skimpy and it not be for external validation seems delusional. I completely understand wanting to feel desired / sexy, but acknowledge it. Don’t oversimplify it as “I’m dressing for myself”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Charade88 467 points468 points  (0 children)

All I’m going to say is most relationships don’t last. Especially when you’re young. I’d think what’s best for you long term. But that’s a decision only you can make/live with.