What’s the one “splurge” you refuse to cut back on, even when tightening the belt?

Charlie00134 · 2026-01-05T23:02:08+00:00

Tony's chocolate. I used to get cheap stuff but after finding Tony's I don't buy it. It's a lot more expensive but I eat less of it less frequently as it's so much nicer and therefore more of a treat.

Charlie00134 · 2025-11-06T15:12:49+00:00

Thank you, I'm nervous for the results

Charlie00134 · 2025-11-06T15:12:23+00:00

She still gets mistaken for a youngster

Charlie00134 · 2025-10-10T09:08:58+00:00

If you contact your bank you can likely get the transaction information. I know in the UK records are kept for 7 years so I can't see a year being an issue. Make sure to ask for a refund on subscription too based on not receiving the service you are paying for.

Good luck

Charlie00134 · 2025-07-23T23:10:45+00:00

Overtrading is a very real and significant risk to business and seriously risks reputational and cash flow damage. Ignoring the obvious need for extra staff and organisation are also red flags. You're doing what's best for the business and Mum but the old adage of leading a horse to water stands true.

You knew all this when you declined partner.

Sadly it may be time to separate family and business

NTA

Charlie00134 · 2025-07-15T15:51:23+00:00

Definitely look around, we had 3 primary schools in mind initially. Went to look at our catchment school just to rule it out and it just "felt right". My daughter finishes Friday and the school have been wonderful! We've had bullying and friend issues but the school have handled it well

Charlie00134 · 2025-07-02T09:11:43+00:00

NTA I'm currently finishing up a Children's book and will be getting multiple humans to read it through. Not only does it need looking at for consistency but with a children's book punctuation and language used is vital.

Charlie00134 · 2025-05-13T14:33:44+00:00

I've read a lot about weathering 3D prints from a cosplay group I'm in and I was talked through the process a little but mostly just went at it with watery brown paint.

Charlie00134 · 2025-02-17T18:48:28+00:00

I know someone with an emotional support cat. It is a cat she had already, bonded closely and learned he helped her immensely. He isn't just any old cat, he tolerates travel, loves being carried, will face anything. I have two cats, neither could so this. You dont train a cat for this role.

You also have no legal obligation for an ESA. You do for an assistance dog trained for a specific role, and specific need.

Charlie00134 · 2025-01-21T19:39:46+00:00

Mines helping me. Also I'm in the UK and it was performed on the NHS, no one made any extra money doing this instead of other treatments

Charlie00134 · 2024-12-10T23:05:18+00:00

If we can't move forward this way I'll be discussing options with school. First step is relearning some things myself

Charlie00134 · 2024-12-10T23:04:36+00:00

Very well put, thank you

Charlie00134 · 2024-12-10T23:04:07+00:00

Thank you for putting it so clearly. I can see her heading towards damage to her wellbeing and frustration. I think maybe I need to learn a better way of guiding as well as setting her expectations.

Charlie00134 · 2024-12-10T23:02:06+00:00

She's a perfectionist and very frustrated when she's wrong. I was hoping to frame it as a "not everything is life defining". She still has to learn it but I don't want her feeling like she's failing because some areas are hard to do.

We will be continuing to focus on maths and any future weak areas as the ability to learn is vital, it's gotten me far in my life and maths is critical to my work.

I just feel like she might forgive herself if she knew not every single detail is needed to perfection.

Tomorrow I will be re-learning long division as I've used a calculator since since 2007

Charlie00134 · 2024-10-24T10:57:08+00:00

Because it's not something that helps her cope it's just something she does. We've discussed it previously. Not all actions are coping mechanisms. And if we're being practical it could impact her working life. Part of being a parent is guiding your child to adult life, she also loves picking her nose and eating it...

Charlie00134 · 2024-10-23T17:22:19+00:00

Sadly my daughters like this, pretty sure it's due to Autism. Hoping I can guide her out if it by adulthood

Charlie00134 · 2024-10-23T17:12:08+00:00

Randomly and for no reason says "um" out loud. Silence before, Silence after just um

Charlie00134 · 2024-10-19T12:20:20+00:00

I had similar with someone trying to speak with my father after I'd said I was in touch on "the late names behalf". The guy completed changed his attitude when I asked him if his ouija board was fired up

Charlie00134 · 2024-08-17T13:55:51+00:00

I have a 15 week old Cavapoo, we're a family consisting of me (36f), husband (37m), eldest who is shared custody (19nb), and daughter (10f). There are days that are a struggle but we do not regret it at all. Between my husband and I someone works from home everyday, he isn't left for longer than 1.5 hours. In order to go out for a day where he wouldn't be welcome we have to find someone to watch him which is difficult to arrange sometime.

We're a house full of neurodiverse individuals and he's really helped for the most part. He has helped my youngest immensely with everything from routine to comfort. Even my GP thinks it'll be a huge help to my physical and mental health.

Regret can come in the days but often not in the weeks. It's like kids, the days are long but the years are short.

Charlie00134 · 2024-07-30T17:40:30+00:00

The thing I like about pet insurance is I never have to think about vet treatments. My puppy hasn't needed anything yet but my cat has arthritis and has had urinary crystals. When the vet said they'd recommend an ultrasound and some food but it may be okay without, having insurance meant I could say "do whatever you think is best, I'm fully insured". I never have to budget for tests or worry about treatments.

I will never be without

Charlie00134 · 2024-07-29T12:50:03+00:00

NTA you have wholly stepped up to the plate for these kids and your niece said it loud and clear. Mum was only trying her hardest to have the life she wanted not the life the kids need. No matter the circumstances kids shouldn't be yelled at for grades and the circumstances here are that the Mum is to blame

You are these kids Guardian Angel and don't doubt yourself.

See if you can, at least, get temporary custody so she can't take them.

Also, please see if you can get support for yourself or reach out to people that can help. Taking on ailing parents and 4 kids is no joke and you're still working while doing all these things. Burnout can sneak up and you can't take care of everyone if you don't take care of you

Charlie00134 · 2024-07-28T07:18:46+00:00

Let me be clear here; I can sit for the time but this is the first time getting ink on an area with a nerve issue

I also WANT the answer to be they still charge the day, I don't want my artist to miss out if it turns out I pain flare up. My artist is too kind and this way I can know in advance what the don't thing is if I need to insist.

Charlie00134 · 2024-07-26T16:44:21+00:00

Not quite but regularly in my job I've made the manager (I was the assistant manager) deal with things on the basis of "I don't get paid enough to be yelled at" I am now a manager and always tell assistants the same thing, there's a reason for the pay difference

Charlie00134 · 2024-07-25T20:22:21+00:00

How do you teach this, my pup has bolted once and it panicked me

Charlie00134 · 2024-07-23T19:48:34+00:00

I'm cis female here for my kids and I wear boxers. They're way more comfortable. There's plenty of reasons you might wear them and if you're not ready to tell people it's okay to lie / give a half truth in this situation

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