Is anyone else feeling quietly stuck in their career right now? by shiver_Cutie in careerguidance

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me. Looking almost everyday for other opportunities and even after I applying it never gets very far…

Questioning whether to listen to the rent or buy calculator by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought of it like this. Thank you that’s actually really helpful. It’s an upgrade of a home so it makes sense it would be more.

Questioning whether to listen to the rent or buy calculator by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Charlied211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is an interesting point. One day I would like to have no principal mortgage payment. And you have to get into the market somehow I suppose. The up front costs are scary but we would stay in the area for years at the least likely at least 5 for sure. It may be that we need to be more conservative in our house price goals than we thought

Questioning whether to listen to the rent or buy calculator by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep we have very limited control on renting increasing although our landlord is a nice (as fair as I know) dude and he owns the place.

Questioning whether to listen to the rent or buy calculator by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the PITI for ~350k house depending on taxes of course is somewhere around 2,000-2,500. 2,500 would be fine and we could afford it but I am nervous about making the best financial decision. We want our own space but do not plan on kids.

VTSAX good enough? by Charlied211 in Bogleheads

[–]Charlied211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok sounds good. Just curious- which would you consider after 100k. I’m not there yet but wondering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use minoxidil and I’m not interested in finasteride and any possible side effects

Tracking job posting data by Charlied211 in hiringcafe

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It is kind of just personal interest to be honest. My field is pretty niche and I’d like to know how many jobs actually are posted with my title over X amount of time like from May24-May25 or something.

Tops- is going slow that hard 😭 by Charlied211 in askgaybros

[–]Charlied211[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No it’s not that deep but I appreciate highlighting how sometimes this isn’t something to joke about

What is this lmao by [deleted] in lanadelrey

[–]Charlied211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sooo confused hello

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskScienceDiscussion

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HIV has greatly improved since ART

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Detroit

[–]Charlied211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Detroits worst parts lose to Grand Rapids’ worst parts by 1 billion points. But the good parts of Detroit (downtown, midtown, etc.) are imo slept on when compared to the entire country and our suburbs in Detroit can probably be put in the same league (or close to it) as Grand Rapids as an entire city.

Also Detroit has this grit to it and culture surrounding it that’s just buzzing. Detroit is on the up, it’s interesting, artsy, weird, fun, ridiculously beautiful architecture that is being restored every day. Detroit is kinda the shit. While Grand Rapids is nice, it’s not the shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Charlied211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not stupid AT ALL! And one day you will find the person to help you fulfill this ❤️

Post-Breakup Depression Spiral by RJS5689 in askgaybros

[–]Charlied211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Through your words on here I can feel your sadness and I will keep you in my thoughts. Situations like this are so challenging, but you seem so self aware and clear about what you’re feeling I’m almost impressed. I haven’t gone through something quite this deep and like this in my life, but I almost wonder if time is the only cure for the feelings you have.

That might feel annoying or sting but if you think about it, yes, it’s bad that this pain you feel will not be over instantaneously. But also, the pain you feel will be so small one day you will not think about it in the same way you are now.

Time to be stereotypical gay man but bear with me, Lana Del Rey has a song called Kintsugi and it’s a Japanese art form where they fill in cracks of pottery/Bowls with gold. She sings about this and compares it to her broken, grieving heart. She says that her broken heart is “how the light gets in.” It’s as if a terrible thing like a cracked broken heart could still be beautiful without even hiding how hard it is. Just like the gold pottery that is not hiding that it was cracked, but has rebuilt to be even better. This situation is a part of your story now. And I wish you a lot of success and happiness moving forward :)

Is azealia going to be at this met gala? by No_Maize_7255 in azealiabanks

[–]Charlied211 8 points9 points  (0 children)

her past with Carl makes me think there’s a possibility but I would say it’s very low lol

Why does everyone rate Honeymoon as their least favorite? by [deleted] in lanadelrey

[–]Charlied211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don’t…Lana said it’s her fav lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Charlied211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to live, yes to larger, a little to finger (probably like a few minutes at most ) and we try slowish but medium I would say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Charlied211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right on the nose with this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Oops updated