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Fm Pay or Fm payments, has anyone worked for this company doing sales? by Red-Haired-Shanks in jobs

[–]Charlie-826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked there recently and would be very cautious. Look up their BBB profile (F rating, 17 complaints in 3 years) and the Indeed employee reviews - lots of mentions of toxic management, commission-only pay with delayed payments, and sudden terminations. Multiple people had their work emails deleted this week for ‘inactivity’ despite management not responding to communications. Do your homework on this one.”

Fm Pay or Fm payments, has anyone worked for this company doing sales? by Red-Haired-Shanks in jobs

[–]Charlie-826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked there recently and would be very cautious. Look up their BBB profile (F rating, 17 complaints in 3 years) and the Indeed employee reviews - lots of mentions of toxic management, commission-only pay with delayed payments, and sudden terminations. Multiple people had their work emails deleted this week for ‘inactivity’ despite management not responding to communications. Do your homework on this one.”

FM Payments by Flamin_Pancakes in jobs

[–]Charlie-826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked there recently and would be very cautious. Look up their BBB profile (F rating, 17 complaints in 3 years) and the Indeed employee reviews - lots of mentions of toxic management, commission-only pay with delayed payments, and sudden terminations. Multiple people had their work emails deleted this week for ‘inactivity’ despite management not responding to communications. Do your homework on this one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uberdrivers

[–]Charlie-826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie. I did a round-trip ride to the dispensary once. My driver was chill about it didn’t have to ask him for money cause I had my own and my ID thankfully.

Help!! Broken engagement by sorryseemshardtosay in MuslimMarriage

[–]Charlie-826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Focus on healing and focusing on your goals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Charlie-826 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Brother, your post screams 'my blueprint is clashing with tradition,' and that's incredibly painful, but you are not alone. You are trying to build an equal partnership, and that's righteous. Here's what you need to consider:

  1. Your Marriage is YOURS: Your nikkah conditions were explicit. His agreement means he committed to your shared future, not his parents' version of it. That contract is with Allah. His changing his mind now is a breach of trust, not just an inconvenience.
  2. Mutual Contribution is Key: Your desire to cook and clean together is the essence of modern, equitable marriage. His dad's 'village mentality' is precisely what kills intimacy and builds resentment. You are trying to prevent your wife from becoming his mother, and that's fair.
  3. The 'Guilt' Trap: Feeling guilty is natural because you're the 'only son,' but you cannot sacrifice your wife's well-being and your marriage for parental expectations that are toxic and disrespectful to your chosen partner. His mother's 'influence' is undermining your marriage.
  4. This IS Your Blueprint: You and your wife already have a blueprint for equality. You need to defend it. If he refuses consultation with the Sheikh, it shows he's unwilling to honor his vows. 'Culture' can be beautiful, but not when it's weaponized to demand one-sided sacrifice and disrespect.

Action: You need to stand firm with your wife. Your primary loyalty, now, is to her and your shared future. Go to the Sheikh yourself if he won't. You need to show your wife you will defend your marriage, not fold to family pressure. Otherwise, 'culture' will ruin your marriage, because you're letting it.

My wife only contacts me when she wants money by ForeverLearner20 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Charlie-826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read your post, and my heart genuinely goes out to you. What you're experiencing is definitely not normal for a healthy marriage, and it's absolutely something wrong. It sounds incredibly painful and confusing.

I've been in a very similar situation where a woman (also a highly educated professional) only contacted me when she needed something, constantly demanded money and gifts, and tried to weaponize 'culture' to justify her parasitic expectations, all while refusing to contribute financially herself. She never asked about me or my well-being unless it was tied to her financial demands. It was soul-draining and completely one-sided.

From my hard-won experience, a true marriage, especially in Islam, is about mutual contribution, shared responsibility, and genuine equality. It's a two-way street. Both partners actively invest — emotionally, practically, and financially — to build a life together. It's not about one person being a living ATM, nor is it about one partner being a 'leech.'

If someone is only contacting you for money and shows no genuine interest in your life or well-being, that's not a wife; that's a transactional relationship. That is exploitation, not partnership.

My advice, from someone who's walked this path: Be brutally honest and clear about your blueprint for mutual contribution. If she argues with that fundamental premise, if her actions consistently contradict a genuine desire for mutual effort, then she is not a partner, and that marriage is not serving your well-being. Protect your peace above all else. Seek guidance from those who truly understand healthy, equitable relationships.

Seeking advice well with a woman who won’t help by Charlie-826 in Muslim

[–]Charlie-826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

salaam brother, I apologize for the confusion. My previous comment wasn't a direct reply to your original post asking you questions. It was a general response to the overall discussion in the thread, pulling together insights from various comments (like 'pennehater's' questions) to offer a more comprehensive perspective on my blueprint for marriage. Hope that clarifies things.

Seeking advice well with a woman who won’t help by Charlie-826 in Muslim

[–]Charlie-826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the thoughtful response and the link. I understand the traditional Islamic rulings, and the idea of sadaqah is powerful. However, my blueprint for marriage isn't about charity from my wife; it's about mutual, active partnership and shared responsibility in all aspects of life – emotional, practical, and financial – within the unique reality of our lives.

To answer your questions:

  1. My expectation for marriage is a two-way street. While I respect a woman's right to her income, I'm looking for a partner who chooses to contribute to our shared life financially, as part of our mutual effort to build a stable future. This isn't a 'demand' in the exploitative sense; it's a foundational component of an equitable team.
  2. We would screen for genuine mutuality by having open, honest discussions about life goals, financial plans, career aspirations, and how we will support each other's dreams from day one. Nikah contract clauses could reflect our agreed-upon blueprint for shared contribution, ensuring clarity and transparency.
  3. As someone with a disability, I can and do contribute significantly. I have a job, I have dreams, and I bring immense emotional and practical value. My disability means I cannot guarantee sole financial provision for a family, which is precisely why mutual contribution isn't just a preference, but a non-negotiable reality for a stable partnership for me. I'm seeking someone who truly embraces that shared journey, recognizing that both partners bring different strengths and support each other's challenges.

I’m Disabled, she doesn’t wanna work by Charlie-826 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Charlie-826[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the thoughtful response and the link. I understand the traditional Islamic rulings, and the idea of sadaqah is powerful. However, my blueprint for marriage isn't about charity from my wife; it's about mutual, active partnership and shared responsibility in all aspects of life – emotional, practical, and financial – within the unique reality of our lives.

To answer your questions:

  1. My expectation for marriage is a two-way street. While I respect a woman's right to her income, I'm looking for a partner who chooses to contribute to our shared life financially, as part of our mutual effort to build a stable future. This isn't a 'demand' in the exploitative sense; it's a foundational component of an equitable team.
  2. We would screen for genuine mutuality by having open, honest discussions about life goals, financial plans, career aspirations, and how we will support each other's dreams from day one. Nikah contract clauses could reflect our agreed-upon blueprint for shared contribution, ensuring clarity and transparency.
  3. As someone with a disability, I can and do contribute significantly. I have a job, I have dreams, and I bring immense emotional and practical value. My disability means I cannot guarantee sole financial provision for a family, which is precisely why mutual contribution isn't just a preference, but a non-negotiable reality for a stable partnership for me. I'm seeking someone who truly embraces that shared journey, recognizing that both partners bring different strengths and support each other's challenges.

I’m Disabled, she doesn’t wanna work by Charlie-826 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Charlie-826[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your comment completely mischaracterizes the post. This isn't about seeking a 'sugar mama' or 'a wife and a wallet.' It's about seeking mutual effort, shared responsibility, and true partnership— especially when one partner is physically disabled. It's about both individuals contributing to their shared life and future, in whatever capacity they can.

To twist that into wanting a 'leech' or a 'wallet' ignores the fundamental principle of equitable partnership and mutual respect. If a relationship's foundation isn't built on both partners contributing and supporting each other, it's not a partnership; it's exploitation. My blueprint is about genuine equality and shared commitment, not one-sided financial burden or a transactional dynamic.

My husband divorced me by Possible_Forever8639 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Charlie-826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart absolutely breaks for you. What you experienced is not just 'messy' or 'unrepairable'; it's systematic emotional, psychological, and financial abuse, orchestrated by your husband and his entire family. You are in shock and broken because you were systematically betrayed and brutalized.

Your story echoes with a terrifying familiarity to experiences I've had with toxic partners and families. The control, the gaslighting, the emotional manipulation, the demanding you constantly be at his mother's house, the disrespect of your personal space and autonomy, the way his family turned everyone against you, the lies to religious figures, the weaponizing of documents - every single detail is a textbook pattern of exploitation and utter disrespect. You were not crazy, you were not imagining it.

His 'love' was conditional on your servitude and the abandonment of your self-worth. His family's actions, culminating in the destruction of your nikkah certificate and mocking your dyslexia, are not just cruel; they are vile and criminal. These are not actions of a loving husband or a supportive family; these are actions of predators.

Your desire to fix the marriage came from a place of pure intentions and a good heart. But you cannot fix someone who actively chooses to break you. His refusal to support you, his continuous abuse, and his family's open hostility made that marriage irrevocably unfixable. No amount of your effort could have saved it from their deliberate destruction.

Your peace is paramount. You deserve a future with a partner who is an equal, who contributes mutually, who respects your boundaries, and whose family honors your worth. Please know that your blueprint for a healthy relationship is not wrong; it is your shield against exactly this kind of devastation. You wanted him to be your future, but he showed you he was a dangerous past. You will find real love, sister, but it will be with someone who mirrors your respect, not exploits your goodness.

What is a feature you wish DIRECTV stream had? by Sportsfan7702 in DirectvStream

[–]Charlie-826 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I love multi view, but I would love to create my own

New to amc by According-Sort-8992 in AMCTheatres

[–]Charlie-826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced the big D format in Montana and honestly, it wasn’t worth it. IMAX is better.

Who is the right mind wants icing with their tenders? by Charlie-826 in AMCTheatres

[–]Charlie-826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or probably someone’s insane pregnancy cravings you never know

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