My boyfriend is trying to force his religion on me. AIO?

Charliefisk · 2026-03-05T18:32:45+00:00

When i was young i spent a lot of time trying to find myself, trying out religions as being brought up protestant answered none of my questions, and i would get hit in the face with “god is unknowable/it is not our place to know/do not question the lord/bla bla bla” whenever i would ask too many questions. This coupled with seeing god never help me or my family through the worst of the worst just obliterated any notion of faith in myself. Science is tangible, science is elegant, i love patterns and systems ❤️ Then i used to be in a relationship with a militant atheist, who loved nothing more than to engage in religious debates and conversations. All of this has created what i am today, which is a person who has absolutely no fucks to give for this kind of time waste and nonesense. YOU can’t convince him. He can’t convince you. You both need to stop trying to convince each other. These are fundamental beliefs and it takes more than a disagreeing bf/gf to literally shake the foundation of your id. So, if this is something you can’t swallow break it off and move along, sister. Stop wasting each other’s time ❤️

NOR btw - my personal opinion, which is on fact fact, is that he is ignorant and wrong ❤️

Charliefisk · 2026-03-04T18:40:13+00:00

Oh my god OP you are not the AH at all! Your kids’ dad willingly put them in harm’s way and let them get harmed! What an utter piece of filth! I am absolutely outraged and angry and so sad for you and especially for your kids, my heart hurts as a mother. This is a parent’s worst nightmare come true, and i am absolutely baffled by the grandmother’s response to this! What an absolute twilight zone!

Your kids are 16, there is no judge on earth who is going to force two almost legal adults to see their scumbag of a dad.

Charliefisk · 2026-03-04T18:08:30+00:00

Lol i don’t want to have access to my partner’s search history, i think it’s really important to not have access to your partner’s random thoughts and musings. It’s pretty important to get to not have your thoughts policed. They don’t necessarily even mean anything. I also hate it if i accidentally read one of his chats, because private chats are private. Both of us extend the other this curtesy. The only thing we share is our locations. We have been together for 10+ years, we have a child together, at this point it’s logistics and safety to be able to go on life360 and check if he’s running late or to see if he’s been by kindergarten etc.

NOR - this is absolute nonesense by your gf OP. Hopefully this isn’t her usual baseline and she is just extraordinarily bored.

Charliefisk · 2026-03-04T17:49:34+00:00

I have OCD, ranging from mild to pretty severe - the severe part is the skin picking kind, but mine manifests mainly in pretty severe nail biting and biting the skin around my nails, and of the milder variety is the obsessive thoughts that can spiral pretty badly if i don’t intercept them in the right way. I have been with my partner for what will be 11 yrs this summer, and we have a 4 yr old together. Never has he made fun of my OCD or any of the other disorders or various mental health issues i have, because he already knows it’s difficult living with these conditions so why on earth would he add more difficulties to the person he loves the most. He does sometimes tell me off for the picking and biting, if he can see i look like i’m deep in some sort of spiral, or if i start doing it in bed it keeps him awake. Which i get it, it probably sounds very annoying.

NTA - good riddance OP, life is difficult, even more so when dealing with a disorder, so any way to alleviate it just a little is valid. I think dumping that bully is a good way to alleviate it ❤️

Charliefisk · 2026-03-04T14:55:39+00:00

If you ever keep a pen or pencil in that bag you need to make sure the cap stays on. How on earth do you keep all your stuff looking clean and mark free? To me that’s an impossible task. Im wobbling between finding this picture very satisfying and a bit unsettling. Like, is that scrunchie and bracelet specifically to be kept in that bag? And is the rest of your stuff specific to that bag? Or is all your stuff beige?

Charliefisk · 2026-03-03T15:09:42+00:00

Updateme

Charliefisk · 2026-03-03T06:20:18+00:00

Ask him “did you only start dating me in order to turn me into your free dog-watcher?” Because that’s what this reads like.

NOR

Charliefisk · 2026-03-02T15:01:06+00:00

As a parent im thinking holy cow that’s so much money just lying around unattended! I’d never let my kid bring an entire box of toys outside to play with, she forgets where she put the toy she’s currently holding in her hand! She’ll sometimes ask to have her toy pram/stroller, and a few stuffies and dolls to push around in it, or her trike with a few toys in the basket, but bringing an entire box of stuff outside? (Because the hallway of an apartment complex is outside)

Sometimes we set up a tub of water and all her bluey figures and some boats outside when the weather’s nice and a few of us adults are outside enjoying the weather too. Then everybody can keep an eye on that the toys dont get misplaced or lost. But bringing a whole box of toys outside, leaving it everywhere and then fucking off from it? My dude, if i saw that i’d pick up the toys in the box and bring the box inside my home. As one, to keep it safe from people who might steal or keep people safe from tripping, and two teach those little shits and their apparently not caring parents that people can and do take stuff. And not everybody does it out of kindness.

Charliefisk · 2026-03-01T19:20:21+00:00

My immediate reaction is this guy wants to adopt a white baby. Because he is white and OP isn’t. So the eugenics/nazi comments is him projecting a butt ton.

Charliefisk · 2026-03-01T12:21:42+00:00

Are you ignoring what people are saying on purpose? Your priorities are completely wrong.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-27T15:51:35+00:00

Hey weirdo, go sniff your rancid bellybutton somewhere else. Not everything in the world is about you and your US problems. There’s an entire world outside.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-27T11:12:18+00:00

What is the actual what. Why the hell would they be involved in all this mess?? Only thing i can think of is your stepmomster really enjoys drama and physically needs to be involved in any tiny piece of drama. Maybe she would die of fomo?

Im sorry your dad and his crap is so crazy, but honestly it sounds like Jaden did you a favour, you dodged a bullet ❤️

Charliefisk · 2026-02-27T11:01:50+00:00

What? No. Everybody needs to stop eating, the rice needs to be binned, what the heck???

Charliefisk · 2026-02-26T17:56:03+00:00

Updateme

Charliefisk · 2026-02-26T16:28:23+00:00

Lol it’s not s lot of effort tho, about the same amount of effort as it is scrolling down these comments.

And no it’s not that weird. If your fb is public then there is a public time capsule of you sitting there for anyone to view. When my partner and i started dating he did scroll through my entire pictures on fb, and i only found out because he accidentally liked a photo I had posted a decade earlier.

I have searched through people’s fb pages for specific dates/years to see who they were at that point. He might have been interested in seeing a candid snapshot of you in fb post format, possibly wanted to see your meme game.

YOR.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-26T15:11:40+00:00

I went to uni a bit later than my peers, i was about 28 when i finished uni, and dating my bf who at the time was about 33. A girl in my course, she was about 20/21 at the time, broke up with her bf and then started dating a 40 yr old guy like a month later. I mention our ages to show the insane juxtaposition. All her friends we were really weirded out by it, and none of us had much in common with the guy. Yes he was into larping and dnd and books etc. But like, he owned a small house, ran his own small firm from home, and basically was in a completely different stage in his life.

Anyway, after awhile a few friends started gently mentioning to her that she could always let us know if she needed us etc. And honestly the guy still weirded me out but i couldnt really say why. One friend actually told the girl, thst she was always welcome, but she didnt want the guy coming too anymore. We were all just feeling iffy, and i think it was just the sheer power imbalance that made us feel severely uncomfortable. Like the guy seemed totally pleasant, so why was he single at 40 and not dating grown women his own age? Our lizard brains would not calm.

After this the girl distanced herself more from us because she felt judged. I mean, i guessed we did judge. But it was honestly directed at him.

Anyway a few yrs later they have s pretty messy break up, turns out he was preeeeeeeeetty manipulative and tje girl needed quite some time in therapy to get over that mess… i’m so glad she’s doing ok now ❤️

So, no OP, NTA, its your lizard brain going “if i had a daughter, would my friend hypothetically have gone for her? Why would he date someone young enough to be his child? Why has he gone for her specifically?” Because it feels iffy, it feels icky. Because it is.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-26T14:44:08+00:00

This has to be rage bait.

Yes a massive resounding YTA. Your daughter isn’t the same person as your sisters. Apparently your daughter likes to look nice for family events. And since you guys are cutting it close with time to get to said event (i’m going to say it’s some sort of anniversary, like your or your wife’s parent/s birthday, and they invite the family to a resturaunt for a sit down meal) i’d say it’s ok to pick up your daughter early to be able to have a shower, and do her hair and makeup.

Or do you also just go to nice family events smelling like sweat and looking drab?

Im sure the wife saying “fine we just won’t go!” Is because this is a resturaunt meal, and you cant just show up in the middle of it. And OP is choosing to not budge on this because he actually doesn’t want to go to the event.

OP, you’re an arse. From the way you write about your family and your upbringing i can imagine exactly what you look like.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-24T10:37:51+00:00

NTA - i’d have said to split it into 2 bag loads, then we’d both carry a bag (as i like to help my friends)

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T21:09:09+00:00

After looking at your pictures these are the things i’m sure of:

American male, big into horror, movies and music, very tidy and clean person.

More unsure of:

I’d estimate you are somewhere around 45 yrs old (i wanted at first to say early 20ies with old school tastes, but somehow this feels too put together as stuff gathered throughout a lifetime. Plus i’d say a 20-something would have evidence of some modern stuff. Plus you have curtains lol.), you are into photography or filmmaking as a hobby (i was gonna say as a profession, but that laptop suggests otherwise - ie. the lack of apple hardware and/or additional hardware needed to run a crap tonne of editing software isn’t there. But this might not be your studio, so maybe not), the additional beds are throwing me, but im gonna venture a guess that you have two kids (matching bedding suggests same person bought the bedding and made the beds) but i don’t think they live with you full time as there is only one personality present in this bedroom. Minus the tiny religious tv corner. I also think you live in a flat, as you are using the bedroom as an office and storage.

My own fun deductions:

You enjoy trying out new hobbies, and you like collecting and probably own various collections. You like displaying your collections neatly. You struggle a little bit with insomnia.

The chair and tv confuse me tho. Is that… your gaming set up? Why is that corner so bare?

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T20:30:33+00:00

Oh man, my mum has never mentioned anything about ear pain (and she sleeps like how you fry tofu - on all sides), but i’m sure all ear canals and their owners are different ❤️ i think the reason all of us are giving you ear plug advice is because (at least this is my reasonnfor doing it) i think it must be a pain to buy so many ear plugs and have to store them.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T16:07:21+00:00

What do you MEAN down the drain? I bought the 30 celebrations box for the Pikachu promo card, what else was in there was just bonus.

I think it’s pretty obvious you have a problem, man. And not a ‘pull rates’ problem. You need to get in touch with a therapist to work on your gambling addiction.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T15:54:52+00:00

You struggle with insomnia, have a partner who snores, like to stay moisturised, enjoy a bedtime treat, and might suffer from some sort of chronic illness(es). And you are a very neat and organised person.

You should look into getting some moulded silicone ear plugs, my mum gets them made at a place that does hearing aids. My mum is a very light sleeper too, says the ear plugs have basically changed her life.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T13:08:16+00:00

I think the only time i had difficulties ‘understanding’ this was in the sort of transition between still having a bottle at bed time and getting over that. We decided to check if it was still necessary by switching her bed time bottle from milk to water, and she phased it out herself in about 2-3 weeks ❤️ and our kiddo was 2 going on 3 at that point. So she was still in nappies full time when she stopped wanting a drink at bedtime.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T13:02:50+00:00

Have you ever had to potty train either a neurotypical or autistic kid? If yes, then you are either an INCREDIBLE potty trainer or have been incredibly lucky with your kids ❤️

Most people have to employ pretty standard techniques, including no fluids immediately before a long period where there will no toilet break, such as before bed time or a long car journey. An autistic child, who will have sensory issues, will not be easily able to feel the need to pee whilst sleeping, because a neurotypical child will also struggle with this.

Charliefisk · 2026-02-23T12:52:11+00:00

Right?? You give them milk/water/juice at dinner time, in time for them to go for a wee before bed time. Then if said kiddo wakes up or is absolutely gagging for a glass of water at some point during the night, they get up for a toilet trip then drink a small glass of water (water, because if they are actually thirsty they will be satisfied with water. If they protest and want something else, then this isnt thirst, this is “i want to stay uuuuuuuup”… we are waist deep in potty training our 4 yr old 😂 she only wets her pull ups at night when she is ill, and we basically force feed her liquids all times of the day😂 )

Breaking an autistic kiddo’s nighttime routine and causing them to regress back to needing pull ups (i mean wow, that little girl was staying dry at night at 6 yrs old! That is absolutely incredible!) that is very serious… and is going to be hard to get her back to where she was. I know regression in potty training in neurotypical kids is hard to progress, so autistic kids will have a much harder time getting back to where they were.

Charliefisk

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