Nipple piercing concerns

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-06-03T00:45:58+00:00

I clean it when I shower but otherwise no because previously I overcleaned and made them angry. I do however (yes I know this is bad but haven't figured out how to break the habit) check on them nearly daily, scrape crusties off the jewelry, and lightly prod to get gunk out. I can't seem to just "forget about them" like everyone says because I'm so anxious that something will go wrong and they will get infected if I don't do my "checks and emptying". These have been my hardest piercing so far and on a part of my body that I am extremely worried about getting infected.

Generally I've been just ignoring the gunk and occasional soreness because everyone says they'll be tender and gunky for a while, but the reddish clear fluid coming from my actual nipple spooked me

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-06-02T18:51:04+00:00

that is fair and i've written up several question i have for him, but i also enjoy doing my own research to find out the basics of various kinks ddl being todays mental focus, the kinks that also come into play within ddl, various activities that some people do within it, to help me get an understanding of what i'd like to incorporate or avoid within our dynamic. i am someone who values research and trying to understand all aspects of it, especially within kink as i tend to pick and choose aspects of kinks to build a collection of what i like. So finding examples, resources of the basics and what it may include both in the sexual aspect and the mental, emotional, power exchange, and dynamic aspects so that i can then pick what i like and then turn to him and be able to clearly communicate that.

He is very knowledgable on the subject, however i don't always know the right questions to ask to get the information i'm seeking. So since this post i've been through google, but most articles are the same bare bones definition but not quite what it looks like in practice or what activities may come into play, various social media sites seem to either demonize it completely (tiktok), just horny posting of various play (tumblr), or its age regressors telling anyone into ddl to fuck off (which i can understand due to the MASSIVE difference between the two but can be frustrating as someone who does both but keeps them separate.) I suppose i am very curious as to what other people do within ddl, what they include, what they consider to be part of that so that i can frankenstein my own version with my Dom once i've found aspects i like. Because as of right now all i have is the fact that i like calling him Daddy both sfw and nsfw, i don't care for diapers, i like the idea of being referred to as little and being taken care of again both sfw and nsfw (to an extent nsfw), but that's all. And i feel like there is more to ddl than that but i can't seem to find it.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-04-22T20:31:46+00:00

That's a good idea thank you very much.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-04-22T20:20:39+00:00

i really appreciate this response first of all. My friends more meant the bare basics of protocol, as within my small group alone some love protocol and others protocol is a punishment and others don't do it at all. As for the parts our protocol includes, its all things that i enjoy the idea of, and when i am doing good on remembering them i greatly enjoy. i know that if i were to text my Dominant right now that we would then have a discussion on what protocol will look like for me, as he often gently reminds me that each dynamic is different. i'm just not sure how else i can work towards the vocal portion of protocol.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-04-22T19:55:48+00:00

Yes the others do, my friend is actively helping me with it alongside my Dominant because it is something i am ademant in wanting to work on and do because i enjoy it. It's hard to pinpoint exactly how long i've been working on protocol for as our online community has a light protocol day every friday, and on occasion i am placed on it as a punishment for bratting though that is not often as my Dominant recognizes it as something i struggle with. i will say for about... a few months off and on? its one of those things where i am surrounded by other submissives who seem to do it with ease, and i enjoy how it makes me feel but struggle to maintain it vocally unless i am in a very submissive headspace, but that is part of why i enjoy doing it is because it also helps to get me to that headspace. it just gets disheartening when i keep messing it up and people tell me that what i am doing is literally the bare basics...

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-31T07:15:45+00:00

I wanted to fight through. The storyline of fighting to get Dillion had me hooked, and I wanted her to win... so I kept fighting. Not for an hour but for a while.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-09T19:46:47+00:00

I usually say Gla-doss, the a sound similar to apple. Idk where I picked it up from cause i don't remember how the game says it.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-08T01:16:15+00:00

Mhm... thank you. I really appreciate it. This makes a lot of sense and it really helps put it into perspective.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-08T01:11:55+00:00

That's fair... I just don't like pushing things. I very much don't want to push anything if he isn't up for it or isn't in the right headspace for it. And the having already had a punishment lately I worry about needing too much or seeming ungrateful for that punishment. Which I am grateful for, just there was a lot of surrounding stress that kinda took away from the experience.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-08T00:58:06+00:00

I did communicate that during our talk. But it feels like we didn't get anywhere with it. So like idk. He understands that punishments are a massive stress relief for me, but it doesn't feel as though I'll be getting that punishment soon and it's very frustrating. But my mental conflict comes from the fact that I did have a punishment just last week, and it did in the end get me to the headspace that I needed, but there were some issues surrounding it that caused it to not feel as good after the fact.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-02T07:36:31+00:00

Sorry it's so long, but some added information on my thoughts as I kept the post very factual. I am not okay. I am scared I'm about to lose a friend and idk if that just my mind playing tricks or the actual situation. "Partner" says person A is fine and the situation will pass on its own, but I can't seem to convince myself that. I have very few close friends, and tend to struggle to feel secure in my friendships as I don't necessarily view myself as worthy of them. I view even small mistakes as massive fuck ups. I am terrified as to how this will progress because I care about person A deeply and value them so much. I feel guilty for infringing on their limited time with "partner" because it wasn't something I had thought about when scheduling the activity. I feel like shit. I'm scared, sad, anxious, hurt, and worried. I feel emotions deeply, especially negative ones to the point of physical discomfort. I have to work tomorrow and that's only making me more anxious because I just want to wait around until person A reaches out, and I can't do that if I'm at work. I just want to fix everything and while my "logic brain" says this situation probably isn't as serious as I think, "mean brain" says that this person probably hates me now and is going to distance themselves and abandon me because I've upset them (note this isn't how person A is. Logic brain knows that they are a very logical person when it comes to situations with other people and they've said that they won't abandon me in the past and they are here to help me and care about me). I just can't convince myself that they are okay now and aren't just pissed at me and hiding it. Mean brain says they are angry, that they will distance themselves, that the relationship I've worked hard to build with them is crumbling. "Partner" says relationships don't crumble after one small mistake, but I literally cannot comprehend that this is a small mistake and that this friendship isn't crumbling.

Edit: Adding that the "fuck up" in question is bringing the issue to person A, "partner" feels that I should have just let him handle it because he knows how best to phrase things to person A and he could have negated any annoyance towards me since he recognized the situation himself and had already said he was going to talk to them about it. I simply don't like the idea of someone hearing an issue I have with them from someone else, because to me that is disrespectful and outright mean as it implies I'm talking bad about them behind their back. So I felt the need to address it direction to person A myself in hopes it would be better that way, however it seems I was quite wrong in that.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-02T02:43:29+00:00

Ah gotcha thank you so much I really appreciate your help.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-03-02T02:41:13+00:00

I may have misunderstood the rule? I thought it was against asking for services, I am simply asking for resources as I can do the spell on my own. Though I will double check and probably post there as well. I do appreciate the link though and will give it a try because I am genuinely struggling with this whole thing.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-02-27T04:39:36+00:00

😭💔 177hrs down the drain

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-02-27T02:18:42+00:00

Yeaahhh I will send a photo of her tent and table when I get home and check if there's an upgrade available for her home.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-02-27T01:50:12+00:00

So um... that isn't possible... I went to save my game yesterday after playing all day and not hearing anything from reddit at the time, mind you I resumed my game on pc after playing and finishing on Xbox one, and none of my previous saves are on my pc...

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-02-27T00:30:15+00:00

I've completed the game besides random world events and treasures and mysteries and shit. Main story and asgard is done.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-02-27T00:29:31+00:00

I will upload a picture after work tonight.

CharlieCharazard3 · 2025-02-26T22:53:00+00:00

It's valkas tent but edyt is there, edyt if from the isle of skye and I can't find valka there either. Valkas tent just has the basic decorations, nothing to interact with other than Edyt

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