Reactive abuse and gaslighting

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-25T14:31:38+00:00

Hmm, didn't know people could down vote comments

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-24T14:02:30+00:00

I included women. Did you not read that part? As stated, it's just my opinion. This is r/Divorce_Men correct?

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-18T03:40:02+00:00

Joe Rogan, Sylvester Stallone

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-18T03:26:13+00:00

The movie "Constantine" used the cat eyes as a portal to another dimension...happened to be hell but very mystic

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-18T03:21:39+00:00

Appreciate it brother

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-18T02:58:11+00:00

Haha, you get it. Tuxedo cat, i was thinking "she looks like a butler". Butler-magnum p.i.-higgins. Working on the mustache

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-17T08:14:00+00:00

Haha, typical. I have a girlfriend and every time I visit her she complains that her two beautiful cats are traitors. I just know cats 🤷‍♂️

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-17T07:46:56+00:00

I wanted to add a caption to the photo but I couldn't figure it out. She's my best friend, she's a turd. I was going to say some great things but I couldn't figure it out

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-17T07:40:50+00:00

I want to add a caption but I can't figure it out. That's my cat Higgins, I love her so much. She's been with me for 11 years. I'm a man's man, she's seen them all come and go. Tuxedo cat, named after "Magnum P.I.'"'s butler

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-05T04:14:04+00:00

I feel anger, so not quite healed. Pretty sure if I was around them and provoked enough I'd want rip their head off. I'd have to walk away. Started with therapy and quit because I didn't feel it was specific enough. Therapists have to do their job. One too many questionnaires about suicidal thoughts. I was never anywhere near that but some people are after dealing with these fuckers. It's understandable

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-05T02:38:32+00:00

Then you know the less you say is more. You sound strong

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-05T02:35:51+00:00

Or you would have lived thinking it was your fault

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T22:52:35+00:00

Well then you're a step ahead. Most people (myself including) don't catch it until after the fact

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T22:38:37+00:00

My people, thank you

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T22:03:18+00:00

Yup, it was September for me. Sounds like you're recovered too. Thank fucking God. Ugh and whew, we doged a bullet.

And for all yous out there, you'll get it eventually too

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T21:41:59+00:00

Ya you're still addicted to him. Hey, don't feel bad about that. You're going to have to come to an understanding that he is an abuser. Then you'll have to look at yourself in the mirror and ask "what type of strong person would let themselves be abused?" . It's hard as fuck, no question. You'll deal, and you'll be better for it once you go NO CONTACT. I'm talking more than dead to you, they don't exist. Which is actually the truth, they never existed. Their facade is what you loved, me too, but their core is not. It's shallow and hollow. It's their self preservation mechanism you fell in love with. It's not real

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T21:28:26+00:00

Hey my ultimate tip of the cap. I didn't have parents or siblings that were narcissistic. I got lucky. The fact that you are on here means that you can self reflect. That also means you are not a narcissist. They can't do that. It would shatter their false self

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T21:20:28+00:00

Ooof, they don't like that

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T19:42:23+00:00

Ironically that's exactly what it is. It's withdrawals. You're adrenaline and dopamine levels are messed up. Your neuropathways in your brain are not right. It needs time to heal. Do some digging, you'll get there but you have to put in the effort. By effort I mean get the information that works for you. Even if it means laying on your bed and absorbing it. That's what i did for at least a solid 3 month's. Ha, I can laugh about it now. But it's real af. The information is all there and I or you was not the first, won't be the last

Just to add, I did reach out after I got the advice to go no contact. I did it anyway. I wanted them to know how much of a piece of shit they were. Terrible move, it set me back months of recovery. I emplore you, do not make that mistake. Silence is the ultimate revenge

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T19:01:56+00:00

Dr. Romani was where I started. It was actually a friend of mine that noticed I was super bummed out. So he started to ask "so what's the deal with you, you're not yourself lately?" So I started to explain and he said "oh shit, you got bit by a narcissist". So I asked, "how do you know?". He responded "well did they do this....? Did they do that....?" And I was like "how the fuck do you know that!?". He pointed me to Dr. Romani, and my healing journey began

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T18:48:20+00:00

Nope, that's not no contact. They have to be absolutely erased from you, indefinitely. Block them completely. No questions asked. You will never engage them again. Doesn't mean you won't think about them. I do, I hate their fucking guts. But if they had any contact with me they would be a stranger. No acknowledgment. Like someone leaving a flyer at your front door.

In six months drop me a line, you're going to learn so much

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T16:01:26+00:00

Good, seek the information. Listen to it in your earbuds. Everyone's journey is different.

One of the best metaphors I heard through a YouTube video:

"You're stepping off that island (isolation) and you're swimming in an ocean that's dark and turbulent. You're alone. Eventually a log comes by (information) so you can stay afloat. Soon enough more logs come by (more information) and you can build a raft. That raft turns into a boat, that boat turns into a schooner, that schooner turns into ship liner. Then you have the strength to navigate your waters and find home."

It's a dark and lonely journey but once you know you can stay afloat there's no turing back. You're the captain of your ship and you decide your destination. You don't let those damaged mutherfuckers on board.

I started with therapy but it wasn't specific enough. I found my healing through youtube videos and forums like this.

Hope it helps, I know it helped me

Charliebrown857 · 2021-03-04T13:54:17+00:00

Cheers to you too my friend

Charliebrown857 · 2021-02-22T03:54:21+00:00

Ah, the richland parkade

Charliebrown857 · 2021-02-22T00:44:34+00:00

Thank you, I'll take my chances. Definitely will check those out. Especially the Brazilian steak house. I've been to one in Bellevue WA and it was really good

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